alright so i went on a trip during the summer and i became rly rly rly close with this girl like we spent every second together problem is she had a boyfriend back home she wanted to do everything and anything with me but stayed loyal but she was very close to doing sutff with me and we both miss eachother a lot and there is a trip reunion in about a month and a couple ppl are staying at her place but we had something for sure and i think she was very conflicted on choosing me or her BF and i dont know how to act when im there or if i should talk to her about what im thinking need some advice please help i cant figure it out (shes also a year older if that means anything) o ya and i live in toronto she lives in new york city but we talk almost everyday and shes pretty damn smart so im pretty sure she already knows how i feel but ive never rly said it how i wanted to say it any help????
2007-10-28 13:39:58 · 8 answers · asked by joe b 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Distance Relationships can be quite
difficult to sustain. Speaking from experience, I would suggest you find another girl who is local to your area.
Many times, girls like to have others,
warming up in their "bull-pen"!
Enjoy her company when you see her~
but recognize that she already has a BF.
2007-10-28 13:49:04 · answer #1 · answered by LedHead 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think this issue is already resolved if you are ready and willing for the truth. I give you three reasons why I believe it is done and over with:1)she already has a boyfriend2) she decided to go back to him 3) you live in two separate and far away cities. Let us look at the first two.In spite of the temptation, the closeness you shared, and what ever you felt might have happened, in the final analysis, she elected to stay loyal to her boyfriend and go home to him. She had every opportunity to tell you in no uncertain terms that she wants to be with you, but chose the alternative and said no.The third reason is one of practicality.Toronto from New york is not like going from Manhattan to the Bronx. Unless one of you is willing to relocate (and I don't believe she is going to) , I hope you have a lot of frequent flyer miles.As much as you might want this girl, my gut instinct is that she is going to turn you down;she has chosen her boyfriend even if you don't want to accept that decision. Please spare your self some more pain and/or rejection and find another gal.
2007-10-28 21:38:46 · answer #2 · answered by abbeycoolit 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its good to like someone but if you already know that they are taken...then you need to be the nice one and back off. Its ok to wait until things dont work out for the other person on the other end. If you "rly" like this girl and if you truly feel that she likes you back then you dont need to worry about it caus you know you will be hers when the time is right. I think you wouldn't like it if the girl you were going out with had conflicting emotions about going out with you still you'd be hurt right? How do you know if she wont do the same too you? I'm not trying to bring you down or anything all I'm saying is to be a supportive person to her present relationship girls like it more when you care about them than going out with them for the time being. If she likes you more she will go out with you...its a simple concept however if she takes time to sort things out than its probably a bad idea to go out with her if she cant figure out who she likes more.
2007-10-28 20:53:03 · answer #3 · answered by Tom 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be a man, and by that I mean, ask her the question straight forward: does she want to be with you or with her other guy, that, on my opinion, if she cared for him that much, she wouldn't start flirting around with some other guy like you and then innocently tell you: I cant' be unfaithful to my bf. Don't engage in her game, and don't give her your feelings to play with, especially that you know that she is smart..
2007-10-28 20:45:42 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
both of you watch the movie...same time next year...then you'll both figure it out
2007-10-28 20:43:24 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok first thing age never matters
next, just wait and see what happens
-miracles happen :)
2007-10-28 20:42:54 · answer #6 · answered by NNOSA 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
did u think in tell all these things to her?
2007-10-28 20:44:45 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
be honest and tell her how you feel, and ask her to be honest with you.
2007-10-28 20:43:12 · answer #8 · answered by mr b 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋