ok. so me and this guy have been going out for almost a year now. we love eachother bery much but i have a real bad jeaousy problem.he has this friend thats a girl and they sit next to eachother in a class and all class they write notes back and forth about her and his sex life and all thats stuff.it really hurts me when he talks about other girls and i dont kwno why. i tell him that but he just dosnt understan, i dont even want him to tell me about when he talks to other girls and what tehy said because it makes me so mad. i need help on how to deal with my jealousy promblem and how to explain it to him...please
2007-10-28 05:30:49 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
this is a normal thing. no one likes it wen you talk about the guys/girls you talk to. let him kno next time and make sure he hears you that you dont like it wen he talks about other girls. and be careful because this may be leading to him cheating on u.
2007-10-28 05:35:42 · answer #1 · answered by footballbhs_1393 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some people are sensitive enough to take your expressed feelings to heart and modify their behavior. Then there's the other kind of animal....the kind that likes to rub your nose in it and pretend it was an accidental occurrence. Here's the remedy: Pretend (with all your might) that it doesn't bother you at all, otherwise he'll just keep on doing it. It's difficult at first, but the more you do it, the more you'll reinforce that belief in your head, and before long, you really WON'T care (you'll just recognize it for the childish tactic it really is), and you'll actually pity the poor slob that needs to make someone else feel misery to feel good about themselves. Once you reach that point, it's a simple half-step away from dumping him. Enjoy the journey.
2007-10-28 12:38:48 · answer #2 · answered by Captain S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
see, this is where a guy and a girl have completly diffrent veiws on life.. he may be disscusing his personal life with this chick, but he sees her as someone he can trust. whene guys talk about that sorta stuff to a girl, its because the other guys would probly make fun of him and get all inmachture on him.. so the fine line, he's probly just talking to her as a friend and nothing more, cheting is something that for example, : u wouldent normaly do infront of him. so if hes telling u that he talks to her and all that stuff u menchened chances are he seriously is not looking at the same way u are, this girl is like his confidant, or like a therapist, thats probly how he see's it, and not like "oh shes hot, lets cheat". i think u should trust him more.
2007-10-28 12:45:00 · answer #3 · answered by Nicole J 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok... One. If you want to still be able to talk to your male friends without him freaking out, you need to get over this jealousy thing QUICK!. Two. Have you met the girl? Maybe you could befriend her, and it wouldn't be so bad. Besides.... Guys having female friends are godsends. Female friends give them advise when they have no clue what's going on, ideas on presents, and lots of other stuff most females don't divuldge because we're too freaking complicated. Trust me, this could be a good thing.
2007-10-28 12:39:08 · answer #4 · answered by cresentrosetat 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first try to get over your jealousy problem, and second what you should do is talk about what some of your guy friends tell you and see how he likes it and of cores he will tell you to stop because he will feel uncomfortable then when does that you tell him i will stop when you stop making me feel bad and talking about other girls to me like I'm just your friend and if he try's to say you never told me to stop. you then think of all what he said to you about the other girls and trust me Bab you will get him where you wont hem and he will stop, but theres nothing wrong with he havening girl friends as long as hes telling them that he taken lol
good look
2007-10-28 12:47:54 · answer #5 · answered by lovekhalia 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he's with you so why are you so insecure. Tell yourself that he's your boyfriend and you have nothing to worry about. You keep acting jealous and you are going to drive him away.
2007-10-28 12:41:10 · answer #6 · answered by shellshell 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
slap him in his face....break up with hi,..forget about him its like feeling bad about a sickness all it does is hurt you! dont miss him ...move on to someone who loves and cares about you he isnt worth an a$$ hair!
2007-10-28 12:42:18 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
its normal most ever guy has friends that are girls long as they dont cheat dont worry about it
2007-10-28 12:33:51 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
slap him in the face
2007-10-28 12:33:14 · answer #9 · answered by Calum o 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u should let him know how u feel
2007-10-28 12:34:19 · answer #10 · answered by CinderAngel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋