nd if ive had alot of it dose this mean im definately going to hell surely god can c who is good nd who is bad wen we hav sex shouldnt com into it
2007-10-28 16:45:36 · 45 answers · asked by joeyjo123 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
EXCUSE ME bonstermonster20 i already hav a beautiful little two yr old boy am pregnant again hav a loving partner we r building a house together nd hav just left work for the remainder of my pregnancy wich i will return to asap after the new baby DO NOT tell me that i am not ready or emply that i am irrasponsible nd i shouldnt b having sex i was asking this question to find out y som people think that it is wrong for me to hav sex un married. oh how quick we r to assume!
2007-10-28 17:12:39 · update #1
premarital sex should NOT be wrong. It's one of the major things in a persons life. If your thinking of spending the rest of your life with someone then you should know if your compatable in all areas. Think about it - you look at a house, even have it fully inspected, before you buy it. You try on clothes before you buy them. You test drive a car. etc etc etc. It's one of the biggest decisions of your life and the church wants us to wait til AFTER we're married to have sex????? That's nuts. If they told us to buy a house sight unseen - most people would balk - but tell us not to sleep with the person we are thinking of spending the rest of our life with before we're married - well that's a sin? No wonder divorce rate is so high. JMHO - but it seems some peoples priorites are fairly out of whack.
Now if your talking about just going out and sleeping with anything on 2 legs - well that's a bit different. i don't believe God will send you to hell for that - but in this day and age that's just silly. Too many rmaifications that are just not worth it. But for marriage - i say - always test drive first!!!!!
2007-10-28 16:51:56 · answer #1 · answered by purple dove 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, personally, I think sex is the most personal thing you could give someone, so you shouldn't give it to a relationship that might not last. And even if you are being safe, nothing is 100% effective except controlling yourself, plus you could still catch a lot of sexual diseases with protection. I have quite a few friends who are only FRESHMAN and already have at least one kid even though they were "Safe". I even have one freshman friend who has a three-year-old daughter. Besides, when you ARE married, you won't have to be worried about how good you or your husband/wife is in bed if neither of you have anybody else to compare it to As for the extra-marital sex, the point of sex is to produce children, and in extra-marital sex, that is rarely the situation. If you live in a country where you can marry more than one person, I don't see a problem, but if you have to sneak behind your spouses back to have sex with another person, then that's a sign that something is wrong with that picture
2016-05-25 23:31:34 · answer #2 · answered by marietta 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not here to sit in judgment on anyone, or decide whether you're going to hell because of promiscuity. Neither am I going to condone or condemn your behavior. You have to deal with your own conscience. If you want an opinion, though, I'd say that premarital sex can be very risky, especially if you don't take precautions against an unwanted pregnancy or STD. These are real dangers to you physically, even if you don't give a fig about your reputation or self-respect.
2007-10-28 16:52:09 · answer #3 · answered by gldjns 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Premarital sex is not bad- not any worse than sex between to married people. However, if you are asking if what you are doing is right or wrong, you probably need to pull back from it and ask yourself why you're doing it and how you feel about premarital sex personally before you continue to engage in it. And, yes, the Gods do see who is good or bad despite a few slips in the opposite direction.
2007-10-28 16:50:14 · answer #4 · answered by Heather C 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
no one is ever "definitely" going to hell. that's God's decision, not ours. it's never to late to change. ever. sex is one of the greatest gifts God gave it and I think everyone should save it as a gift for their husband/wife once they are married. obviously, this is a little late for you. everyone makes bad choices, but now you have the opportunity to make a good one. you can keep carrying on how you are, or you can stop. yeah i know, easier said then done. God will accept you as a good person and bring you into his kingdom regardless of what you do, as long as you sincerely ask forgiveness. since he is being so generous and loving, it seems to me like the least you could do in return is try and live your life the way you know he would want you to. think about it.
2007-10-28 16:53:23 · answer #5 · answered by f0876and1_2 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I have more liberal views than most Christians.
I don't think premarital sex is wrong. But I believe it belongs only in loving, committed relationships. Sex complicates everything, and having a lot of sex, to me, is like self abuse. I know. I've been there. It's also risky (diseases, pregnancy, etc).
Sex is the most intimate thing a couple can do. I don't think it's something that should be taken lightly.
2007-10-28 16:49:24 · answer #6 · answered by Southern Gal 3 · 6⤊ 0⤋
Premarital sex is mostly a problem for THIS life, as opposed to spiritual consequenses.
Good or Bad is a moral definition, but the main question is.. will YOU regret it, someday? If not, party on. However, if there is risk of disease, pregnancy, or bad karma, think twice, or thrice. Some of that stuff will be with you THE REST OF YOUR LIFE!!
2007-10-28 17:01:01 · answer #7 · answered by Sarasota 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, it is a personal decision to wait till you're married. I personally waited for the right one to come along, and we got married. I feel that it is a sacred thing because you are dealing with the power of procreation. God wants us to understand that our bodies are like holy/sacred temples, and when the bond of marriage is performed, then in God's eyes it is pleasing.
The second part to your question about "going to hell"...I feel that you wouldn't...because he is a forgiving God. If you come to a point in your life where you are searching for answers to spiritual questions...ask God himself in prayer. I can give you my opinion, and anyone can, but does that make it truth? You have to search, ponder and pray about your questions. Look up James 1:5. What I understand from it is that God will not punish you for asking him questions, and he will give you an answer that is truth...but you have to ask him with an open mind (don't have a predetermined answer that you want to hear).
2007-10-28 17:08:39 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask this question to yourself in the mirror after you find out you got some tramp that you picked up in a bar pregnant ..& now you have an innocent 3rd party involved that didnt ask to be born - so now you have the choice of committing another sin "murder" of your own flesh and blood OR doing the "right-thing" and marrying this skank that you were too drunk to remember her name - so you can raise this unfortunate innocent 3rd party who didnt ask to be born - or born of two irresponsible people who hardly know each other ..let along bear to look each other in the face after a one night stand .. the point here is - moral delimmas happen - they are real - avoid them..
2007-10-28 16:53:00 · answer #9 · answered by thefatguythatpaysthebills 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey, I just keep out of people's business, that's up to them. Although...I do find it a bit sad these days that so many people get right to it after only knowing each other for a very short time. Nothing is sacred anymore...yeesh...at least maybe hold off until you know you really love them and can say so.
2007-10-28 16:59:21 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋