well me and my gf have been together for 10 months now, and for the past month it seems as if she wants to get mad at me, we r in love, and for some reason it just seems as if she is trying to push away from me slowly, and i dont think she loves me as she used to, y is she acting like this...
an example of how she is acting is when i was extremely tired i didnt sleep very good, and she tells me hug me like u love me, so i hug her kinda lazily and she goes, " god u could at least pretend u love me" and she gets mad, i think she needs some help...
2007-10-28 18:58:51 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If someone feels that they are loosing interest in a relationship they create what is called a psudo dilema. In other words they feel uncomfortable about ending the relationship in a way that they will feel guilty. Therefore they create the dilema. Many of them. They show anger about things that may not have been an issue before. They have the need to point out flaws in you and your behavior to justify the severing on the relationship. Their mood swings will be up and down. The dilema makes it easier to show a reason for creating a distance from the other. It is to ease the guilt behind the leaving so to speak. Females do this ALOT. I am not being sexist. I am saying that it is a way that they handle the problem of not wanting to directly hurt someone. I am not saying that this is happening to you. It may just be the leveling out of the intial romantic part of a relationship. Understand that relationships are hard. Next time you feel tired give her a big hug anyway. There is a chance that she may feel just as uneasy about how you feel as you are of how she feels. She may have just been looking for reassurance. Keep that in mind. Good luck. Relationships are definately something that require good maintanence.
2007-10-28 19:08:34 · answer #1 · answered by Kerrick C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes distance makes the heart grow fonder. In other words, it sounds like she's becoming a little to clingy maybe you guys should just take a break from each other for awhile.
In true love, your not supposed to have to work that hard and obviously it sounds like you all are getting on each other's nerves.
2007-10-29 02:04:17 · answer #2 · answered by Gabfest 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's reaching out to you. She just needs a little more attention for some reason. A little reassurance.
Buy her a cute stuffed animal, take her out to dinner and then to a movie or something. Hold her hand often, open her doors, etc. Show her that you love her THAT much. She'll snap out of it and she'll be reassured.
Plus the sex that night will be worth it. ;)
2007-10-29 02:04:13 · answer #3 · answered by hopelessmagic 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your gf is very wanting. You therefore, hug her to her satisfaction or even use some other means that she gets satisfaction.
2007-10-29 02:04:50 · answer #4 · answered by driverleo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You two are incompatible. Move on. There are millions of fish in the sea, and many won't be angry at you.
2007-10-29 02:02:24 · answer #5 · answered by Level 7 is Best 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you need to put more effort into showing her affection.
2007-10-29 02:01:50 · answer #6 · answered by janicajayne 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
youre not giving her enough affection or interest if she has to ask you for it.
2007-10-29 02:10:26 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
have you tried talking to her, dude? maybe to see what's wrong.
2007-10-29 02:05:56 · answer #8 · answered by GaW 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why does she get angry at me.
2007-10-29 02:04:23 · answer #9 · answered by yeahright 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋