2007-10-28 18:14:41 · 22 answers · asked by dreamer 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
From my expeience since you are living together it would be customary for you to since you are living in what would not be considered a "traditional" relationship since you are living together.
However.... If you wanted to breach the subject I would bring up a united conversation between the two of you and each set of partents and ask the following question: "What if anything would you help us with for our wedding" or "we know what traditionally people would expect financially from the parents in a wedding as far as ceremony costs, however we wanted to know what if anything you were expecting as far as parents" If they say nothing tell them it is cool with you we just wanted to breach the subject and make sure we cleared the air and didnt step on any toes.
For you wedding anyway you might want to pay for your own that way you can make any decision you want and no one can stop you guys!
Good luck and congrats!
2007-10-28 18:29:41 · answer #1 · answered by Jason M 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It really depends. The Wedding can be a gift. There are no right or wrong answers. Traditionally the Brides parents have paid for the reception while the Groom pays for the Paster and the church. I would say start a budget and go from there.
I would caution the bride and groom to be though. Do not let the wedding take over your lives. It is one day only. do not spends thousands of dollars for a one day event. Make the ceremony beautiful have a great party. There is no need to go into debt for it. The most important thing is to get married and be with your nearest and dearest. Not to mimmick the shows you see on tv.
2007-10-29 13:17:23 · answer #2 · answered by Raegan M 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It's 2007! In today's world the BRIDE AND GROOM PAY. It doesn't matter if they live together or not! If one or both of the families offer money, fine. If not, fine also. Do not listen to others that say the bride's family pays for "this" and the groom's family pays for "that." So many parents are now single parents. The "traditional" rules were from the 1950s! Again, it's 2007, so things have changed...the bride and groom pay for their own wedding and reception.
2007-10-29 11:05:46 · answer #3 · answered by iloveweddings 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I moved in with my partner after becoming engaged, and we're paying for our own wedding. Even if the bride and groom do not live together, it is becoming more and more common for the couple to cover most or all of their own wedding expenses. This is largely because people are getting married a little older now than in the past, so they tend to have jobs and savings.
My mom decided to surprise me by paying for my dress and veil (about $400, combined), and my fiance's family surprised us by taking care of the photographer. Other than that, we're covering all expenses ourselves.
2007-10-29 12:21:14 · answer #4 · answered by SE 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
traditionally it was the parents of the bride who payed for the wedding, like it was the girls dowry. These days however things are different. If you are living together already most of the expense will most likely be yours, however both the brides and grooms parents may (hopefully) offer to contribute.
2007-10-29 03:25:29 · answer #5 · answered by katie 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If the bride and groom are already living together, they should pay. I don't even consider it a real wedding if they're already living together. (What changes for them?) I think it's just a selfish ploy for presents and praise. And not wanting to pay goes along with that. Granted, their friends and families can do whatever they want as it's a free country.
2007-10-30 16:14:27 · answer #6 · answered by mguardian_north 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Normally the brides family pays for everything but we are in the year 2007 ... Both my husband and I paid for our own wedding which ended up being the best because we called the shots and no one told us what to do on our special day. Good luck !
2007-10-29 02:31:58 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
pay = say so if you want final say on everything you pay Other than that, it's a decision you, your fiance and all the parents involved have to make. Tradition dictates that the bride's family pays. However, tradition also dictates that bride and groom don't live together first ;-)
2007-10-29 01:27:17 · answer #8 · answered by Vince 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
The bride and groom do of course, which is what we are doing, except for my mother has offered to pay for the cake.
2007-10-29 17:43:07 · answer #9 · answered by bluegirl6 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No matter what, tradition says that the brides family pays for the wedding and the grooms family plans and pays for the rehearsal dinner. I live with my fiance and my parents are still paying for my wedding.
2007-10-29 09:14:38 · answer #10 · answered by bella_babe_86 3 · 0⤊ 4⤋