GUYS ONLY ANSWER! How do i know what we are exactly? we've been hooking up- how do i know if this is exclusive

Question

ive hooked up wit this guy 3 times already and im really not sure what we are exactly. its me and my best friend hooking up with him and his best friend. they go to dif schools, but we go visit them and go to parties with them like every weekend. we are all 4 so busy during the week that we usually don't talk to each other. but when we go to parties together we act like were just wit each other and then we later hook up(never any sex tho). i like this guy, but im not sure how he feels about me... how can i tell without directly asking him? im also curious if what we are is considered 'exclusive hook ups' in other words, which is implied we are just hooking up wit each other and no one else?? how can i tell if hes hooking up wit other girls? or if im allowed to hook up with other guys? how can i figure this all out without asking him directly (im worried if i do that, esp this early on, he'll get scared away)..??

Answer 1

First of all, there is no such thing as too busy. If a guy gives you that line (sorry I haven't called, I've been too busy) what he's really saying is, "You're not a priority." The only time the too busy statement might apply is when he calls you later on in the same day to explain why he couldn't call earlier. Think about it. If you were the one expected to call, would you be too busy? In the time it takes to make a sandwich, you can pick up the phone and say "Hey, I haven't dropped off the face of the earth", and I have no doubt that you would make the time. So why isn't he? Too early on to figure out if this is exclusive if this is the same guy you've asked about in your previous questions. Honestly though, I would say that there is no commitment based on the way things have gone so far. First see if you can get him to CALL you once in awhile! Then see if you guys can go on an actual date, not just hook up. One thing I will say is that when you're in a real relationship, there's usually no guessing involved. Good luck with this and I hope you're able to make things work out. It definitely sounds like you really like this guy!!

Answer 2

You said guys only but I don't really care...
The ONLY way you can find out FOR SURE the boundaries of your relationship is to talk to HIM about it. If you can't directly ask him what's going on, then you have to assume that it is non-exclusive, and that he's "hooking up" with other girls behind your back (especially since you don't even speak during the week) and since you haven't had "the talk" and because you haven't had the guts to have "the talk" you really can't be mad about it if he is.
So what you need to do is ask him what it is that you two are doing and be honest with him if it isn't what you want to be doing. If he says it is non-exclusive and you don't like that, say something or consider breaking it off. You don't need to hurt yourself in the long run if you don't like things now.

Answer 3

If you can't talk to him, why do you want to be with him? You either ask him, or you just wait until you run into him out on a date with another girl. Your choice.

Answer 4

The litmus test is asking him to hang out with you alone. If he enthusiastically accepts, it can be exclusive. If he hesitantly accepts or denies, he is simply horny. Good luck!

Answer 5

ok so ur asking how to tell if he likes you?:

well does he act differnt around you?
cuss less?
talk dirty less?
nicer to you?
sometimes ignore u around his freinds?
etc?
well idk this is how it works in middle shcool so