It just seems like nowadays, all of the guys usually go after the fun, loud, outgoing girls. For me, I'm a relatively shy girl. I'm laid-back, quiet, anxious, and just plain boring. I'm afraid that there's not going to be a guy who will have the paitience to be with a girl like me, when they can rather be with those other girls and have a good, fun time.
2007-10-28 16:34:25 · 22 answers · asked by gothicshoujo 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I feel the same way (only I am older than you!)
I am shy, kinda quiet, awkward and kinda boring.
What you need to do is force yourself out of your shell and let people see your good qualities that you are hiding behind the shyness!
If I was your age, I would pick you over the outgoing girls because we would make a good match.
What you need to do is find your male counterpart. I bet there is a boy just like you in your class! It will be hard because somebody has to make the first move but give it a try.
2007-10-28 16:40:02 · answer #1 · answered by Matt 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is just where you are looking and you have to figure out where the guys are that are also shy, laid back and quiet, whether in the library reading, perhaps bowling somewhere, or even just walking down the street somewhere. You will find the right person in time but in the meantime, you can work on your shyness - make new friends and if you are still in school look for the guy sitting by himself and not part of the noisy groups.
Just be who you are and when the time is right you will find someone but make sure that you don't get into a relationship with someone who thinks you are willing to do anything to be with him or part of agorup somewhere. Good Luck.
2007-10-28 16:44:25 · answer #2 · answered by Al B 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How about you try shy guys? And even if you are too shy to even do that, then try to have an outgoing friend of yours hook you up with someone. I totally know how you feel, I used to be shy. However, I found out that people still like you even if you are shy! They are just intimidated by you, they think they might not have a chance with you since you don't talk too much, and then they move onto something less threatening, something easier, something more accessible-the loud girl.
A smile, some eye contact, a wink, all this stuff can go a long way. Even just a hi. Since you are shy, if a guy notices that you are trying to talk to him, he'll think "Wow! The shy girl is talking to me! She might like me! I'm gonna go after her!".
If you can't do that, just do the friends thing. Have your friends plan a whole movie-night date thing with some group of guys, then have them try to get you and a guy together. Good luck!
2007-10-28 16:40:38 · answer #3 · answered by noname 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'd prefer a "boring girl" who had a good heart over a loud, fun ***** any day of the week.
The whole routine of finding girls who like to party gets mundane once you hit, say 30. By that point you evaluate what's important in life.
2007-10-28 16:37:11 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I can personally say yes, shy girls can get boyfriends. I am extremely shy and I have a wonderful boyfriend. Just remember that there is someone out there for you, and you will find them when the time is right.
2007-10-28 16:40:26 · answer #5 · answered by ..ash.. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the trouble with fun, loud, outgoing girls is that...that's the only part a guy will ever see. they don't get the soft sensitive side, because those girls are just like you, they feel that the only way to get a bf is to hide behind a mask. as cliche as it may sound, there are plenty of fish in the pond, enjoy your life as a single because it'll make a relationship all that more special :)
2007-10-28 16:39:57 · answer #6 · answered by CitCat 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Why be shy? try different things to show your positive qualities. you do not have to be loud or overly outgoing just to stand out. you can start first by making a few small changes and see what happens and then progressively make larger changes that help you stand out in a crowd. during your experiment in this do not devalue yourself by doing anything that compromises your beliefs and values.
2007-10-28 16:42:21 · answer #7 · answered by tony r 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To tell the truth I'm just like u
if your exactly like me u don't approach boys
i sit back and just look at the boyz i like
u will be surprised at the boyz that are as shy as u are and want to be your bf
take from another shy girl just wait ... the right boy will approach u so don't give up hope GOOD LUCK!!!!!!!!
2007-10-28 16:47:58 · answer #8 · answered by redprincess 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Some guys live for the hunt. I mean they like being challenged when it comes to dating, because it is more satisfying when the do get the girl. This kind of guy will be very patient and take his time to get to know you.
2007-10-28 16:50:14 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
a girl like you is a girl Im looking for. So I doubt Im the only guy like that. Hang in there, it's worth the wait.
2007-10-28 16:43:36 · answer #10 · answered by Jeff 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋