I don't know why but he doesn't seem to want sex as much, lately. Normally, we would have it 2-3 times a week which was fine with me and he always (even now) says he would like it every night. I don't have a problem with that but we don't live together yet so that makes it difficult. Recently, we've had it 1-2 times a week for the past few weeks. We've been together for 8 months, so I don't know what is going on. I know he loves me and still likes me, he is fine with the way I look, and when we have it, it is still great.
He has been a little stressed lately and stuff like that, but would that really make a man not want it as much? I've thought about saying something but I don't know how or what to say. Any ideas on what could be going on?
2007-10-28 10:44:09 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Yes, stress can DEFINITELY have an impact on a person's (man OR woman) sex drive. Perhaps he is busy. Perhaps he just has too much on his mind. Maybe he even is depressed. That said, it could ALSO just be that he is comfortable. You have sex 2-3 times a week, and it gets routine. That will sap the ol' sex drive, too. Truth is that you've been together for 8 months. Your relationship should be, by now, based on more than just sex. It is natural that the sex might tail off a little, and actually, many couples would be happy to have it twice a week. It's not like you're only having sex once a month or something. 1-2 times is pretty normal. So be careful that you are not overreacting. Have a talk with him and find out if there is anything wrong. If not, then if you want more sex, take the initiative, and spice it up a little! If he is stressed out, he'll probably appreciate it. Good luck!
2007-10-28 10:50:42 · answer #1 · answered by Mr. Taco 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel something maybe is wrong with your bf its not like guys too not want sex thats for sure its like they need it too survive sometimes.. But yeah he could be worried about something that doesnt relate too both of you maybe work.. I also will say an hoping its not this but hes not getting sex elsewhere is he? Im not asking you this to hurt you but its best to know where you stand an what is wrong an it could be that also.. I think if you both love each other as much as you say why not talk to him sit down an find out the problem its about sharing an helping him also.. Its important to talk in any relationship cos its the only you find out things an know how each other are feeling.... I guess until you talk its hard to know an be sure but I believe its something you need to talk about or you will always wander.. good luck
2007-10-28 17:52:43 · answer #2 · answered by Sweet_mystery 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Guys really only have 3 basic needs: food sleep and sex.
I can guarantee you that he loves you if your still having sex 1-2 times a week. I know that when I'm really stressed over work, college, etc. I tend to push other things out of my mind. That might be the case in terms of your guy.
Just be straight with him. That is how I would want to be approached. Instead of him getting you in the mood. Put him in the mood.
I don't know what else to tell you
2007-10-28 17:52:14 · answer #3 · answered by Guinness 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, if i am stressed, i dont enjoy sex either. Coz you have thousand things running in your head. I remember last time when i was having sex , all the time i could think of was the project work which was due, and then i kept thinking about the lab works .
you can always try to spice it up a little, wear something edgy.. change your hair style..
wear glasses...
hehe do something..
coz guys sometimes get bored with staying and having sex with same woman.
2007-10-28 17:50:18 · answer #4 · answered by binay 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stress can ABSOLUTELY have an effect on his libido. Try focusing on non-sexual things to do together for closeness. A walk after dinner? Cuddle while watching a movie? Give him a massage? If it goes on for too long, though, you might want to have a talk about what the BOTH of you can do to get through this time.
2007-10-28 17:51:02 · answer #5 · answered by Bree1120 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course, we don't have any idea whats going on. But, sex with a new girl friend is more exciting and interesting that with an old girl friend. Also, once you know you can do it tomorrow if you don't do it today...and theres something else to do today, that you can't do tomorrow.... well ... you do the thing you can't do tomorrow...and driving across town is a hassle...and shes gonna wanna cuddle....and you have to get to work in the morning....and that means packing....and rush hour is so much worse from her side of town....
you get the idea
2007-10-28 17:54:13 · answer #6 · answered by cato___ 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
definately don't worry about him getting it somewhere else atm, that isn't helpful, if you say he's stressed that is definately a big turn off for him. maybe you could try giving him a nice massage or whatever before so he is nice and relaxed.
but maybe the best thing to do is ask him if he's alright, you never know he could just be run down and not feeling too good.
take care and good luck
2007-10-28 17:52:49 · answer #7 · answered by Poombs 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You've basically answered your own question. Stress affects everyone differently. And for men this is one of the ways. Just talk to him about his stress, try to be supportive. Don't just ask why aren't we having sex as often. He may get upset.
2007-10-28 17:48:51 · answer #8 · answered by Tara S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it could be the stress that is making him not want to be intimate but it could also be the fact that he's not intereste in you even though he tells you he loves you and stuff but that really doesnt mean any thing u guys only been together for 8 months
2007-10-28 18:01:01 · answer #9 · answered by Cassieandra 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It could be the stress - but let him know sex helps rid stress. But he could be with someone else or maybe you dont tell him he is good enough. You have to stroke his sexual ego sometimes!
2007-10-28 17:54:11 · answer #10 · answered by chaseslaws12 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋