Peer pressure?

Question

I am different to most people, they don't really take studying at school that seriously and I know what I need to do.

However they'd like to spend most of their time with the boys, and they have more make-up items than pens.
I think I'm a naturally pretty girl (honestly!), I'm not ugly or anything, I believe everyone is born beautiful, and well, these rough people are always asking me to be with them.

A guy who's the same age as me (14) is a horny little sleeze, and he's already lost his virginity which I think is gross, and he's been really pervy and I'm not comfortable with it.

I want to be a barrister when I'm older I know it takes lots of dedication, and you have to demonstrate that you can take in lots of information and be able to recognise small details.

But my so-called friends are just the complete opposite to me. Loud...etc.
I have always been quiet person, so am I a social outcast?

Please try to answer some of my questions, and all comments welcome

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Answer 1

Just because you want to do well in life doesn't mean that your an outcast. Keep up the hard work in school and so many doors will open up for you. Your absolutely right becoming a barrister is not easy work but if you want the good things in life you've got to work hard for them. If these friends want to get in the way of your ambitions or whatever then there not really friends at all are they?

Answer 2

I guess you live in England? I don't know where else they have Barristers.
My friend went to West Point Military Academy in the USA. That is where the smartest of the smart guys go. All the famous military Generals went there like Ulysses S. Grant, Robert E. Lee, George S. Patton, Douglas MacArthur.

He worked hard in school and was an outcast. I was a pot smoker and a drinker and didn't take school seriously.

Today, he makes a quarter million dollars a year, I make $30,000.00.
He does whatever he wants and I work 7 days a week.

Do not worry about what the others do, say or think. You are dang smart and you will be successful while the little dirtbags will be in the queue for welfare.

Best wishes to you! I wish I was like you when I was 14.

Answer 3

you are always going to be different from everyone and that is o.k. as long as you know who you are and what you stand for then allow them to think what they want.
keep your head level and on you shoulders, try and make the right decision regarding every thing that you do and as long as you know that you are right then have no regrets.
be considerate towards others and be grateful for good information. hang with people that you can learn from.
yes your friends might call you names but they cant hurt you and that will only make you stronger, so if they are not with you then they are against you and if they cant help you then let them be.
stick to the rules of your family and stay grounded they reading the bible at a passage per day and go to church. there is nothing wrong with wanting to move ahead in life and as long as you are doing it the right way the god bless you my dear
good luck in your endeavors

Answer 4

everyone in this world is different ignore pressure from the people that try to push you into trying to think and dont for gods sake let your morals get twisted by people that say that this is the way you should be stick to your guns and tell them to sod off when things are right for you you will know when that time comes good luck and keep thinking positive

Answer 5

You seem to know the answer - you have set yourself a goal and you should stick to it. By using the term 'so called friends' you already seem to doubt their friendship. Why don't you make new friends with other quiet (sensible) people with whom you have more in common? Don't bow to peer pressure. If you are being pressured into doing something you don't want, talk about it with parents / guardian.

Answer 6

I'll try - Just be yourself and don't let other ppl influence you , you will find that they will make you out to be an outcst but fight it and stay true to what you waant to do.

I know it's a long time but if you can persevere for the next 2 years, your life will offer different oppurtunities once you leave school.

And please don't go out with nerds who just wanna get in with you , if u know wat i mean, you will have plenty of time for that later as you grow up , trust me , be very choosey as to who you associate and go out with.

cant think of anything else at the mo .
good luck

Answer 7

There's not many people like you in the world. Best of luck to you, and this guy sounds freaky... tell your dad, it always works.

Answer 8

firstly id like to say well done for being you and not being a stereotype, i think you sound very mature for your age and i bet your folks are really proud of you! keep doing what your doing because you will out shine those silly girls and sleezy boys! :-) x

Answer 9

Your unique, thats a GOOD thing!