Ok I have been friends with this guy for 2 years. I'm 21, and hes 19. We both realize we have feelings for each other but I knew he'd be going to school 4 hours away this year and didnt want him to worry about a g/f. He came back on break and he told me he still feels the same. I guess im scared bc I have been hurt really bad in the past but what everyone keeps telling me is the best relationships start as a friendship. Do i take the chance and is the age difference too much?
2007-10-28 13:58:18 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He is amazing but i fear if it doesnt work out we lose the friendship
2007-10-28 13:59:46 · update #1
you have to follow your heart take a risk thats what life is all about.
and if yall are truely good friends than you can remain that way if yall break up. remember you only live once! live it to the fullest and try to follow your heart!
shoot go for it the age is only 2 years difference
best of luck to you!
2007-10-28 14:04:30 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perfect. This is perfect.
The age difference is good. It can be an advantage.
I know how you feel about getting hurt through relationships. Its tough. It hurts. Good news: every guy is different. Every guy is D-i-f-f-e-r-e-n-t.
Do you both love each other? I am talking about love, the strong love, that is dying out. The love that takes the strong in heart, and the pure in mind, to achieve. This is no ordinary love. This is perfect love, strong love, pure love. If you both have this "LOVE" for each other, then i got one advice:
DIVE.
Dive into it. Embrace in it. Love. True love will overcome the age difference. True love will heal the wound of broken relationships. True Love conquers everything. If your guy truly loves you, then he will stay just as committed as you because he loves you.
This is love for the strong in heart, and the pure in mind. Not everyone can handle it. Many have failed. Only a few have acheived it. Its still your choice. If I were you, I would sit down and get everything out on the table. If everything is perfect, and the timing is just about right, DIVE. Go deep.
Remember: Love is a choice; its a choice to love, and a choice to be loved. Perfect love has no fear.
Think. Think. Think. Think. Dive.
2007-10-28 14:10:24 · answer #2 · answered by Kyle 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
as you say, the best relationships start off as very good friendships, honestly if you are worried about the age difference you seriously need to re-evaluate yourself and your way of thinking.. there is many people out there married, together, getting to know each other that are of a bigger age difference than you and this guy, they are fine, they are good, most importantly they are happy, and yes distance is an obstacle but if you like him and he likes you it wont be a problem.. talk from experience. Therefore, if you dont risk it, you will never know it... yes the past relationships have been tough, judging based on past situations would not be fair to him and even more importantly, to yourself.
2007-10-28 14:03:34 · answer #3 · answered by prinzofdarcknez 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I don't think that age or location has anything to do with it. My boyfriend is also two years younger than me, and we've been together for nearly two years. Prior to that, I dated someone for about a year and a half, and I was devastated when our relationship ended. But the way I see it, you can't live your life heartbroken or scared because that's not living at all. Distance is a harder obstacle to overcome, but if the two you are willing to put in the effort, it's totally worth it. Love is the one thing that worth all the pain and vulnerability because the reward is the greatest thing ever created.
2007-10-28 14:03:39 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
The age difference isn't much at all. The strenuous part will be on the distance between you. This could lead to hurt feelings with un-met expectations about him visiting, you visiting, phone calls blah blah blah.
The truth is, if it was meant to be then it will work out, if not, then it wasn't.
Give it a shot, just go in giving all you got and you will learn from this either way.
2007-10-28 14:02:22 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
The age diff is nothing. But you should continue being friends while you pursue your dreams. You are both (I know I hated hearing this when I was 19) too young. Just keep being friends for awhile and you will be glad you did. When you are finally together, it will be so much better.
2007-10-28 14:03:51 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well, since you've already tried being apart for a while and the feelings are still there, I say go for it! If it doesn't work out, you can always break up and still remain friends because of what you've shared. Just make sure that if you do break up, break up in a good way. :)
2007-10-28 14:07:36 · answer #7 · answered by Pinay311 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i say wait it out your 21 and chances are you haven't even begun to look at the options that are near you cause your infatuated with him.... in the long run as bad as it sounds most long distance relationships really dont work ...and it adds too much stress on the situation .... i suggest you stay friends but both of you do your own thing and if its ment to be when he's out of school maybe you two can work something out ...
2007-10-28 14:03:24 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
The age difference is nothing, I reckon you should give it a go, you may look back in years to come and regret it if you dont
2007-10-28 14:02:54 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
The age difference isn't too much at all. Yeah, take the chance. You'll regret it if you don't.
2007-10-28 14:01:21 · answer #10 · answered by samtakesall 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋