I'm going to be starting birth control pills but I am thinking I am not going to tell my boyfriend. I know him and I know he will not want to use condoms if he knows i'm on the pill.
I just want birth control as a backup method to be extra safe, but i don't feel that it is safe enough on its own!
Am I being smart about this, or is this just wrong?
2007-10-28 05:07:29 · 41 answers · asked by starryeyed 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Regardless if you tell him or not, make him use a condom-there are lot of diseases out there.
2007-10-28 05:15:45 · answer #1 · answered by heada_bone 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are being very smart about this. You can be honest with your bf about the fact that you are taking precautions too. You need to let him know though that there will be no sex if he isn't wearing a condom regardless of whether you are on the pill or not. Neither form of birth control is 100% effective alone. Together they are as close as you can get though. You have made a very good decision here. The only other way you can be sure that you are safe is to do without sex all together. When that is not really a possibility then the next best thing is to go for the pill and the condom. Don't beat your self up here. Give yourself a pat on the back for doing the right thing and the smart thing.
2007-10-28 05:14:04 · answer #2 · answered by firemouse23 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are just covering your tracks and if you really want him to use a condom, then don't tell him. It doesn't have to be his business until you want it to be. Although, if you take your pill everday at the same time (within an hour of the regular time), you will be safe enough. The pill is very effective when used the right way, but you can't miss a day. It just depends on how serious you guys are and if you trust him enough not to use a condom. But, if you were using condoms alone before, that's way more risky than the pill alone, so you are safe either way.
2007-10-28 05:14:05 · answer #3 · answered by TeggieMcG 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Birth control pills are very effective against pregnancy, but not STDs. It's up to you to tell your boyfriend about the pills or not, but even if you told him it's also up to you to insist on condom useage or not. Condoms are a backup for the pill (not the other way around) AND help protect against STDs.
It's your body dear...you have every right to insist any penis that enters it be wearing a condom, whether you are on the pill, the shot, the IUD, the ring, or any other form of female birth control. Take care of you!
2007-10-28 05:12:40 · answer #4 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is smart, but there is still a possibility that you can get pregnant even on the pill. My sister and other girls I know have gotten pregnant even when they were on the pill.
Going on the pill is smart and there is no need for him to know if you do not want to tell him, so you are doing the right things!
2007-10-28 05:13:25 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that you are extremely smart in not telling him. Birth control pills are not completely fool proof. I know at least 3 people who have gotten pregnant while on birth control and they could have sworn that it was foolproof. All it takes is one missed pill for it to be messed up.
There is no shame in keeping this from him. I think that you are an incredibly intelligent young woman who is looking out for her best interests.
2007-10-28 05:10:54 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your being smart about this in a way, birth control doesn't always work so if you tell him that ur on birth control then he won't use a condom and you still may up being pregnant.
2007-10-28 05:10:48 · answer #7 · answered by oconnorboy101 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Your Rx for the pill is your own private business. It's a good idea for a back up plan, as things can go wrong. You didn't mention your ages; teens don't usually think much about this issue until there is a problem. I don't see anything wrong with fooling around, no kidding.
2007-10-28 05:17:27 · answer #8 · answered by RT 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
>your conscience is the one reacting on it.
>fear of being pregnant is what disturbing you maybe you're too young or not ready or fear that your relationship will end and what if....so many if...
>try to re-evaluate yourself and if the right time come then discuss this to your boyfriend if necessary..
>you can't tell if safe or not using pills or condom what is important is be more responsible when things happens
>having sex/intercourse is not a short game or play ...both should be responsible in their action...
2007-10-28 05:20:18 · answer #9 · answered by bonita 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I tjhink you're being smart. I use the Pill and condoms for extra protection, and also to protect me from STDs.
Although I do think your boyfriend should know, you should be able to discuss it together.
Ultimately, it is you that could be pregnant, not him, so it should be your decision.
2007-10-28 05:10:55 · answer #10 · answered by Suite-Pee 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
PLEASE protect yourself. You are not being "wrong" you are taking "personal responsibility" which is very admirable and it is absolutely the right thing to do. You will never regret this action. And the pill is not 100% and it does not protect you from STDs. You are doing the right thing, it is not dishonest to NOT tell him that you are taking extra precautions...it is your responsibilty to protect ypurself in every way possible. Good for you, you have a good head on your shoulders.
2007-10-28 05:12:44 · answer #11 · answered by Marlin Darlin 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋