I am fairly new to my church and really like it there, but something happened today that is really upsetting me. I go to a smaller church, and I have a 13 month old baby boy. When I took him back there today the pastors wife was there until the other girls came to watch the little ones for service. Well after church was all done I go to get Logan and a couple of other moms come and get their little ones and are gone. Well the girls that were watching the tots just left the nursery and didnt make sure that all of the moms came for thir kids. The pastors wife has a boy 2 weeks older than mine and he was just sitting on the floor with a regular cup full of red juice and his mom wasnt there to get him yet. They just left the room like their job was all done!! What if that would have been my baby???? I am very upset about this, am I over reacting? Who should I bring this too....I dont want to leave Logan in these girls care anymore at all.
2007-10-28 07:26:58 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
Oh Amy! How scary! I would've freaked if it were mine! My kids have never had a sitter, other than a family member for these very reasons.
I guess you would need to find out who the nursery director is, or the administrator. If you can't get satisfactory answers there, go to the pastor and express your concern. That is a definite problem. I wonder why no one else has complained?
2007-10-28 07:32:03 · answer #1 · answered by YikesOneMore 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Someone may have told the girls that they could go home. Although the odds of something bad happening is very rare, especially with church parents coming in and out of the room, I can see why you'd be upset.
Bring this up to your pastor and ask him if that is generally practice. Church had ended so the girls were probably free to go. You could either go straight to pick up Logan after church is done or, if you enjoy slowly making your way out, consider looking for a babysitter for the few hours while you're at church. Does your hubby attend church? Does the church have a Saturday service or a later/earlier service? Consider attending church separately or have a family member watch Logan while you're away.
2007-10-28 07:36:07 · answer #2 · answered by Due March 9th, 2010 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Mention it to the pastor. The girls should know that they cant leave the nursery until the mothers come to get the babies. Thats leaving the children in danger and at their age they should know better or not be in this position. I'm sure that there are rules about this but they just didnt follow them.
2007-10-28 07:32:11 · answer #3 · answered by Diane M 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Speak to the pastor. Or better still volunteer to take charge of the nursery. I am sure the help is needed and wanted. Looks like they need a little organizational skills. Remember the harvest is great but the laborers are few.
2007-10-28 07:32:19 · answer #4 · answered by Sugar 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
You said "girls," and I assume you mean just that, not grown women. I know some churches will trust kids to watch other kids (being forced to do so when I was a kid), but that is very unwise. I always did my best, but most can't. Kids can't take care of kids.
Do not leave you child in the nursery again until they get workers who are adults, preferably ones who have children themselves and therefore already know how to take care of a child. How do you know they won't do this again, or that it won't be your kid, or that they won't be even more irresponsible or abusive? Take him into the service with you or take him back there and stay with him, or volunteer to be a nursery worker yourself.
Also, I would have a word with the girls' parents, with the girls, and with the church staff in charge of putting them back there.
Why is it that churches trust kids to watch other kids? Frankly, I think it's irresponsible and unwise and if I went to church would *dare not* leave my kid with some other kid.
2007-10-28 08:02:28 · answer #5 · answered by Bookworm 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would speak with the pastor & his wife. voice my concerns. How old are the girls in charge of the nursery? Maybe all the mothers can get together & alternate days to work in the nursery. this way you are more likley to have a responsable adult watching the children.
2007-10-28 07:33:52 · answer #6 · answered by lil bit 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
How do you know that the Pastors wife had not instructed them to leave? I think if it really is an issue that next sunday they probably will not be working there again or will not do it again because the Pastors wife would have came back there and saw her child alone and repremanded them.
2007-10-28 07:31:06 · answer #7 · answered by ehrlich 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Talk to the ones who were watching the kids and ask them about it. Maybe there was a miscommunication. If they say something like "Oh, it happens all the time and no one minds", then go to the Pastor and voice your concerns to him.
2007-10-28 07:32:39 · answer #8 · answered by Xyleisha 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Wow.. No, that's not right! I would talk to the pastor or pastor's wife about it. After all, their kid was left alone. They should be just as concerned as you are.
2007-10-28 07:32:30 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
If I catch your drift... the church staff left the children all alone during the service. I wouldn't recommend returning to said church unless you find a sitter.
2007-10-28 07:30:14 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋