today is my birthday, not a single friend or family member has even told me happy birthday.
This morning my boyfriend made bisquits for breakfast, tried a bisquits in bed thing but I had already been up for a few hours so it didnt quite work.
Anyways as the day goes on, we do nothing, nothing is said, pretty much we are having a day of nothing at home. He compliments me a bit more but it always leads to something sexual usually ending in him saying he's horny.
Anyways im upset since it seems no one cared, he asks me whats wrong, i tell him. He says after hes done with some stuff we'll go to dinner for my birthday.
I am not in love with food, it's just food to me not special or different eating out it just spending more money so you dont have to make it - it is NOTHING special to me. He knows this, i've told him a million times I dont like going to dinner for special occasions/holidays ect.
Anyways the fact that i told him i didnt want to go to dinner for my birthday comes up..
2007-10-28 15:06:04 · 6 answers · asked by attila 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He gets upset.
I tell him it feels like he was only doing it because I was upset, he said he planned it.
I say he never plans anything (which as far as our past goes he doesnt) and he gets mad and is now in the other room basically avoiding me.
2007-10-28 15:07:02 · update #1
Let me be the first to wish you a happy Birthday :)
2007-10-28 15:10:41 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you have a legitimate reason to be upset and angry.
Unfortunately there are a lot of people in the world to whom birthdays and birthday traditions mean not much at all, and you seem to be nested in amongst them.
I have been in the same situation myself, and the only real solution is to let the people around you know that when your birthday rolls around, you'd like to celebrate, and to also let them know what kind of celebrating you like, well ahead of time.
Can I assume that you enjoy celebrating other people's birthdays and special days, and go out of your way to make their day a good one? If your answer isn't a resounding yes, possibly you're expecting too much...
As for a planned dinner, or last-minute reluctance on your boyfriend's part, I can't say---in the best of all possible worlds, this could be a subterfuge for a surprise party with friends and family, at worst, simple neglect and thoughtlessness.
As I usually counsel, simple, straight communication will help sort things out. Discovering what it is both you and your boyfriend expect of each other may sometimes be awkward, but it can prevent further misunderstandings down the road.
I wish you well, in any event, and gladness from this Yahoo stranger on your birthday. The world is glad to have you here. Thank you for being the you that you are, and for any good wishes you give back to the world while you are here.
2007-10-28 15:27:29 · answer #2 · answered by Palmerpath 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he did plan it. Maybe he has a ring in his pocket. Who knows?
Don't make too much out of this, most men are ignorant to a woman's need on their birthday. Just wait and see if he buys you a nice little pressie or something. Whether or not you appreciated it, I find the idea that he cooked you biscuits for breakfast extremely romantic, and certainly indicates he had not forgotten you birthday. Maybe you are rushing into your accusations as it sounds like the day is not yet over.
If he is good to you as a rule, with the exception of making you feel special on your birthday special, and you don't think he is astute enough to realise how much it hurts you, then simply ignore his birthday when it comes round.
It is possible that his family never made much of birthdays and he is a product of his environment.
2007-10-28 15:17:23 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be the better person...go in and let him take you to dinner. Some people just don't have the nack for doing the birthday/christmas/valentines thing very well. (I got a left over wallet from my husband for xmas after he went out and bought himself a new video game system.) The trick is to give them guidelines and when that doesn't work out, do like my sister in law did and plan your own birthday party! Good luck! and HAPPY BIRTHDAY!!!!!!
2007-10-28 15:14:37 · answer #4 · answered by Florida Fun in the Sun 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you aren't in the wrong. It sounds like you need to upgrade boyfriends. Your birthday is the one day of the year when you are the princess. He should know and care about you enough to have a day planned that would please you or at least a thoughtful gift.
2007-10-28 15:11:14 · answer #5 · answered by Tin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well tell him that you feel abandon on your special day and you want some lovin.
2007-10-28 15:10:17 · answer #6 · answered by some dude 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋