CONFUSED AND MISSING HER!!!! should this be the end of it?

Question

we just broke up... for good
its soo hard... i broke her heart three times... we've been together six and a half months... we never saw each other... she was coming home for good on dec... i lost interest but i wanted her back and got confused... she was so broken hearted BAD. i felt so bad she wanted me back and took her and now we are apart cuz i am still confused.
i am confused about her because we havent seen each other and i was loosing interest, ive been hanging out alot and enjoying it AND from there i started loosing interest (begnning of october)... i know i shouldnt call and take her back cuz she will... then i get confused and hurt her again
i love her and really miss her but my feelings wont be the same until she comes home
she might not even come home cuz she said theres nothing there anymore
i dont know, we need time but its hard
what should i do.... should i wait and hope for her to come home... or let her go forever
"If its meant to be; it will come back"

it hurts so much we shared so much together
i didnt want to lose interest and forget about her
but if she comes back should i try again???

i fell so much in love but i dont feel the same...
but i still miss and love her!

please help me...

Answer 1

If you can't be trusted I don't have any sympathy for you. That is the number One thing in a relationship you must have . Three Times? I would say She's better without you.

Answer 2

Well, do you love her, or do you love the idea of having a girl friend. It sounds a bit more like the second option of you can lose interest in her so quickly. Long distance relationships are hard work even for people who have been together for years. I think you should sit down and really think about what you are willing to sacrifice for this person. Because right now you seem to be enjoying your single time and going out alot. This doesn't really work in a relationship, and the only reason it is sort of working now is because you have a long distance relationship and are unable to spend more time with your girl friend. You have a part time relationship. It's sort of like having a part time job. You get the benefits and still have free time to go do what you want. Judging by how much you've hurt this girl already, it sounds like she wants a full time relationship. So if you are just going to keep half-a**ing everything you should let her go.

Answer 3

It's O.k. to let her go. You screwed up many times before. What makes you think she would really want to come back to that? You can wait on her to come back if you want, but, I would take this time to grieve if I were you. You're not even that interested in her. And I quote:

"we just broke up... for good
its soo hard... i broke her heart three times..."

"i lost interest but i wanted her back and got confused..."

"i am confused about her because we havent seen each other and i was loosing interest..."

Need I go on?

I'm not trying to be harsh, but the truth is the truth. It's going to take some time to get over her, BUT you WILL get over her. There are plenty of girls out there right?

The only thing you can do now is just try and be her friend, take things slow. Like you said:

""If its meant to be; it will come back""

Feel me?

Answer 4

I think it might be a good idea to wait and see if she comes home. Perhaps what you are feeling is not love but a close friendship. Anyway perhaps a cooling off period would be a good idea. You didn't say how old you are, but if you are young, believe me you will be in and out of love several times before you find the right girl.

Answer 5

how do u expect her to keep coming back to u and u keep break up with her...the way u talking is that u are very confuse about some things so what u need to do is get ur self together and when u think u are not confused anymore the call her up...but u keep playing these games then u going to lose her for good..u might say i'm not playing games but in her mind u are..good luck

Answer 6

It sounds like it is time for you to move along in your life. This relationship is causing too much pain and needs to be let go of. Yes, it is difficult to let go. There is nothing there anymore. Let go of it and realize that there is someone out there looking for you but they can't find you because you're wallowing in indecision and fogging up the place. Cut off all contact! Move along! Get a life! Be happier!

Answer 7

dear i respect u for saying out loud how you've hurt this girl, but does she feel the same way you do? are you really sure she gonna take you back after all that has happened? just live everything to fate, i believe and hope that if you are really meant to be love would bring you guys back together again. but don't hurt her when you get back again. wish you all the best.don't take it too hard yourself.

Answer 8

I don't really understand any of that. But i got the bit from "I dont know we need time..."

Well why don't you tell her to come home cause you wanna talk and then just talk about where you want the relationship to go.

Answer 9

breaking up with someone that you love is one of the hardest things anyone can go through. but you need to ask yourself if they would be better off with you or with out you. If you feel that they will only be hurt by your own actions. then love them enough to let them go. No one deserves to think that they are loved and then be caused to be hurt because of it.
If you love someone let them go,
if they never return, then it was not meant to be.
if they do return,
love them with all your heart for it is meant to be.

Answer 10

You said it: "if it's meant to be, it'll come back"

Pushing things do not make them work. I think if you've lost interest in the past it's because you 're not really into this girl. I think you just "miss her" because you don't like feeling lonely or like you lost someone good, but a good person doesn't necessarily inspire love to us. I think you miss having someone rather than "HER".

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