I’m sixteen, a virgin, and I like this guy who is eighteen and plays in a band. I know I should be concentrating on my grades but I can’t get this boy out of my mind.
He is in grade 12 and I am in grade 11. I met him through a couple of friends of mine who were friends with him. I thought we had a “thing” going where I thought he liked me - but that thought slowly disintegrated.
I’m just too shy to go up to him and say “I’ve got a crush on you”. And even if I did tell him that I doubt that he’d feel the same way, or even have the desire to evolve a relationship. He has so many girls on myspace that like him, and not only that... they are the type of girls who have sex.
Why would he chose a virgin?
I contemplate all the time whether or not I should tell him that I like him, but then I look at the odds - and think, why bother?
I'll also let you know that I do homeschooling because I was bullied at my old school. I'm just thinking, is this just another kick in the guts?
2007-10-28 19:31:00 · 7 answers · asked by Raquel 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You are only 16.... once you get a bit older you will understand that "women" dont play games... It's not about "playing hard to get"... it's about "taking charge" and letting a man know what "you:" want.
Try it, maybe then you wont be at home "wondering" and beating yourself up over something you obviously are too afraid to tackle....
2007-10-28 19:54:29 · answer #1 · answered by ? 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I went through something similar when I was your age. Only he lived around the block from me. I would purposely pass his house every day wishing I could find a way to tell him how I felt. I knew that he probably would not have been interested because he had so many girls after him. I never told him, and boy was I glad that I did not.
Years later I met him. He turned out to be a real jerk. He had slept with half of the girls in school. When I finally got my chance to date him, that is all he wanted from me. When I refused, he tried to rape me. He took the scarf I had around my neck, and held me down by the throat. Fortunately a guy heard me scream, and pulled him off me. He started yelling and cursing me that I was a bit#h and I should have been grateful that he wanted to sleep with me, etc...
The point being, that some things are just not meant to be. A guy who has girls falling at his feet, may not be the right person for you at this time. You may end up losing your virginity to someone that would not appreciate you, all because you have this crush on him, and feel pressured.
Right now he is too young to appreciate you. His hormones are raging. Wait a few years and he may be ready for a nice girl to settle down with. By then you may have already found your "prince charming" anyway!!
Never feel less of a woman because you are a virgin. You still have something very special to give the right person. Don't waste it on someone that you will regret having sex with. It should be shared with someone that you care deeply for, and that cares deeply for you.
2007-10-29 02:52:21 · answer #2 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Anyone can respect a virgin more than a girl who is easy, and any girl who is active at such a young age probably has low self esteem and gives herself to feel wanted and loved. Plus he would be committing a crime since you are still considered a minor. Just focus on keeping your self respect and you will continue to hold the respect of those around you
2007-10-29 02:42:15 · answer #3 · answered by lizards 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, deary, that is the price all decent girls have to pay.
If he choses you, hell use .you...
Right now,he wants to have fun not be committed, so sorry,
Im facing the same problems but I wont compromise myself to earn a mans love, wait for it, the right guy will come along
Oh and crushes dont kill, youll get over it and find a steadier guy.
Too bad men only find decent girls useful when they want to marry that is after they have had fun. Its a sad reality!!!!
2007-10-29 02:41:25 · answer #4 · answered by cleo s 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
give it a go,just b'cause you're a virgin does'nt mean you're less attractive or anything,who's to say he likes these girls in return? maybe he does'nt. Talk to him,get to know him,see if he starts paying attention to you and talking to you more,tell him you like him when you feel more comfortable,or you could just ask him out somewhere,see what he says,if he says no then at least you gave it a shot,good luck.
2007-10-29 06:16:25 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Think about this: If you go out with him & have sex it could possibly result in his being arrested for statutory rape.
2007-10-29 02:44:27 · answer #6 · answered by Judith 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to him, bat your eyelashes and touch his face. Note his reactions and post them here, so we can give you a better answer.
2007-10-29 02:35:41 · answer #7 · answered by Level 7 is Best 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋