He's incredibley cute, funny and a really dead on guy but every single girl he's gone out with is pretty, popular and a complete and utter *****! They all wear four tons of make-up and fake tan and wear skirts that don't even cover their ****! But I'm not like that! He just thinks of me as a friend (i got someone to ask for me). I don't wear makeup (apart of lippy) and i'm naturally tan so i dont need fake tan. My skirt is short but not super micro mini. And he isn't bothered at all! As long as their pretty and popular. Someone please help me!
2007-10-28 04:37:51 · 22 answers · asked by SummerAfterAll 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
This may not be what you want to hear, but the truth is there isn't a thing you can do about it. Agonizing over it is just going to make it worse. The truth is, this is what he wants. You said yourself that he isn't bothered by it. You can't make him like you, you can't make him see the light about those other girls, you can't make the situation fair. The best you can do is take a breath and try moving on. Starting looking for other guys - guys who will appreciate you and not a girl with half a skirt on.
2007-10-28 04:43:47 · answer #1 · answered by skycat119 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a very important lesson for you to learn. Save this and make sure to re-read it, as it is easy to forget.
Do not try to change people, understand how they operate and accept it.
Also do not shift the cause and effect. This guy just may not be attracted to you, even if those other girls were not around.
You sound a little bitter and jealous. You need to address that with yourself and understand who you are. I understand what you are saying, I would not want to be a younger person today.
The impact of pop-culture, image-only, me-me-me, out-short skirt the other girls, is not really a positive situation.
You might not have that much in common with this guy anyway. Try to find someone who is more like you.
2007-10-28 11:48:24 · answer #2 · answered by Gatsby216 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't change everything about u 2 get him!!!!!!!!! But try that look 4 ,1 day and see if he notices u more!!! And if he does keep at it for 3 or 4 weeks showing him what u will do 4 him!!!!!!! Or be funny about it making fun of the girls he went out with to show him u have a sense of humor!!! Glad 2 help!!!!
2007-10-28 11:44:56 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This guy may be the guy of your dreams, but he isn't worth it. If he goes for those kind of girls, then hes not your type. Go for someone that is REAL and you can relate to. Most important--- don't change youtself. Don't go get a spray tan-- you will look orange. Don't put on a ton of makeup-- it hides your real beauty. Keep your clothes stylish, not slutty. Make your personality addictive, and you will find the right guy.
2007-10-28 11:43:23 · answer #4 · answered by kaycool 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being a guy myself I can say let him pass. Most guys are only after one thing. Be yourself. If you like him that much then ask yourself what price do you have to pay to get his affection? No guy is worth making a mistake that could shorten you life thru some STD that there is no cure for, or being placed into a family way. Set your morals on a higher plain. If some guy is truely interested he'll come up to your level. Don't sell yourself cheap. Being a virgin on your wedding night is a very special gift to the man who finally wins your heart.
2007-10-28 11:58:26 · answer #5 · answered by zredd7 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get his attention with your wit and charm.
Don't play school girl games.... you approach him, don't act stupid, show your smart side, act interested but don't fall all over him.
Ask him if he would like to go have a coffee or burger someplace after school. Don't be crushed if he refuses you the first time ask him again in a couple of weeks or if there is a concert or something special going on around town ask him to that.
Be confident, smile and be yourself. If he is as shallow as you make him out to be... do you really want to spend time with him?????
30 years from now he will be bald and fat.
2007-10-28 11:45:27 · answer #6 · answered by grannyzattic 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Many people often cry at the exceptionally poor choices very attractive and likeable people make in their relationships - look at Nicole Kidman, Sandra Bullock, Terry Hatcher, Julia Roberts and many others!
Unfortunately you can't change it, and you can't make him like you - he's too immature. Best of luck. Find a good guy who realises what an awesome person you are.
2007-10-28 11:41:39 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Attitude is everything. Make up and very short skirts are a reflection of their personality, showing that they know what boys like and want to give it to them them. Boys apreciate that. Make up may not make them look prettier, but it shows they are willing to make the effort. You are not willing to make the effort, and boys see that. Same for the short skirts. Its a competition to see who wants him the most, and you just dont want to compete.
2007-10-28 11:45:06 · answer #8 · answered by Fred S - AM Cappo Di Tutti Capi 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sad truth, there's a very little chance that you will ever get that guy.
I'll bet you don't like those bitches and you don't want to be one of them.
Be yourself, love is a mysterious thing, who knows that he might be interested in you someday when he's changed the type of girls he'd date; for now he sounds like he just wants to play.
Don't hurt yourself and lower your level by trying to be one of those girls ^^
~Ming~
2007-10-28 11:45:33 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's just not into you, let it go. He's likes the fake girls and right now he just wants to play. Find yourself a guy who's not so shallow.
2007-10-28 11:40:42 · answer #10 · answered by maigen_obx 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋