i avoided guys...i like this guy but am still uncomfortable?

Question

i had really bad experience with a bus driver when i was really young. this somehow made me become little afraid of guys outside my family throughout my life. i don't feel comfortable wearing shorts because it associates with my past. when i see a guy looking at me or walking by me, i immediately look down. now this just becomes a habit. i never had a boyfriend or even a guy friend until last year when i was a freshman in college. i know this is pathetic. i try to move on, but somehow i keep remembering my past.

i really like this really nice guy, and we are good friends. but at the same time, i still feel uncomfortable being close to him. he just asked me out...i said i would think about it. i am sorta afraid of going into a relationship with a guy and getting betrayed. how do i feel more comfortable with him?

Answer 1

Go get counseling to deal with your "baggage". Until then you will not be emotionally healthy enough for a real relationship.