Need help acting my age?

Question

I'm a 21 years old female and I often feel like I act like I'm 3 years old. I whine, sometimes cry and throw temper tantrums. I talk like a 3 year old sometimes - mostly around my boyfriend. I'm very dependant. I'm very silly, just over all I feel like I'm a very young child inside. Can anyone relate, or does anyone have any suggestions, or know what this is called?

And...I still need to be tucked in at night, or I'll stay up. Also don't like to be alone

Answer 1

I think its fine.. Your a lovley young women. Thats all it is. u only show how u feel around the ones u love.. or let loose. thats all. u act your age around others.

Answer 2

While I do not know what this is called, other than immaturity, I do have a few suggestions.

When I began my therapy with a Psychologist, I was tested thoroughly. Testing revealed how I deal or relate to others in relationships, strangers, and how I view myself. I, too had some dependent traits, though different from yours. Over the next 2 years I worked twice a month with my therapist, on moving on and becoming more independent thinking and acting and responding. I learned and practiced new coping skills - the ones I was missing. The morphing was gradual, but steady. Today I have found my own adult voice, and people are relating to me differently and respectfully as an a competent adult.

From my story maybe you can glean the possibilities of growth for yourself, and take action at being professionally coached through consistant therapy sessions.

Answer 3

It sounds like a sort of associative disorder. It could be that you see your boyfriend as an authority figure and equate him in that way with the feelings and needs you would have from a parent. I don't know enough, I'm just guessing. The best thing to do, is make an appointment with a therapist and describe everything to him or her and find out what is going on before it makes you and your boyfriend miserable.

Answer 4

nothing is wrong with it. i feel young inside too and i jus turned 22. i do whine and i do feel emotional alot.. and yeah when i get real mad i do throw temper tantrums. what shows that there is nothing wrong with it.. is that we are able to admit it. when your doing it and dont realize it.. thats when there is a problem. im not sure why it happens but i kinda think its funny that it does. but again.. theres nothing nothing nothing wrong with it. i mean. who wants to act old anyways.. right? jus try to control it better.. and see how you feel about that. I love to feel cared about too.. and stuff. i think when you act younger... you feel more cared about.. im not sure. but its ok :) one day youll grow out of it im sure.