Should I let my girlfriend go?

Question

I have been with my girlfriend for 5 months now and I am debating whether or not I should let her go. We do spend time together every other day (sometimes)...but the times that we don't see each other..we don't communicate over the phone or e-mail. It is strange because the only times we do talk over the phone is when we are about to see each other. I am the type of guy that needs to be shown affection and attention at all times in a relationship...but she gives me a lot of space when we don't see each other. People see this as a negative thing...but that is who I am. You see..I haven't seen her in 15 hours..and I miss her already. So my question...should I let my girlfriend go?

Answer 1

You don't need to let her go. You simply have a preference for a stronger attachment style than most of the rest of the population, and there's nothing wrong with that.

Simply realize that (as numerous other posters have mentioned), you need to communicate your preferences, and both of you need to work to find a happy compromise that fulfills both your needs. Also remember that few relationships are perfect, and there will always be some areas of disagreement with any girlfriend you have. If that's your only problem, you are still a very lucky man. If there are other things wrong in the relationship, you just have to weigh whether the aggravations are worth enduring for the sake of the good times. If not, then it's time to move on.

Answer 2

My best friend and her boy friend were like that when they first started going out. Sometimes, they wouldnt see or talk to each other for days. They'd be like "dude, i havent seen or talked ____ for literally like... a week!!". I guess it's different for all couples. If that is how you guys are, then let it be. Don't let people tell you that its a negative thing because my best friend and her boyfriend are A LOT closer now than they were before. They hang out with each other's families while they're away and all sorts of stuff (might sound scary to you, but it's what happens after years past). Thing is... spending TOO much time with a person can have its downfalls. Too much time with your significant other can create boredum thus leading "new" things/activities. Its like you dont have enough of them. I've gotten to the point where i'm living with my significant other because initially talking over the phone wasnt enough, seeing each other wasnt enough, hanging out with each other wasnt enough, not living with him wasnt enough... and so on. Not that i regret it, but im 19 right now, and it would be better to take it slow. 5 months and at the pace youre at, its normal and good. If this routine of yours is hurting either of you guys, you should talk about it with each other. Worst case scenario is letting her go. Just remember that there's more fish in the sea and there's so much more in life and love ahead of you (: Sorry for too much talk. Hope this helped!

Answer 3

I think U are still young rite?Please give some freedom to both of U. The possiblity U can be with her for the rest of your life is...1%. So wake up!!! I know U are in the midst of love that need a lot of affection & attention. Have U discuss with her? Give & take...understanding & discussing make your relationship easier. To let U less focusing on her, try to make yourself busy with other things & don't left out your friends. They will comfort U more. If she can't meet your expectations even she has tried, then let yourself a chance to have better relationship. U are still young !!!Make this opportunity to meet more female friends to facilitate U to know what type of girlfriend that U want in future. Good luck!

Answer 4

First of all, have you tried talkin got her about these thoughts? Every couple is different, as every person is different. My fiance needs more affection than I do. He expressed that to me and I try my best to meet that need for him. It is not that I bend over backwards, but I gladly do it because I love him and want him to be happy.
If you are debating letting her go over this, she doesn't sound like the girl for you anyway. If you don't want to put forth the effort to try and work it out together then it may not be meant to be. If you are really into her and care for her, then trying to communicate and work it out would be your best bet. (which it sounds like you do) If not, then you should move on.

Answer 5

I would let her go. It seems to me that what you have is a good friend and not a girlfriend.

Judging from your response, letting her go and just being friends should be easy. You don't talk unless planning a date and then the communication after the date dries up. That's a friendship.

Answer 6

it sounds like you need to tell her how you feel and see if she feels the same ,but 15 hours relay isn't that long of a time it sounds like you are a little possive,and that might be a turn off not all people like that people need their space even if their in a relationship

Answer 7

Perhaps you should tell her you need more affection. If she still doesn't give you what you need then you should look for someone who can. Are you feeling a bit insecure because you feel you're in to this more than she is? Just talk to her.

Answer 8

My ex-boyfriend did that to me all the time too. For two and a half years in a long distance relationship. And then he dumped me. If she can't give you what you need then seek elsewhere before you waste as much of your time as I did.

Answer 9

if you are not happy, and things are not going the way you wish they were going (after talking about it and trying to change it) then yes let her go. why stay in a relationship where you don't like what is going on?

Answer 10

Have you talked to her about it? If you have and you get no result .. LEAVE because she isn't going to change because you want her to... she will only change if she wants to. If you havent talked to her... talk to her about it first. Give her another chance... then if no improvement leave. Hope this helps :)