Do we too often mistake lust for love, especially when young?

Answer 1

Yes. So often, lust is mistaken for love. Take this very common statement "Let's make love". People so think that love and sex are identical. And since the passion is so strong one couldn't easily swerve away from it to have a clearer perspective of what he really feels.
His whole idea of love is mere overpowering passion:--The chase, the capture, and the conquer. He associates his longing to be with that person as a sign of intense love, but it's mere fantasy.
Lust is just a need fulfilled. Love is an ever growing relationship.

Answer 2

Yes. Without a doubt. However healthy love also has the lust intertwined within it. The difference is that love is much deeper. Lust burns out in the end and leaves a void that is hard to overlook. When we are young we do not take the time to break down everything that attracts us to the other. We act more on impulse. Its a learning experience. I think one of the killers of a good relationship is the destruction of the lust. I am going to sound sexist here but I cant help but point this out. I find that often the female in the relationship begins to fizzle out the lust part of love. Tends to look deeper into what is expected of a relationship that may be beyond reality, and because of this focus, looses the lust within herself. I cant tell you how many men say over and over again........... she just inst interested in that anymore. I try and try and she wants to talk. She wants to talk about problems, she wants to talk about finance, she wants to talk about what needs done and there isnt the time focused on enjoying each other on that level anymore. The male begins to loose some interest in that area, takes up his energy on other things like hobbies etc, this in turn leads to the female getting frustrated at the male and the problem compounds itself into a distance that becomes harder to overcome. My suggestion to people out there is to take time to enjoy the lust as well. It is an important part of a relationship.
Actually a study conducted by a female psychologist focusing on the present divorce rate unexpectedly to the researcher found that females find that their expectations of what a relationship should be or what it should provide were often beyond what is normally achieveable. This in turn, ended up yeilding a low number of female divorcees remarrying as opposed to males. I found that interesting. She found that females today find the lack of those expectations to make them feel more likely to end the relationship and that it was a large cause for the rise in infidelity within the female group. So when you look at that situaiton in terms of what I mentioned with the lust part of a relationship the two tend to connect.

Answer 3

If, when you say love, you're referring to the same thing that I am, then I can give an answer, although many people use that word to describe things that I don't actually consider love, such as physical attraction and respect. What I call love is the true recognition and connection with another being. That feeling is wonderful. It feels like peace, like bliss. When you're loving something or someone you feel safe and unafraid. People can fake love, if they're being manipulative, but I don't think that would feel like anything, except maybe pride.

Answer 4

Yes. More often when we are young. I think a good majority of the peope who post in this area do. There are so many questions that start off with "I really love this girl..." but when you read on, you realize that the person who posted it couldn't be more than twelve or thirteen.

Answer 5

Well, I'm sure lust and love can be mistaken but when you lust for someone that's only a physical feeling...usually not emotional at all.

Answer 6

Absolutely

Answer 7

I believe we do most of the times. Most of the time men wanna go out with a beautiful women mainly because of their beauty. I mean consider those magazines these days. Bet you 20 dollars men arent looking in them because they love a women. Same goes for women as well at times. Although certain men and women believe in love at first sight and I believe such things as wanting to just be with your girlfriend or boyfriend is actually love is true.

Answer 8

Lust is when you see someone who catches your eye, but with no intention of falling in Love with that Person. Plain and simple Sex. But when you meet someone that you feel you want to be a part of his/her Life forever, that is Love.

Answer 9

All the time. It's crazy how many people I know who use the word "love" when they just think someone is hot.

A lot of my female friends seem to think their bfs want to be with them forever and think they're in love, when the guys just see it as a thing to do.

Answer 10

absolutely! It took me 27 years to finally fall in love. Now that I'm 100% in love I wonder how I could have ever thought I was before! I consider myself so very lucky to have finally learned what love is.