What does it mean when a 2 yr old likes to hit and kick others?

Question

Whether she's angry or you won't let her get her way?

She kicks her dad, her grandparents, and her aunt. and hits all of them too.

I don't have any kids. But I was wondering what this means and how one can put a stop to this? she's raised by her grandma because the dad is too lazy and the mom is out of the picture and her grandma just yells at her and spanks her. Is that why the two year old hits and kicks others?

There's no concern for child abuse

Answer 1

It's just being a mean kid. sometimes time-out or taking toys away works. We went to a point-and-reward system with our mean child that seems to work. set goals and get excited when they achieve them. people want to label children, and analyze them... they are just kids like all of us were at one time.

Answer 2

you can't really spank a child for hitting. what are you going to do spank them and tell them not to hit. that's setting a good example. Take out the spankings (obviously this does not work for this particular child) and try other forms of punishment ex. nose in the corner (works pretty effectively- only 2 minutes 1 minute for each year of age) take away toys and really do it don't threaten. The grandma might simply be getting too old or just have old ways of thinking, I think my grandmother is too harsh with my son sometimes but you know that's just her punishment style.

A lot of children hit, i think it is natural at this age. But it also maybe has a lot to do with wanting attention (so plenty of attention games and playing, taking her places) because of her absent parents. The grandma should also soften her tone because the kid will react to what she sees and hears. If she gets yelled at and whipped then she will yell and hit.

I don't know my son sometimes hits when he is mad, he has done this for a couple of years now, I have tried everything including spanking. I find time out with nose in the corner (no other way) works the best I also usually turn cartoons on (or play with his toys) while he is in the corner and talk loudly about how great they are (maybe mean but it makes him regret being in the corner and his behavior changes quickly) Also we have found that when he stopped getting whipped his instances of hitting or whipping has lowered extremely same goes for yelling. He thinks when he is punished everyone should be, so if we tell him to sit on the couch and don't even let his feet touch the rug. He'll say "oh touch your feet on the rug" and then when the adult gets up he thinks they need punished.
He still does not behave perfectly though but i guess it is a learning process for all of us.
Good Luck!!!

Answer 3

The problem is Grandma isn't in control! It's obvious she's overwhelmed trying to raise her granddaughter by herself. The fact is, the two year old is running the whole show, and she knows it. I'm guessing, that early on in her young life, she may have seen and experienced violence in the home. She needs some tough love from loving adults. She's confused, and is begging for someone with high expectations of her to show her how she should behave with good example and firm discipline. The rules imposed on her behaviour need to be fair and consistent. All of the adults have to have the same expectations of her.

Answer 4

She needs to not be with her Grandmother. This child is going to end up in jail some day if she keeps getting treated like that, or she will end up being abused by a boyfriend or husband because she will think it is normal. I would call CPS on their butt. Let the child be adopted by someone else that will take care of her.
To the two people that posted above me: This child is being abused. That does not make her a brat, it makes her a victim!

Yelling at a child and spanking for no reason IS ABUSE! It is emotional abuse to yell and scream at a child!

Answer 5

It sounds like a combination of the terrible twos and wanting attention. If the only time he gets attention is when he gets spanked or yelled at, then he will continue to do things to get that attention. There is nothing you can do, except maybe talk to the grandmother.

Is there any concern about child abuse though?

Answer 6

properly my 5 3 hundred and sixty 5 days old has no specil desires and he or she is likewise mean to her 2 3 hundred and sixty 5 days old sister. I eliminate her from the room and take her fave toy away. that's diverse for you yet you will possibly desire to attempt it....he might draw close that once he hits he's excluded. yet to be straightforward mine has not stopped...that's amazingly organic...ty to make particular they don't look to be on my own.

Answer 7

Kids will hit, kick, bite, etc. whether they are spanked or not.

Hitting and other physical harm is human nature. However, that doesn't make it right. She should still be corrected.

Answer 8

Often it's a sign of anger. She's learning it from her grandma.

Answer 9

It's terrible twos

Answer 10

well it seems she upset about thing and needs to learn to show it in a nicer way