is it ok writing my ex telling him how i feel?

Question

so i went off on him because i heared alot of crap he been talking about me. my friend told me he was talking bad about me behind my back. so i went off and idk. cuz i still have feeling for him but not soooo much but i just want us to be friends. but im not really sure if he did :(

Answer 1

What is the purpose in you wiriting him? Are you writing him to apologize, ask him a question, or just to vent? Is it to make you feel better or to make him feel better? Think about these questions and then maybe you'll have your answer. What will this accomplish and is he worth your time? I personally wouldn't give him the satisfaction or the time. It's better to just move on!

Answer 2

First of all, are you positive he was talking about you behind your back? Have you any other evidence other than what your friend told you? Do you trust your friend's word?

If you do believe it and you're sure he said disrespectful and unkind things about you, then don't write to him. He's a scumbag and will only use your letter to hurt you more. You don't want to be friends with a guy like that. Have some self-respect.

Answer 3

Unfortunately...the issue with "ex's" is there are so many feelings inside. Whether you have been with this person a short while or many years, the fact that you were with them means you MUST have felt something. Don't be so hard on yourself, these are the hardest feelings to let go of. And if he truly WAS talking smack about you, then that means he's having the same issues and saying things to make himself look cool. Just give it time, I know how hard that is, but really, time is the best healer with the matters of the heart.

Answer 4

The biggest part of any relationship is TRUST. If you don't trust the person then call it a definate quits. And you should speak to him personally about the deal ..I could be someone was just pulling your chain to try to bereak you up. If you want the truth ,they say, get it from the horses mouth.. Ask him outright. And, above all, avoid a verbal conflict. Word wars are sooo un-adult and immature.

good Luck.

Answer 5

Well from what you are saying I can let you know that he is not a gentleman for sure
The best way for you is to ignore him
From my experience I learned that when a man is ignored he is suffering like a dog.
He is a dog so why give him the attention he does not deserve?
Go on with your life and just show to him that he is nothing to you and never will
If you will talk to him probably he will deny everything life is short why to waste it on garbage?

Answer 6

He will only show it to his buddies and get off on it,If he has any feelings for you,he will get in touch but trust me, you will be on a fools errand and make yourself look weak, so just try and be strong, I know it's hard but it is the only way to keep your self respect. Best wishes Ann.

Answer 7

If you believed your friend that your ex was saying a lot of crap about you, why still be friends with him?

Answer 8

Let it go... whenever somebody starts to tell me what my ex said about me ( or anyone for that matter) I stop them and say.."Yeah, whatever you heard, it's probably true" that shuts em up, and I don't have to worry about what some ex said or didn't say about me... I don't care..

Let it go.

Answer 9

if you do that it'll come out as if your asking him back, so no........... If he is talking behind your back just ignore him sooner or later he'll grow tired........ or if you want confront him, but don't write to him. Confront him face to face.......

Answer 10

Wow, you're a jerk. You should have talked to him first instead of just turning on him and immediately assuming he's guilty. You aren't a very good GF.