what would you do as a parent if you caught your 16 year old son smoking marijuana?

Question

i smoke marijuana

Answer 1

Me, I would slap him upside the head ground him for a month and ransack his room.

You...I'm afraid you're out of luck. Only thing you do would be hypocritical and pointless.

Answer 2

No offense, but be a mother and inflict some discipline! If I had smoked marijuana in my mother's house when I was 16 I'm pretty sure there would have been severe consequences. I'd have lost my car. I'd have lost all privileges outside the house for at least a month. If I went anywhere, my mother would check on me. At the time, I'd have hated her for it. And she'd have been right. You pay for his clothes, food, room and board and you buy him other creature comforts I'm sure he doesn't need. Put your foot down, be the disciplinarian and lay down the hard line. If your teenager likes you and thinks you're a cool parent, you're doing something wrong. If he ignores you and disrespects you, you need to let him know what the consequences of those actions are. If it doesn't stop, throw him out. Sounds hard, but he'll find another place to crash long enough to know how good he has it at home.

Answer 3

I would tell him to not make the same mistakes you are making. Tell him how it has negatively affected your life. But, also explain that other drugs are much worse.
Whatever you do don't smoke it with him or give him any. If you do, he might enjoy it now and be thankful for it now but when he grows up and looks back on it he will feel that you never really cared about him. (personal experience)

Answer 4

A 16 year-old has many influences in his/her life. If you want to compete with all the other influences, then you must use reason and respect in your communication. Have an open, frank, and non-judgemental discussion where you listen as much as talk. I told my kids right off the bat that I knew they would be in many situations where they would be offered booze, drugs, rides with drunks, etc. and I wouldn't be there to tell them not to do it. They would have to make their own decisions. Empower your kid, and hope he/she makes the right decision. They won't always, but as consequenses play out, the will eventually fall back on what they learned from you.

Answer 5

My daughters friend & her mother would get high with my daughter.(with out me knowing) Ilearned after the fact.And what did the state do to that lady ? allowinng my 16 year old to smoke They knew it was going on.
My daughters father smoked marijuana.(we had just devorced and he allowed it)(with out me knowing of course)
I do not smoke it nor do I approve of it.Guess what ? I caught her I punished her ,But It didn't stand. I was the bad person Because her friends mother and her father Approved of it and allowed it.What kind of example did they set?And who was the bad person.

Answer 6

I would have a serious "real" conversation about the drug. "Hitting him upside the head" probably wouldn't have the most effective results to be honest--and the "gateway" conjecture has been proven to be a myth. I would admit it's not the worst drug in the world, but I would tell him that his body is still in formation and that overdoing the drug is not a good thing for him. I would tell him that it IS a proven fact that you cannot learn while altered with marijuana and this period of his life has to do with learning--in all its forms, school AND maturing in to a responsible adult. I would watch his grades and his life overall. I would watch to make sure he doesn't need someone to step in and create boundaries around his life outside the home/school to make his life continue to be appropriate for his age.

Answer 7

Save enough bail when both of you are in jail.

If you smoke pot as a parent you should quit anyway.. but if you are smoking it and your kids are aware of it thats pathetic.

Since your son is smoking pot and so are you , gee I wonder where he learned it from..

What are you gonna do.. tell him its illegal or bad, etc... ? He will know you are a hypocrite.

Answer 8

You need to be honest with him. I cant understand freaking out on him, if you do it yourself. But also make it very clear to him that not all drugs are harmless like pot is. Make sure he knows that this is a gateway drug, and when used irresponsibly can lead to further drug use and experimenting. I speak from experience. I started with pot, and realized it wasnt as bad as everyone said...so I moved on to cocaine and acid and anything else I could try. I learned the hard way. I have no problem with pot at all...I am a smoker myself. But do make sure you explain to him the risks of trying other things. Let him know you understand his position and that you love him and want him to be safe. Best of luck to you.

Answer 9

Honestly, there isn't too much you can do to prevent him from smoking it again. obviously grounding him for a period of time would prevent it, but only for that period of time. Once he's out with his friends, out at a party he'll be doing it again. sit him down, talk with him about it. Make him feel uncomfortable about the situation. But being hypocritical would deffinetly not be the way to go.

Answer 10

ummmm if my boy did that he'd be grounded
id find out where he got the drugs from
i would cut off all money supply so if he was buying it he wouldnt have any money to buy it any more
id call ALL his friends parents and inform them
i would check his room, bag, clothes daily
i would inform the school (i wouldnt dob him into the school i would just tell them that i think their is a drug problem within the school)
i would lecture him
but then i would tell him that i understand that he wants to experiment
i would tell him i love him and care for him
and tell him as his mother i know best

Answer 11

Alot of schools have programs which are alot of fun they educate kids and help them quit or even cut down on smoking