usually in a relationship, there are moments when you don't feel as passionate as u used to feel at the beginning of the relationship. At first, u go crazy if u don't talk for two days, but then it's ok if u don't talk for a week or so... and I could keep going on with stuff like that. My question is: How do u make sure whether u still love her or not after like two years? 'Cause there are moments when u just can't be sure whether it's love or not. How can you figure it out?
2007-10-28 15:01:08 · 22 answers · asked by meee-vooo 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I don't think you'd be questioning it if it was true love. You just know. I have been in long relationships where I thought I was in Love and questioned it and finally I decided that if i questioned things that much I needed to end it and am so happy I did because I have found true love. Not that we have a perfect relationship or never fight but (actually we didn't fight until I got pregnant- now I'm a lot heavier and unhappy with myself, I just can't seem to lose the weight, and it makes me more upset), now we just fight about the kids they are crazy...
2007-10-28 15:15:09 · answer #1 · answered by littlemisscontroverse 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have to put them to the big test...keep asking if they love you and if they get annoyed, there is a good chance that they could be cheating on you. It always seems like it's stronger towards the beginning of the relationship becuase you are so happy that that person is now a part of you. As you move a long you come to find the differences between the two of you and it may cause your relationship to come to a break up or a pause in the usual things that you do together. Tell that person how you feel if you're feeling that they don't love you as much...
2007-10-28 15:07:11 · answer #2 · answered by Reach 4 The Stars 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because eventually there will come a moment where you know exactly how you feel about the person. If it's love then you want to spend the rest of your life with them, have a family with them and grow old and grey together.
I know I would go crazy if I didn't talk to my hubby for 2 days. Forget about a week.
If you have to question yourself on whether you love them or not, chances are you don't. At least not the kind of love where you're in love. You can love people on a platonic level.
2007-10-28 15:06:32 · answer #3 · answered by BeLLa 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Think about all the good times you have shared and then think about those moments when you argued or faught over something silly In general think about the times and moments you have shared in this two years, things you did together, places you have been etc. Then close your eyes and imagine if she was not to be in your life any more, would you miss her, can you survive without her? If your answer is NO then yes you still love her, but your sparks has died a little which can easily be fixed. However, if you think that you can live without her and wont miss her then you know you probably dont love her any more....
2007-10-28 15:08:29 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is a personal decision that has to be made.
Just remember the grass always looks greener on the other side. Is this a lack of love or excitement?
Tonight when you are going to sleep clear your mind of everything and look at your situation from 3 view points.
1) yours
2) step out of your shoes and see what your situation looks like from her viewpoint.
3) View both of you as a 3rd party
Is this something that you just want to walk away from or is there something missing that you can correct? Can you bring the excitement back? What efforts could you make to get back to where you want to be.. If you can do something to make the change and be happy then make the effort.
Regardless of your decision. If she was feeling the way that you feel would you want her to discuss it with you?
Good Luck.
CS ---
2007-10-28 15:08:59 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Psychologists may say it's not love at all in the first place, but rather dopamine(i think, or something of that sort?-_-), and that that would be the reason our feelings "wear out".
But in any event, I don't really know. You have to search within you for the answer. Like searching for who you are. It's not easy at all, and not everyone can find it within them. But you have to keep asking yourself questions and answering truthfully. Keep going and you will soon find the answer you're looking for. I hope. How it's gonna turn out, is all in you. I've become too tired and broken up for this kind of a question...
[don't get the idea that I'm 80 or something lol.. I'm really really young still xD]
Good luck.
2007-10-28 15:06:09 · answer #6 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Relationships evolve over time,, its never the same as it was in the beginning even if u wished it were,,
Think of how your life would be without her in it,, all the things she says and does for u and to u,, then ask your self ,very seriously,, could u live without her?,,if u say NO,,THEN YOU ARE FOR SURE STILL IN LOVE WITH HER.
try to keep things new and exciting by doing different things in and out of the bedroom,, talk to her about doing new things,, make it work,,if u think she is worth it.
2007-10-28 15:06:40 · answer #7 · answered by annie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I love someone, and in a year and a half it's always been hard for us not to talk for even just a day. I never doubt whether I love him or not because he is always on my mind and in my heart. It isn't like the first few months where it was pretty much just infatuation, this is real. It's solid and very comfortable. If you ever doubt that you love this person,you can stand not being around them for a long period of time, then your feelings have most likely faded.
2007-10-28 15:05:25 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Good Question.there must be lot of people in same situation. i think.. when u first fall in love , u must know its love. usually sometime we like some one and we think its love. to like some one or to love is two different thing. if u think after few year u don't feel the same, then i think its not a problem unless u fall in love with someone else. anyway after living together for a while u don't feel the love but only responsibility. if u want to figure it out how is it after two years, then listen to your heart. try to understand your feeling. and if u care about your partner about anything he or she does, then u are still in love. love doesn't mean to be with her all the time, love doesn't mean to have physical relation all the time. if u are happy with her then u are in good situation, don't care about love. happiness is above all. what is a aim of your life?? to be in love or to live happy.
2007-10-28 16:12:26 · answer #9 · answered by nick 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
love is a choice its not actually a feeling. if uv decided to love someone even if u lost the feeling and u still decide to love the person then its true love coz u never leave the person even if the feeling is gone. u still want the best for that person, u still care, u still support the person then its love. just know what u really want in a partner. the kind of characteristic that u can live with and decide to love that person if u happen to find the suitable one for you.
2007-10-28 15:08:38 · answer #10 · answered by aria 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋