I know he's into me because he calls me a lot just to talk and he likes snuggling and stuff, but he NEVER asks me to spend time with him, I always have to initiate dates and such. I'm his first girlfriend and he's a little shy, but we've been dating since May, so I don't think him being too nervous is the issue.
Is there any way I can get him to ask me out more often without talking about it directly? (I don't want him to feel obligated)
And if talking about it directly is the only way, how should I go about it?
2007-10-28 14:05:57 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
The one time I suggested he plan a date we just spent the day at his house...it was nice because we had some time alone, but I'd like for him to try to be a little more creative as well.
(my friend is dating his brother and she says she has the same problem...lol)
2007-10-28 14:10:08 · update #1
I would just casually tell him it would make you feel special if he were to invite you out sometimes when he feels like it or you could just wait until he does. If he does not know what you want you can't really blame him for not doing it. You could tell him you really enjoy spending time with him and simulataneously quit initiating dates yourself, then either you would not have dates or he would start initiating them. Since you are his first girlfriend, he is more than likely not sure what to do. I would recommend that you just tell him what he should do in a casual fashion. That is the only way he is going to learn.
2007-10-28 14:11:41 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, i would suggest going directly to the problem rather than beating around the bush. Brass tax is much easier to handle than sugar coated stories. My suggestion is to ask him why he never takes you anywhere on his own. be straight forward and honest. Act puzzled and confused about the issue. Maybe there is an underlying reason for the problem. If there is, do whatever is needed to comfort him. (Secret: To get people to open up to you, you must open up to them.)
2007-10-28 21:14:05 · answer #2 · answered by iamjustbored10 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I suggest you talk to him about it, and tell him what your needs are. All relationships need those honest heart-to-heart talks to stay fresh and helpful, we still do them after 20 years of being together.
2007-10-28 21:08:33 · answer #3 · answered by Steve C 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He needs to know what you're feeling. Ask him what's up. Don't assume that he's shy. If he never has to ask, why would he start?
2007-10-28 21:11:02 · answer #4 · answered by iluvchandler_bing 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Agree with mirage
2007-10-28 21:09:59 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your gonna have to say....hey we should spend more time together.
2007-10-28 21:08:26 · answer #6 · answered by florida 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋