He broke up with his girlfriend 5 weeks ago bc they were arguing over pointless things. We hooked up 2 weeks ago at a party. What bothers me is 3 weeks is very soon to get over somone you were in love with. I am sure they arnt friends and have no contact however he displays lots of photos of the two of them together on facebook. He says he hates how things ended bitterly. I asked what he liked about her and he said that he could be completely himself around her. I just fear once his anger for her is gone and if she calls to say things will change, he'll just go running to her. What do you guys think?
2007-10-28 13:14:28 · 16 answers · asked by liz 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Picture yourself in his shoes....
I would think that it is VERY possible you will be a rebound but neither one of you will know at this point.
My suggestion... take a couple steps back. The fact that there are still pics on Facebook leaves a bad taste in my mouth.
It is fairly soon... Build a friendship and see where things go.
2007-10-28 13:21:39 · answer #1 · answered by stayc 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let him go. He's going to need some time to get over her ,and yes, you'll most likely be just a rebound. Don't tell him why, just say that you have too much going on right now...but that you'd like to call him as a friend in the future. Then, call a few weeks later just to see how things are going for him. You need to seriously step back to have a real chance with this man in the future. There is no real chance right now.
2007-10-28 20:19:34 · answer #2 · answered by lovebird 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can never say it any better than you already have done. I suspect your instincts and /or morals have kicked in and letting you know the things that it might have been easier for you to ignore or excuse. There is nothing more that I can add since your analysis of your own situation is dead own,accurate, and correct. In light of this fact, I think you know what to do; that you have to end it and not get caught in the middle of his unresolved emotional mess.Like you very succinctly put it---" I just fear once his anger for her is gone and if she calls to say things will change, he'll just go running to her".That says it all.
2007-10-28 20:27:32 · answer #3 · answered by abbeycoolit 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are his rebound girl. Your first instinct is right, there is no way to get over someone you were in love with in just a few short weeks. However, at the same time ( at least for me anyway) with my last break up by the time we actually broke up I was emotionally detached and ready to move on. So maybe he is ready to move on? I highly doubt it though, especially if he still displays her pictures around his place. Sounds like you are just there to pass the time.
2007-10-28 20:19:33 · answer #4 · answered by greyskymourning82 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say that you should never be with someone when you know they have someone else on their mind. He probably isn't over her but at the same time he isn't with her right now. Play it by ear but keep your relationship shallow. If he brings her up too often then you should back away, but if things are good between the two of you then let the cards fall where they may. Whatever you do, DON'T fall in love with him. Its too tricky right now. Wait until you are sure, and try not to think about it in the mean time.
2007-10-28 20:19:21 · answer #5 · answered by The thinker 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you shouldn't put your feelings out there. it seems as if he still has feelings for his ex. So don't get hurt trying to start a relationship with him so soon after the bitter break up with someone he was so involved with. He most likely still has alot of unfinished emotions and feelings so STAY AWAY cause you might get hurt. I hope I helped GOOD LUCK!
2007-10-28 20:19:44 · answer #6 · answered by Yessy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
3 weeks is not long enough to be over someone because i just broke up with my bf 3 weeks ago and im still not completely over him even though i had to end our relationship. My advice is to not get attached to him because if he does end up going back (not saying that he will) it wont hurt you as bad.
2007-10-28 20:25:10 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's really no way you can control the situation, so just be friends with him, as much as he's willing, and see what happens. It does take time to get over a breakup! It's really good that you're aware of the situation.
2007-10-28 20:18:55 · answer #8 · answered by MELBA1220 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I suggest you don't invest a lot of yourself in him just yet. This way, you won't be so hurt if it turns out you are a rebound.
2007-10-28 20:19:40 · answer #9 · answered by thezaylady 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it sounds like you are the rebound so tell him that you want to end your relationship with him and then get him and his ex back together
2007-10-28 20:21:44 · answer #10 · answered by kp.sarah 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋