Help my maid and matron do not get along?

Question

They disagree on everything like the bridemaid dresses and everything else, they are stressing me out. What do I do?

Answer 1

They shouldn't both be involved in the decision making process. Usually, if you are looking for involvement, you only seek it from you Maid of Honor, not the underlings. Bottom line, it's your wedding, you have final say on all choices. If they are driving you crazy then tell them that they are and because they are, you are not including them in the decision making process. Tell them you are disappointed, as you were really relying on them to help make this a fun and exciting time. That should be enough of a guilt trip to straighten them out and get them to start acting a little more mature.

Answer 2

I'm so sorry that what is supposed to be a happy time is becoming so stressful!

These people are supposed to be your friends. Whether or not they are friends shouldn't matter. They need to realize, and you may have to sit them down and explain things to them, without sounding like a bridezilla, :) that they are in your wedding, and whether or not they "get along" is irrelevant. For the wedding they MUST cooperate and be civilized. Maybe one of them needs to step down (if you are willing to go that far). Tell them that they're upsetting you and that their job is to help you not make your stress worse.

Since ultimately you will choose the dresses, thank them for their input and decide and tell them "this is what you'll wear". If they won't act like adults, treat them like children.

good luck, and congrats on the upcoming nuptials

Answer 3

It's time to get the two of them together and tell them that they're stressing you out. Obviously you can't make two people get along but you can let them know how you feel. They should be mature enough to put aside their differences for a little while.

Short of the two of them agreeing to work it out together, take as many choices out of their hands as possible. This is your groom's and your day so do what you want.

Answer 4

first of all you need to sit them down and tell them that this is YOUR DAY not theirs...if they can't keep their petty disagreements out of the plans then you will pick others to take their place. Ask them if they really care about you and your wants and needs...tell them they r putting unnecessary stress on you and to stop it. If they refuse pick 2 other friends to be maid and matron...let them know it
After all this is YOUR WEDDING you should be happy with the planning not stressed!

Answer 5

tell them both to suck it up, like the other girls have answered, it's your day . Take the strong hand- choose the dresses for them.say that's it. this is how it's going to be, tell them both that you don't need this stress and if they can't handle it, say that you'll find two others to take their places.
Remember it's your and your fiance's day, not theirs.
You want to remember it as a happy, loving day.

Answer 6

They dont have to get along - They have to remember that this wedding is NOT about them and to remove their animosities long enough to handle their responsibilities to YOU to make YOUR day as wonderful as can be. Tell them to get over themselves and get it together or you will replace BOTH of their assesssssss!

Answer 7

It may be time to sit down and have a heart to heart with them about this.

Let them know how much you value their friendship. Tell them that you understand they do not like each other. Explain to them you need them to put aside their differences because you need their help with this special time in your life.

After that, you may need to get more firm. They are acting like children and need to grow up.

Good luck.