Christians, is masturbating a sin?

Question

I feel bad when I masturbate but im in my 30's alone and have nobody. Im too shy to meet any girl I don't even have friends.
If I don't masturbate after a few days I can't even focus because I am so aroused. Try to fight it but it's tempting to go online looking for porn and masturbating to it. Is this okay if Im single and if I want to be a Christian?

Answer 1

With 100% certainity I make this statement. If masturbating is a sin then God may as well sell heaven because there ain't nobody going to be checking in.

Answer 2

Technically, yes, because the purpose behind sex in Christian belief is to procreate, and when you masturbate, you're "spilling your seed." Also, pornography is not acceptable in Christianity because it degrades the human body (both man's and woman's). At the same time, Jesus forgave and defended all types of "sinners," and I believe (against most Christian doctrines) that He accepts everyone. His greatest message was love and acceptance--man made church doctrines have twisted that into something unrecognizable in most cases. Even if you remove the question of Jesus' divinity from the equation, He was righteous in that He taught a philosophy that regards all human beings as equals, regardless of their actions or station in life. He also gave many many specific examples of how to behave toward others to maintain a peaceful and loving society. Some people think that the bible story (sorry, don't know the scripture citation) where Jesus says "he who is without sin may cast the first stone" (and no one did) addresses this...it says that He wrote with a stick in the sand as He said it, and all the men slowly walked away (they'd brought an adulteress to Jesus, maintaining that she should be stoned to death for her sin). Some people think that He wrote something referring to male masturbation. The thing about pornography is that (in the Christian view) it objectifies the physical aspects of the person, which is a form of disrespect for God's creation--a human being-- which consists of both body and soul...it also makes you focus only on the physicality of your own body, disregarding your inner self, or soul, which is a form of self disrespect. If you belong to a church, try to join in some volunteer work or other activities so you can meet a nice woman and/or make some friends.

Answer 3

The real thing is always better, however, in many Christians eyes, masturbating is a sin. It is like a form of premarital sex without actually "doing it." If you want to be christian, perhaps you can get more involved in your church or some church and find people who have the Christan values you admire most. Many churches even have a singles ministry that helps Christians find other Christians to mingle and get involved with. Masturbating isn't the best thing to do, but being unfocused and frustrated isn't good either. Masturbating is better than unsafe sex.

Answer 4

It is a natural part of life, if it makes you feel good then do it.... It isn't a sin, no matter what others say, cause I can tell you, they are saying NO don't do it! But they are doing it behind closed doors...
You really need to look at yourself and ask why you don't have a female friend?... What can you do to change this, if this is what you are looking for, you could go to different sites. Date sites not porn, there is a christian site you could go to Yahoo Search and type in christian date helper.. That's what I did in looking it up for you :) And Don't jump into the sex topic straight away or you will chase them off... take it slow you can always go home and free your self after the date:) you could also try freeing yourself before the date that why little Freddy will not be popping up to say hi;)

Answer 5

Masturbating, absolutely, positively, is not a sin. Our Heavenly Father created us in His image and likeness and sent us here for us to prove our worthiness to return to Him someday. It is true that He has set the norms for our sexual conduct, for instance having sex before marriage or having sex with someone other that your spouse are strictly forbidden and are serious sins within the guidelines of the Christian faith. Though not ALL Christian faiths are as strict about sex before marriage. Also, keep in mind that these are Christian standards and you should not let it make you believe that everyone around you is a sinner if they don't follow these guidelines. If you want to follow Christian standards, great, just don't forget one of the most important ones, not judging others.

In reference to your masturbation. In your situation, you SHOULD be masturbating. God gave you sexual desires on purpose, not by accident. It is a righteous desire to want to experience sex with a woman. What is not a righteous desire is to view women as objects or to lust after a woman only for sexual desire with no emotional connection whatsoever. Just because you are not married or dating doesn't mean you shouldn't have those feelings. Of course you should.

I think you sould masturbate regularly, and you should enjoy a healthy fantasy while you do so. Porn has no magic evil power over you, but constant exposure to it or permanent association between sex and porn can turn your righteous desires and thoughts into ones that are distorted, unrighteous and not a part of man's life that is trying to live by Christian principles.

Answer 6

scripture says not to sin in thought word or deed.....So masturbation is a sin.....Another way to look at it is this....the times you are gratifying yourself your thoughts could be on praying that God will send you friends and the right girl....maybe this is being withheld because of what you are doing. Jesus said to pick up our cross and follow him...this cross can be very very heavy at times but what a reward and blessing when we carry it bravely and willingly.....
See you are viewing porn which is deadly to your spirit....It is lust and unclean in God's eyes.
Some say why be a Christian, no fun.....God has told us to abstain from sin for a good reason.......Read your bible and work in the church and mingle among the other young people.....Find a church that has lots of people your age.....Normally large churches do.....go to one that does lots of things together.....
Bible says to think on things that are lovely, and of good report and praise worthy....All pleasures are not of God....Masturbation could affect your personality in the way that you hold quilt because you are condemned over it and it will make you seem weird to others.....You may not feel innocent and pure and worthy......
Obedience to God is always rewarding......talk to the Lord about it and ask him to take this desire away. Strive for purity and holiness.

Answer 7

Morality: Does it harm anyone or help anyone, in what ways and how much? masturbation: harm: nobody help: yourself, reduces tension and prevents wet dreams, lowers risk of prostate cancer porn: harm: the people in it, but only when it is exploitative or voyeur. yourself/future partners, if you train yourself to have unreasonable expectations help: the people in it, when they are exhibitionists. yourself, repressing sexuality: harm: yourself, it is part of who you are. Putting yourself in a constant state of emotional turmoil. And it causes you to fixate on your sexuality, turning you from a sexual being into a sexual object. future partners, if you train yourself to feel ashamed of your sexuality it gets in the way of expressing that part of your relationship. help: a church that exploits your state of emotional turmoil by offering "forgiveness" for something that doesn't actually need forgiving Who wouldn't be harmed? An omnipotent, omniscient, all-loving creator. But if you don't like that answer this is what the Bible says: ejaculating is the same whether it's masturbation or a wet dream. It makes you ritually unclean and you have to wash yourself and your clothes (if you got any dirty) and wait outside camp until sunset. To put this in perspective, the same passage says women have to do the same thing when they menstruate, except they have to wait outside camp for a week and sacrifice a small bird before they can come back in. If you don't want to look at porn, then what you don't do is fixate on it like "oh, no it's a sin, I'm murdering baby Jesus, I promise never to look at it again." Because a promise like that is just setting yourself up to disapoint yourself and put you in an emotionally self-destructive cycle. Just stop looking at porn. Or at least non-exploitative porn. Try erotic stories instead, if you need something to prime your sexual fantasies. Or only go to venues that have "tamer" porn where there's zero chance of someone being exploited.

Answer 8

One popular school of thought is that masturbation may be considered a sin under Christian terms because it's wasting sperm, and therefore, wasting life. However, sperm only have a lifespan of several days, at most.

Nocturnal emissions (which many males encounter during the course of their life) is part of the way that our bodies naturally get rid of 'old' sperm. In my opinion, since our bodies are naturally going to do this process for us, it should not be considered sinful to masturbate as long as it is in a healthy and non-public way.

Answer 9

Yes, it is a sin, and just because others do it or others sin is not a license to continue to sin. James 4:7 and Philippians 4:13 may offer some encouragement to stopping. I would also advise finding a fellow Christian to talk to. Any type of encouragement helps when overcoming a sin.

Answer 10

Well...lust is a sin. And I think there is a verse about it in the Bible but I'm not educated in the Bible enough to know which one. I would try to look for someone, even online if you're shy!. I'm shy too and I met my current fiance online. We're getting married in two months. Just try your hardest not to do it if you feel it is wrong....but we are human. I bet you could find a girl if you tried :)