art of conversation?

Question

The art of conversation?
i was told that you should ask questions and things will turn all right..well i did this, but the convo is just one sided..and though i ask questions, i still cant make connections...i noticed that this is a recurring prob i have...i ask questions..the person just answers, but the other fails to ask questions..i dont want these awkward convos anymore, especially to people im attracted to..a poetential date turned me down bcoz of this...any tips??? thanks

Answer 1

what precisley are you asking?

Answer 2

The key is not to ask yes or no questions but rather, questions with long answers. What do you like about this? How long have you lived in this state? Where did you live before? Also, ask follow up questions. The art of conversation is not getting another person to ask a follow up question, but rather, hearing their answer and then commenting about it. What do you like about this? Person: I like that it is a nice restaurant and it is priced rather affordably. You: I agree I like this place, but I know another restaurant up the street with a better menu and it is more affordable. You dont have to have question question question. After they answer you. You can say something about there answer that shows that you understand and then add something about your life. When I have a conversation. Lets say I say: Where are you from? Them: North Carolina. Me: Oh I have never been to North Carolina. Do you like Florida better then North Carolina. Them: Yes, Florida is nice but its too hot. Me: I know what you mean I am always so hot. Today when I was walking out to my car I was dying etc etc. You just try to keep the conversation flowing even if you share an experience about yourself. Practice makes perfect. Try to really listen to their answer. And then respond.

Answer 3

Begin by asking open ended questions, such as the kind that can be answered by a simple, "yes," or "no."

Then, ask a closed ended question based on the first answer.

"Are you having a good time?"

"No. Not really."

"Oh yeah? What is it that bothers YOU about the (party)?"

"Too many dudes. Not enough chicks."

etc. etc.

By showing some initial interest in the FIRST answer by following it up, it shows your interest and that may prompt some follow up conversation. But a conversation with ONLY yes or no answers can get boring very, very fast.

Oh! Ha! I just read your name. Pretty funny, don't you think?

Why not?