I am the one that broke up with him. Not because I didn't like him anymore, but because he was hurting me. It kills me inside that he doesn't care about me anymore and that he doesn't call. He said he wants to be friends. I want to, too, damn it! I think about him everyday. I miss him everyday. I deleted him from my cell and I took him off my buddy list, but I can't keep myself from contacting him every few days, even when he is distant or is always like, "I'm sorry I was doing something" and thus, unable to respond.
I feel pathetic. How do I get over him???
2007-10-28 15:15:11 · 6 answers · asked by laconversacion 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He wants to visit, but I don't think I'm ready. GOD. All I want to do is see him, but it's taking so much inside of me right now to repel him. I told him it'd be hard, and what hurt was that he's okay with not seeing me if I'm not ready to be friends. If he comes over (he's long distance), he'll end up having to stay one night over. I don't think I'd do anything I'd regret, but what if I break down? How embarrasing. I'm a mess.
2007-10-28 15:18:27 · update #1
He didn't hurt me physically or verbally. It was just that we were long distance, and he didn't call me or show a vested interest in me when we were apart. I broke up with him once before because of this and told him I'd break up with him again if he didn't change. Well, he didn't change. If I was going to go for long periods of time without seeing him, he and our relationship just wasn't going to cut it. So I know I did the right thing. It just hurts because I still have feelings for him...
2007-10-28 18:10:19 · update #2
Well if he was hurting you, then remember the things he used to do to hurt you, do you really want to put yourself in that situation again?
Just like any addiction (like smoking lol), it takes time to get over. Just stay strong and have some self control and not call him.
Do things to get your mind off him. Hang out with friends or do family things, so that you're not bored and alone and end up calling him again. But if you both want to stay friends, then let him contact you instead of the other way around all the time.
Just preoccupy yourself, hang out with people, remember how he hurt you so that you don't keep wanting him but know that you deserve bettter.
2007-10-28 15:25:19 · answer #1 · answered by 1080 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You left out the answer to a key question: why did you end the relationship if you obviously still care about him.While you mention the point about him hurting you, then what makes you believe he is not going to continuing doing the same thing.If he was hurting you enough to break up a relationship where you still care for the guy, why do you want to remain his friend.His actions already seem to be a harbinger of things to come with all of his excuses.You describe your self as pathetic and in this case is an apt description.You semto be a masochist in all of these and you need to remove yourself from it You are his masochist to his sadism.and it is growing.Your choices are to walk away from everything and not look back.
2007-10-28 15:48:05 · answer #2 · answered by abbeycoolit 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't say how he was hurting you but if it was physical abuse you are lucky to have escaped him! The same holds true for emotional hurts but perhaps not as much. The bet way to get over him is to find new friends and remember that he never cared for you but was using you. Try a new hobby, new friends, and even try going to handwriting wizard and you will see things in his handwriting that will show you how much of a looser he is and how much better you are without him.
The busier you are, the easier it will be to get over him and the sooner you will find someone who really cares for you.
and you can use what you learn at handwriting wizard to make sure he is the right one this time. Good Luck, and stay strong!!
2007-10-28 15:30:30 · answer #3 · answered by Al B 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I just wanted to say that you are definitely not alone. I am going through the same thing. One thing you need to do is realize that you are not pathetic, it is only natural to want someone back that you have been so close to. I would recommend listening to Chris Daughtrys song "Over You". It's a great reminder that although it hurts, losing this person was the best for you because of all the hurt THEY caused you.
2007-10-28 15:22:22 · answer #4 · answered by blondiechickadee 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel the same way. But don't let him use you.
It is hard when your feelings are not returned.
Maybe you should go out and do your thing and meet new people. You may find someone who wants to hang out and be with you. Take that chance.
And ignore him and his contact.
He will see what he missed.
2007-10-28 15:22:02 · answer #5 · answered by baby_rost 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok if u really want to get over him just dont talk to him...
find a hobby to fill up time to get ur mind off of him...
like right now its hard because u probably just broke up but within like a few weeks u wont even think about him...
2007-10-28 15:22:55 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋