well i moved from my mother in texas to live with my father, stepmother, and little brother in minnesota. im a freshman in highschool and have very few friends since i moved. i really miss my home in texas because all my family and friends are there. i think i made the worst choice i couldve made. i really feel guilty about wanting to move back with my mom after a year because my dad and stepmom went through alot of trouble and shelled out alot of money to get me here. also i am scared to tell my dad that i want to move. im afraid that my stepmom and dad will be ashamed of me and never look at me the same. i just dont know what to do. i really miss texas and ive been like this for months and it hasnt gone away. please i really need advice. what should i do????
2007-10-28 05:38:14 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Do what me and Def say..move back... im a dad and i would be crushed if my son(10 now) wanted to move with his mom, but i would have to be the bigger one and realize and just be there for him...im from Houston, Texas and i love it here.. couldnt imagine being in Minnesota, no offense everyone:)
2007-10-28 06:03:06 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Truth is always best. I do understand how you feel. Try telling you dad that your feel your mom needs you. As a parent I can tell you that your mom misses you alot and needs you. Tell him that you feel guilty for leaving her. If your mom is single, tell your dad that you worry about her being alone. Tell him that you need your mom and you feel cut off from her in a way that you didn't feel about him since you knew that he could handle any situation as a man. Tell him as hard as you have tried you don't fit in as you did in Texas.That the people are to different for you to understand them and they don't understand you.(I am a Texan and no where is anyone like Texas people) Tell him the winters are to long and you like the long Texas summers and short mild winters. Be honest and list what you miss and list what you have gained by moving there. Your miss list will be longer. Just talk to him man to man. Make sure that he knows you love him and make sure mom will let you change your mind. I used to make my daughter stand by her decisions at least a year to give it a chance.
2007-10-28 18:45:02 · answer #2 · answered by Linda S 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best thing you can do is sit down with your dad & tell him what you feel. Tell him everything that you have told us here, sweetie. Maybe not the worst choice part..just not the right choice. I was a child of divorced parents, so I get where you are coming from. Getting this all off your chest will make you feel better & it will definitely help for your dad to know how you are feeling. Let your dad know you moved there for him & his family, but everything else is just not working out. I can't tell you how he will react & whether you will get your wishes, but I am sure he loves you & will listen to what you have to say. Good luck :o)
2007-10-28 13:06:07 · answer #3 · answered by ♫brokenangel♫ 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
your dad will not "never look at you the same." I don't know if you should go back though, i think that would really hurt his feelings. maybe you could work something out where you spend summers in texas? or like, depending on what college you go to when you go to college (its not so far away as it seems), some colleges have really long breaks, and you could spend every break in texas. or you could do it the other way around? homesickness does go away and is normal. you will probably make friends. this is something that's up to you to decide.
2007-10-28 12:53:15 · answer #4 · answered by Becca R 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would stay there. You wanted to go there, and it's not fair to keep jerking everyone around financially and emotionally. Sometimes in life you have to live with the decisions you make and just man-up about it. It's even ok to say "Damn, I wish I wouldn't have moved here." Keep that to yourself but recognize the emotion, that's a way to deal with it. You said you had "few" friends but that's ok as long as you have some. They won't be ashamed of you btw, that's not the emotion they will feel at all.
2007-10-28 13:04:16 · answer #5 · answered by The Scorpion 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well you are a grow man now and know that you did made a mistake by moving to your father's house.
I suggest you say what you mean and you have to mean it when you want to leave again to Texas.
follow you heart and say to your father what you want and i am sure he will understand that you miss your friends.
2007-10-28 12:58:55 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
you are old enough to know whats right for you. I'm sure your dad will understand. besides you might start to get really depressed and your grades may drop. get it over with and talk to your dad. good luck
2007-10-28 12:54:57 · answer #7 · answered by notmygame 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well i'd just say something. or just tough it out. but im sure your dad will understand. even though, he probably did give some $$ 2 get u there.
2007-10-28 12:53:06 · answer #8 · answered by Dusty. (: 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all try to speak to your father of about how you feel andv then say to him that you may wish to return to your mother and see what he has to say...
2007-10-28 17:05:30 · answer #9 · answered by chrisvoulg1 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
if i were you i would of moved with your mom.she is your real mom.my opinion is that when parents get divorced you should always stay with mom.good luck
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2007-10-28 12:59:39 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋