Is a woman a waste if she does not want kids?

Question

You know those women who say "I dont/never want kids.." and then those are "I want kids sooo bad...." or "I wish I could have kids soooo bad..." well is a woman who does not DESIRE to bear children a waste? Think of all the women out there who would LOVE to have their own children but cannot for some health reason, or they just did not have the chance or means to do it. We women are Gods products in producing miracles; children. And for a woman to not want to utilize her female organs.... is it a waste??? Just think of all the women who would love to have children but cant.

Answer 1

I am a woman who has chosen never to have children. My reasons are my own.

On the other hand, I am a professional artist -- the children of my creativity will be out there for decades after I am dead.

To reduce any woman to a uterus and a babymaking machine is profoundly disrespectful.

Answer 2

Too bad for them.. aww so sad. Look at all the people who have kids but don't want them, plenty left over for those women who want kids but "can't" have them biologically. Personally it's not that I am "wasting" my reproductive capabilities, I am witholding them as any good parent should do... It is not a good world to bring children into at this time, not to mention the fact that I am unable to financially support such a responsibility, and furthermore why would I make more babies, when there aren't enough loving homes for the ones we already have? It's kinda like the problem with cats and dogs.. there are too many and not enough responsible people to care for them. I want to be responsible, so I shouldn't have kids at all, instead I'd rather take on the responsibility for one of these abandoned "products of God" and adopt a child who needs parents but doesn't have them... Just think of all those kids who would love to have families, but they can't because there are not enough homes.. everyone is already making their own kids.....

Answer 3

I wouldn't call anyone a waste because we all have things we can give and share with others. It is sad that those who shouldn't have children do and those who want them can't but that isn't for us to say one way or the other.

Unfortunately I never had children for a couple of reasons (plus I don't believe in sex/children outside of marriage) but I don't consider myself a waste. I was able to love cousins, nieces and nephews and showed love to many kids at church through the years and through the many painful trials and health issues I have had, I have been able to help and encourage others who sometimes wanted to give up.

Actually, I admire someone who says right out they don't want children and like one poster said, just hope they are honest with the one they love before they marry so they don't deprive someone else of having children if they want them. If a person doesn't want children, they probably wouldn't be a good mother so why put children through that feeling of rejection by their own mother?

I think rather than look at someone as a waste it would be better to see what they do to contribute to society and even encourage them to help others if and when they can. We all contribute in different ways but just because a woman Can have children, it doesn't mean she should, anymore than a man should have children if he is self-centered and abusive and won't provide for his family.

Too many children are suffering at the hands of parents who don't know self-sacrifice and true love for one of their own. Children don't deserve that kind of life so more power to those who say no and stick with it.

Answer 4

If you want to spend your life being a baby factory more power to you. But some women have more aspirations than that.

I have no problem with women who want to have kids. But the way I look at it, we have almost 7 billion people on the planet. My choice not to reproduce isn't going to make a lot of difference. And frankly I think women should only have kids if they truly, truly want them, not because society (and by that, I mean people like YOU) pressures them to do so. If I truly have no worth as a woman in the eyes of you and others like you just because I have no desire to squeeze a screaming brat out from between my loins, then scr*w you all. I feel sorry for you, I truly do.

Answer 5

My spouse and I decided not to have children. Let me tell you, it was the best decision we ever made. Most people our age are saddled with grandchildren (some are even having to raise their own grandchildren because the "parents" just can't be bothered), but not us. Our lives are free, fun, and meaningful. People who make the conscious decision not to have children have generally thought it over very heavily, and there's something to be said for individuals of any gender who give the subject some actual thought, rather than just breeding indiscriminately.

Answer 6

No, it is not a waste to not want children. There are women in this world that should not have children because they are bad mothers.

I think that is better to recognize that motherhood is not something that you want to do before you begin having sex.

For those women who are easily impregnated but don't want the children, I think that adoption is a better choice so that those women who do want children but are unable to have them might have an opportunity to be loving mothers.

Answer 7

Think about all the women who don't want kids & are ridiculed or even fired (YES, FIRED FROM THEIR JOBS) for not "using what god gave them"!
Sad, sad, sad person to try this ploy on the internet!
I use what I have for the best, regardless of any responsibility to some imagined god who supposedly made me this way for a reason!
He gave me free will, so how could he be disappointed! Dingleberry.

Answer 8

Nope... No one should have a child simply because they biologically can.. There is far more to having and raising a child properly than simple biological ability to reproduce..

While it is sad that some women are unable to have children that does not mean those who don't want them should reproduce simply because they are able...

Addition: LOL 8 track you sound like my uncle.. He always wonders why anyone would want a creature that leaks from every orifice and will eventually want you to buy a car and pay for college for it..

He loves kids as long as they belong to someone else and he can spoil them on his terms and send them home... He spoils my kids rotten and sends them home when he is done playing... LOL

Answer 9

I'm a man, I have no kids, nor do I want them. I have actually been chastised because I never married nor had kids!

This is my choice. I like to think there is more to life than a family; and being more of the solitary type, I don't think I would make a good parent anyway. I think the whole thing speaks volumes of negativity to think God put us here to create more of us.

Answer 10

Having kids is an OPTION for most women (those who are ABLE to have children), but by no means an OBLIGATION. To assume that a woman's "purpose" is having children is disgusting and demeaning...but, coming from someone whose name is "I want to be loved", I am not surprised that your lack of respect extends beyond your own person and to women in general. You have my sympathy...