My boyfriend loves me a lot but his indifferent attitude towards me hurts me a lot. sometimes he purposely says things that offend me. what do i do to make him realise that it hurts? should i behave nicely without complaining so that someday he realises that he is treating me wrong? or should i behave the same way he does to let him know how it feels? is there any other way? please help.
2007-10-28 06:53:48 · 26 answers · asked by Hannah M 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
respect yourself and make sure he respects you. tell him what you think about what he says and that it is not ok with you. if he listens and stops, great. if you tell him and he still chooses to hurt you, love yourself enough to drop the loser and find someone that treats you well.
don't ever settle for being treated poorly.
2007-10-28 06:59:25 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Sit down with him and say," I love you and I hope you love me, but your indifferent attitude towards me hurts a lot. Sometimes you purposely say things to offend me and it really hurts." .....Another thing you can do is write everything that you want to communicate to him down on paper, with that done, tell him you have something you want to read to him....guys are pretty responsive to this....Nip this in the bud, NOW it will only get worse if he knows he can get away with it.
2007-10-28 07:09:30 · answer #2 · answered by mj 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to talk to him about it maturely or else you might as well end the relationship now. There's no point in being with somebody who you can't be honest with. This is 2007 not the fifties. We don't have to be those quiet, perfect, 'speak only when spoken to', 'dont complain about your problems' kind of partners and wives that were the standard then. Make him realize he's treating you wrong now, not someday.
2007-10-28 06:59:03 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
You will have to tell him how you feel towards how he treats you! How do you expect him to know if noone is saying a thing, and don't think he will figure it out, because the simple truth is that he just might not pick up on it.
He should be understanding, and wanting to work for change if he really loves you. so you should not be scared to let him know that you are upset.
Please just stand up for yourself so that you can enjoy your relationship with him rather than feel hurt.
Good luck Girl!
2007-10-28 06:58:50 · answer #4 · answered by Paul M 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Tell him... try to talk to him
... and if he doesn't realize he's being a butt already, and telling him that doesn't help, then he doesn't sound like such a great guy.
If you've told him and he insists on it, he doesn't respect you, nor care how you feel.
You CAN do better than that.
You DESERVE better than that!!!
Kick him to the curb! It may hurt for a long time, but I guarantee - you will end up with someone who is so good to you that you won't know why you ever stuck with someone who made you feel so badly for so long.
2007-10-28 07:00:19 · answer #5 · answered by puppy.lover13 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
if a 4 yr old came up and started to smack you... what would you do? right away you would say, stop that.
same thing as adults or any age. someone does something you do not like, right away say you do not like it.
nip it in the bud. to go past the moment just tells the other person they can do this to you, even though you do not like it. and the more they do it and are not stopped, the more reinforced that action is to them that it can be done.
its why a thief that gets away the first time, will steal again.. and again, and again till caught. same principle.
2007-10-28 06:57:55 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
No, you don't let anybody treat you like that. Even if he isn't physically abusing you, verbal abuse is right up that alley and hurts just the same. I suggest you tell him exactly how you feel and if he doesn't change after that, you better leave him alone, otherwise, you'll live a pretty miserable life with him.
2007-10-28 06:57:16 · answer #7 · answered by tieveasilona 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes it does hurt, but i think it may be some kind of error. I have been blocked by accident before by a contact ducking report monkeys. Being unblocked made me happy.
2016-04-10 23:22:45 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would explain to him once how I feel, and then leave if he doesn't shape up.
You don't need to be with someone who purposely hurts you. You deserve better. If he is deliberately hurting your feelings and doesn't stop when you ask him very directly, you can pretty much tell that is how he will treat you as long as you are with him. If you choose to put up with it, you are accepting his abuse and giving him permission to continue.
Tell him, "when you do this, it hurts me. I don't need to be with someone who hurts me. I deserve better. I need you to stop doing this, or I need to leave. So, you need to make a decision about how you want to treat me."
And if he continues to hurt you, walk.
2007-10-28 07:02:16 · answer #9 · answered by graysmom 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to talk to him. My boyfriend does the same thing, once I talked to him about (and cried) he realized that what he says hurts me and I don't appreciate it. I know this seems difficult but the best time to do it is right after he does it to you, that way you can explain how what he said hurt you so much.
2007-10-28 06:58:13 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
YOU are not in control in this situation...this is him.
He needs an "Anger Management Course"
Truly, your very sweet..but if this type of behavior persists without intervention from a professional (not us here at yahoo answers) you will never get the relief that you're seeking.
I'm sorry to break that suspense to you.
My heart goes out to you...Good Luck!
2007-10-28 07:00:04 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋