Heres my problem. I drink maybe once a week. When I do its not a glass of wine, its a whole 3 litter bottle. I get sloppy stupid drunk. During the rest of the week though i think about drinking and how I like how it makes me feel. The next day after drinking, I teel my husband im going to stop, and to not give into me when I want him to go out and buy it. But after hours of arguing, he gives up and goes out and buys it for me. My drinking is causing arguments in our home and I have put on a lot of weight because of it. Am I an alcholic? I dont want to sign up for AA and people look at me funny because I only drink once a week and not every day.I cant stop on my own though, I have tried. I have even bought liquor and hid it from my husband so I can avoid an argument. Please give me some helpful advice.
2007-10-28 11:58:20 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Mental Health
i cant tell you if you are an alcoholic, but if you have to ask yourself if you are an alcoholic, then you are probably an alcoholic. hiding, lying, arguing about alcohol, having it interfere with your daily life, is alcoholism. whether you drink every day or once a week, if its causing problems or feelings of guilt then you should get some help. addiction isnt measured by quantity. it is a chronic and progressive disease. you cant compare your addiction to anyone elses because addiction and dependence ravage the individual and it is different for everyone. in the AA meetings where i live NOBODY is looked down on. if you are there then you are there for a reason. they arent interested in how much or how often you drank, just that you came to seek help. please go to a meeting. the hardest part for an alcoholic or addict is admitting the problem. the second hardest part is asking for help. the third hardest part is working to stay clean and sober every single day. get help, whether its an AA meeting, a psychiatrist, or a rehab center (i did all 3) do SOMETHING. dont let it destroy your life like it did mine. im still picking up the pieces...
2007-10-28 12:11:15 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 1⤋
It sounds to me like you are an alcoholic. You say you have tried and can't stop drinking, even though it is only once a week you still can't give it up. It is causing you problems at home, having a negative effect on your life yet you still can't give it up and you think about it all the time. That sounds like an alcoholic to me, certainly someone who has a problem with drink anyway.
The AA are great but I know it must be very scary to think about going and its not something everyone feels able to do. My brother is an alcoholic, big time and he went for a while but never manages to keep going. However he has been to his Dr about his drinking and they have been amazing. They do try and encourage you to go to AA but they also will offer you other support. My brother's Dr has sorted him out counseling, drugs which help with his addiction and even helped him when it came to telling his work about his problem. Also, they offered his now ex partner counseling and support too when he first went.
Whatever you decide to do, well done for realizing you have a problem that really is the first step in the right direction. Good luck!
2007-10-28 12:30:43 · answer #2 · answered by Sian 4 · 1⤊ 2⤋
If drink is costing you more than money your probably alcoholic, if when drinking you have little control over the amount you drink your probably alcoholic , if when you honestly want to you find you can not quit entirely your probably alcoholic. If you are alcoholic and you carry on drinking it will definitely get worse, an alcoholic cannot control there drinking they may do for a while but before long it will be as bad as ever and get worse, alcoholism is a progressive illness it gets worse never better. it does`nt matter how much you drink or how often its the affect its having on you and your life. Alcoholics Anonymous is the only thing that's worked for me
2007-10-28 13:29:51 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Even though you only drink once a week, I would say that yes, you are an alcoholic. You, yourself admitted that you could not quit on your own and that you have boughten and hidden liquor from your husband. Go to AA you need help and no one is going to look at you funny. Before you even go you have to want to quit drinking. AA can help you but they cannot make you quit you have to want to. Good luck.
2007-10-28 12:09:54 · answer #4 · answered by Silk 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I reckon you are sweetie ........................ don't despair though cos at least you've realised you are hopelessly addicted early on in the piece and won't end up taking that nasty train ride with the grog all the way to who knows !! You've taken the very brave step of coming out and exposing yourself to us, so I think you really believe that you are addicted and I also think that you are a really intelligent, strong, courageous woman who (if she puts her mind to it) can and will do and get anything she wants to in this life. There's nothing worse than waking up in the morning wondering where you were the night before (maybe even with who) and whether you have anybody to apologise to for deeds unknown !! Believe me, kicking that ball and chain (the grog) is the best thing I've ever done ............... I quit drinking 5 years ago ................ it's positively exhilirating and totally freeing and your self esteem and confidence will positively soar through the roof when you realise that you really can do it.
You just have to really really believe in yourself and know that you are capable of giving this wicked grog the heave ho !! You need to start nuturing some self esteem within yourself and giving yourself some self affirmation ie: greet yourself in the mirror and tell your reflection how good it is to see you today and how d*amn fine you are looking ............... you'd better believe it works girlfriend, think about it, if somebody tells you how pathetic and ugly you are every day (even though you aren't) then eventually you'll believe them right?? Soooooo, by telling yourself the truth each and everyday without fail ie: that you are strong and courageous, brave and intelligent, beautifull and formidable then eventually you'll have the strength and faith to pursue your dreams and you'll soar with joy and happiness............. :0)
GOOD LUCK
CHEERS
♥
2007-10-28 12:18:30 · answer #5 · answered by Minx 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
In AA people are usually there to help themselves not judge you on what you drink. If you don't stop and take care of your marriage someday you won't have one! Your husband should be the most important person in your life not alcohol. You need professional help. Good Luck as I'm one of your fans.
2007-10-28 12:18:43 · answer #6 · answered by Luv2no is in the house 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I understand your problem. I have not drank but my father does. What I would do is every week drink a little less and always try to keep your mind occupied on something else other than drinking, like when you and your husband got married or another happy event. I wish you luck and hope you get well.
2007-10-28 12:10:23 · answer #7 · answered by Kasie I 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Sounds like you binge drink. That can be a form of alcoholism. If you can't not have it, then you are an alcoholic. Think about attending an AA meeting.
2007-10-28 12:16:18 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
yes you are you should try aa. my sister was one and didnt want to admit it then she joined aa she told me every one was nice and no one looked at her like she was crazy dont hesitate to do something because your scared of what people would think i think joining aa would be best no one would look at you like your messed up cause they are alcoholic too so its ok to admit it
2007-10-28 12:10:29 · answer #9 · answered by Dannielle1235 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋