It's funny how everyone keeps on saying: Just be yourself and everything will turn out fine.
What if being yourself bores and alienates people?
What do you do then?
2007-10-28 15:13:32 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
find different people. You just need to find a group you fit in with. What are your interests? Seek out people who share them in a sports team, chess club, volunteer organization, church, or whatever. Then you'll have something in common from the start and that helps a lot. Look for someone else who is alone and looks bored or alienated - maybe that someone is looking for someone like you and you'll find each other entertaining. Most of my friends were rejected by the "popular" people and we ended up having a lot more fun than those snobs did.
2007-10-28 15:21:18 · answer #1 · answered by em T 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Now listen to yourself. Bores people? It just means that you affect others somehow. If they don't like it, fine. Don't let their opinions affect YOUR life or who you are. First, I don't think anyone's really "boring". I mean, I just think that some people haven't really found themselves. Try to find yourself... the true you. Make sure that it's really who you are and who you will be. Have confidence, work on communication skills(this is NOT changing yourself in any way except for improving some skills; it's still YOU), and just practice! If they still don't like you, fine. Go look. It's a whole world out there. Lots and lots of people will find you interesting. Besides, people who don't talk attract many people, mostly women in this case, because they're easy to talk to and are always ready to listen and help with their problems, I guess. In any case, good luck and have fun. Live your life the way you want to, not the way someone else tells you to.
2007-10-28 15:20:29 · answer #2 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not that being yourself isn't "good enough". It's just that you haven't found the right person yet. I know exactly how you feel. I spent years wondering if there was something wrong with me. But now I understand that I was just unwilling to pretend to fit in. So not as many people pretended to like me. As a result I have fewer friends than I might have, but they are all good friends.
2007-10-28 15:56:30 · answer #3 · answered by rohak1212 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being yourself should be good enough for you and don't worry about anyone else. It's called self respect. The only person you have to impress is yourself.
2007-10-28 15:19:52 · answer #4 · answered by MICHAEL Z 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, eventually you will find a person that either embraces or rebels against how you are, and this will attract them to you. You will learn much from them on how to become more outgoing and they will learn how to tone down a bit.
2007-10-28 15:17:33 · answer #5 · answered by jcameron1683 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Then you don't be yourself and act totally different but i can almost guarantee you ,that you won't like yourself then but hey whatever works right
2007-10-28 15:22:25 · answer #6 · answered by ♥tinkerbell♥princess♥nena♥ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well u shouldn't really change urself because someone doesn't like who u are..
if that person is mean to u because u are who u are, that person isn't really your friend..
i have always wondered about that question myself but i think u should just put urself out there and someone will come knocking on your door (not litterally).
hope it helps.
-Michelle ;D
2007-10-28 15:17:49 · answer #7 · answered by Mango(: 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if you want to be in a sertain crowd then try to act like them or just fiend new people to hang with
2007-10-28 15:17:58 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you cant change to impress someone,if thats who u are then thats who you are,I no someone thats really boring but I like her as a friend thats who she is,she also is engaged to a man just like her,but she found love still....stay who you are unless you dont like who you are.
2007-10-28 15:18:31 · answer #9 · answered by spacey_stacey 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋