I know someone that is like that, that done that and the child recently passed away and it is sad that she was kept from her blood sister and her family. The step-mom controlled her and still controls my cousin.
Add: Give all the thumbs down you want but it is a shame that any parent or step parent would keep an innocent child away from their family just out of spite.
I think that people like that are pathetic and cold-hearted.
It is a form of child abuse to do a child like that.
2007-10-28 09:24:07
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answered by ஐ♥Julian'sMommy♥ஐ 7
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My daughter sees my side of the family more than her dad's side, but that's because of distance, not because we don't want her to see them. Most of my family lives in Minnesota and North Dakota, whereas most of hubby's family lives in Michigan and Florida. The only reason to keep a child away from family is if they have threatened or abused the child. But that's just my opinion.
2007-10-28 17:31:11
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answered by hockey_gal9 *Biggest Stars fan!* 7
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The only reason that you would ever have justification to keep your child from family is danger to the child. Otherwise, despite your personal feelings, the child has a "right to know." However, it can be hard to do.
My son and I live in my little hometown, that has been home to my family for generations. We're surrounded by everyone! Almost half the teachers he will have in elementary school will be related in one way or another. It was here that I met my ex-husband when he was traveling for work. It was here we were married. It was here that he moved his daughter to get her better medical care. But most of all, it was here that he left us. I had never met any of his family until after he proposed - when his mother brought his daughter down to us. I didn't meet his dad until after my son was born, and his brother until after we divorced.
Anyway, my relationship with my ex is pretty bad. He sorta went crazy, and thinks he's a different person now. I wouldn't trust him with our son alone, because I'm not sure he's sane. It doesn't matter though, because he's never made any real attempt to have visitation rights, or even see my son. He doesn't call, doesn't send birthday or christmas gifts, and generally doesn't even act like he knows the child exists.
However, I still do everything in my power to make sure my son gets to know his father's side of the family. Even if his father isn't much good, that doesn't mean he doesn't deserve to know his herritage. My son's sister lives with her grandparents again now, and they moved to be closer to us (only about an hour away). We go to visit them a couple times a month. I send cards and pictures to his great-grandparents (who live out of state) a couple times a year, and one set of them has been down to visit twice. (Just this weekend as a matter of fact - they stay with his grandparents but we go see them). It's still not alot, if you consider how absorbed he is in my family, but at least it's keeping the connection alive. Herritage has always been a big part of life in a small town, and I think it's important that my son knows as much as I can tell him.
You don't have to be on good terms with the father, for your child to have two sides to their family tree. My son is loved and adored by both sets of his grandparents. It is awkward at times, of course, but if you're committed to doing what's best for your child, you can make it work!
2007-10-28 18:22:55
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answered by littleJaina 4
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yes, My Hubby never even met his dad until he was ten and then his dad didn't want anything to do with him. So now that we have children, he calls us sometimes and once we decided to be nice and take the kids to see him and he acted as if we where never there. So it is his loss, My kids love my parents and that is all they need. So sometimes it is for the better, cause I don't want my kids getting hurt like there dad did.
2007-10-29 09:52:28
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answered by Hi 4
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I did for a while just because of the way they acted. They were just straight out rude and disrespectful in front of my son and that is when I put my foot down. I no longer went to their house. I told my husband that if they wanted to see our son, that they were more than welcomed to come to our house but that I would no longer step foot into theirs.
2007-10-28 19:15:21
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answered by Mrs. Dominguez 3
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My "in-laws" have never seen my son in person, nor has my son's father for that matter (but he just started sending money for daycare a few months ago). His family (and him) are more than welcome to see my son, but in addition to the fact that they're all spread out...in three states while my son and I live in another state. I left my stupid so-called husband (where he still resides) when I was 6 wks pregnant. His sisters act like they want nothing to do with my son because of whatever lies their brother told them when we split up (He's a huge liar, and they know it, but blood is thicker..)...Or they call themselves being mad at me for bustin' a move and leaving his sorry a** rather than stay and put up with his b.s.. (which is what they would do). My father-in-law is broke and can't even call, let alone send the baby anything. Any contact we have with my him is cuz I call him, or send him pictures...He's pretty cool, but just spouts a bunch of philosophy and "right vs. wrong" talk. My mother-in-law, however, is pretty cool. She has been supportive the whole time, has sent money, clothes and gifts a few times since my son was born. She's supposed to be visiting here eventually (was supposed to be for Thanksgiving, but now has moved it to baby's b-day in the spring, which would be better anyway). They're all more than welcomed to see him, but they have to travel here to do so, cuz I'm done traveling miles only to be mistreated. The sisters are even too stupid to ask for pictures and stuff..so they just take a picture of a picture and have it in their cell phone...they're idiots!
2007-10-28 16:59:28
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answered by Mama Nuveau 4
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Our children do not see most of my husbands family.
His father because despite all efforts to find this man....we cannot. (his mother is deceased)
And other family members do not return requests to get together.
The only member of his family we see is a much younger sister who is being raised by adoptive parents now since thier mother's passing eight years ago.
I would love to share our children with my husbands family, but unfourtunate circumstances have prevented that from happening.
2007-10-28 16:57:05
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answered by Mr.G's wife 5
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Yes, the ex's mother. I tried very hard to keep the communication open, but she's toxic, frankly. Certain specific issues arose which I was not able to overlook, and I had to cut off communication for my daughter's best interests.
2007-10-29 00:27:37
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answered by ~Biz~ 6
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No, but I keep my son away from my parents. They were abusive in so many ways throughout my childhood (physically, emotionally, and by neglecting us), and show no remorse for their actions. I tried to let go and let them have a relationship with my son - big mistake! I won't go into the details, but the last time I saw them was when my father took our family's dog from us, saying he was bringing him to get a rabies shot. Instead, he had our beloved dog put to sleep as revenge because he had a disagreement with me. My mother basically laughed it off and told me to get over it, then continued her usual emotional abuse against my husband, his family, our son and me. We decided we don't need toxic people in our lives. We haven't seen them in about two years, and we couldn't be happier. We have my husband's family, whom I love as my own. That's really all we need.
So if you have a good reason to keep the kids away from the in - laws (such as physical or emotional abuse, or they are badmouthing you to the kids), then I agree with it. However, if it's because of something silly and you're using the kids to get back at them (I can't imagine many people would do that, though), then I wouldn't agree with it.
2007-10-28 16:43:31
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answered by SoBox 7
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i never have because it's important for them to know their entire family even if you don't like them. Your personal feelings for dads side of the family should never interfere with your child having a good relationship with them. Right now my FIL has cancer and has been fighting it for 7yrs and he was just told on thursday they can do no more for him except for make him comfortable and i want my sons to know him and have happy positive memories of him. You never know what can happen to a person, or when their time is up.
2007-10-28 16:25:47
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answered by Wishmaster 6
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I know a guy that refuses to talk to his sister, her husband, and his parents. Have't talked to them in 4 years. He works as a guard in a prison. He was letting his kids play at his sister's house with her kids until he found out that she married a guy that is a sex offender. His parents also knew about it and didn't tell him.
So for the person that gave me a tumbds down: They should let a known sex offender have contact with their child? I don't think so! Get real. Would you risk your child being RAPED??!!
2007-10-28 16:29:25
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answered by Ryan's mom 7
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