Can you give an example?
2007-10-28 17:17:01 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
I want to punch people like that.
2007-10-28 17:33:35 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Of course, however it is all up to the attitude of the person they are affecting. Some things people speculate about excessive kindness:
It's fake.
The person has an ulterior motive.
The person is infatuated with you.
The person doesn't respect boundaries.
The person has a false sense of reality.
These and many other reasons would cause a person to be annoyed. You can never judge how someone will react to you and in general it is always best to be true to yourself and accept the reactions you get from people. There's no reason to change because there will always be someone who doesn't like something you are doing.
2007-10-28 18:05:50 · answer #2 · answered by Ryan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i am a geuninly nice person, i typically think of other before myself, i usually have no money but when i do, i usually offer things, food, drinks to the people im with, when I buy them for myself. I often help friends at school do long and boring homework assignments, i have no problem helping blind and elderly people across busy streets and it definatly doesn't embarrass me, ive voluntered in soup-kitchens, at the VA and local nursing homes.
i do infact have an ulterior motive! im trying to make the place i live, where my kids will live, a better place, cause the way i see it, people dont know how to treat each other, and its not getting any better.
YES people get annoyed with me all the time. does it bother me? heck no people get annoyed with some pretty petty rediculous sh*t in my opinion... the honest truth is most people act like jerks, most of the time. still havent figured out why yet. and thats fine, i honesly understand how trying to make me feel bad about being nice, makes them feel better about not... yes i wish things were different, thats why im telling you about my reason for being annoyingly nice.
2007-10-28 18:13:54 · answer #3 · answered by AlCapone 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
An interesting question. Back in 1973 I spent a summer working in Antarctica. Almost everybody was pleasant because they screen you to make sure that you can get on with others in a small and sometimes stressful community. Almost everybody was more highly skilled than me. I was just a labourer. I had an inferiority complex, but in spite of that I enjoyed the experience. Now I live near a small town in NZ full of idiots, bigots, gossips and inbreeds, who are mostly so inferior to me that I have a high self-esteem. I enjoy life now even more than I enjoyed my time on the Ice.
2007-10-28 19:15:58 · answer #4 · answered by zee_prime 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think that it is definitely possible.I say that because sometimes people are not being genuine and they are not really that way. I knew a couple of guys, they were actually brothers, and they had what I call good guy syndrome. They were nice guys but they over exaggerated it and did unnecessary things. I think that it was because they liked the way that it make them look.People want to be perceived one way when that usually is not the case at all.
2007-10-28 17:41:09 · answer #5 · answered by KID DESTINY 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh God, yes. A cousin of mine drove me nuts, couldn't stand her, such a phony and after my Mom passed away I found out how phony she really was...hopefully I won't ever have to see her again. She was so sweet and so on and on about the family and getting together and every time we saw her we'd have to sit and listen to her various ailments and this was usually at a restaurant...just so self centered and self serving and her husband who is really nice worships her. Unreal.
2007-10-28 17:38:19 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes I get irritated at people who are too too too nice because it is extremely irking to think that somebody is happy and nice all the time (perfection is threatening to everybody, not just you)
An example...hmm...one time I got into a fender bender and the other driver was so calm and cool with it that I just wanted to scream "NO! It isn't OKAY because now both of our cars have scratches on them and this is stressful!" but I didn't.
I guess sometimes you just need to accept that somebody is just a genuinely nice person and count your good graces.
2007-10-28 17:29:45 · answer #7 · answered by Grossed out in Georgia 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not really. I try not to take that sort of stuff on board too much.
Sometimes people seem a little insincere if they are overly nice, and I guess it's easy to make a judgement and say they ARE being insincere, but really, how can we know?
Maybe they just feel they need to be extra nice for some reason.
Cheers :-)
2007-10-28 18:14:33 · answer #8 · answered by thing55000 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes, everyone has a bit of a dark side so what is theirs and why are they hiding it? i am mostly a nice person but i feel as though nobody is perfect so if i get a bit of attitude once in a while it is usually justified. i just make sure the attitude is directed to the person that pissed me off. have a good day!
2007-10-29 03:09:04 · answer #9 · answered by punkbun03 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can understand that some people are not use to be treated nicely ,because of their upbringings. It was instilled to me in my formative years to be nice to others, it make sense, treat others how you want to be treated .It is the same thing that nice people are annoyed of Not Nice attitude of others. Kind and polite is being Civil, or I should say classy acts. I enjoyed interacting with others that have positive attitude and sense of humor.
2007-10-28 22:10:41 · answer #10 · answered by Vannili 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Unforturnately YES - I wish I had an example to give you, it just happens - not that often - and it has been in the workplace for me.
If just a thing - I don't know how to explain it other than you know it when it is there.
2007-10-28 17:26:55 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋