what would you do if you in my situation?

Question

me and my hubby plan to go to visit my family.. already purchase airplane tickets back and fro that cost over $1000 for him as he don't get more leave... we agree and he so happy that he can back to his hometown too and visit my family too.. (his parents move just miles away from our home).. a few hours before we are going to airport.. his father call him and tell him if he going back to see my family.. they will never accept my hubby as their children anymore.. then, my hubby telling me that he's not going along with me.. he like mommy boy too.. they dont have any excuses for that.. my in-laws just want to break my heart. im so frustrated.. what should i do

im sorry, my english is not so good.. but i realy need answer from all of you..

im sorry, my english is not so good.. but i realy need answer from all of you..

thanks in advance

it happen a week ago.. i still contact my hubby but my heart still hurts, he told me that's not easy for him... and im thinking that what will happen in my future if he keep act like that.. we still keep in touch but sometimes i feel like i don't want to be with him anymore even though i still love him.. honestly, i didn't miss him like i used to..

he visit his parents everyday!!!!! and im just visit my family once or twice a year!!!

i have so much to tell but i don't know how to express them..

Answer 1

tell your husband he's a ******* idiot

Answer 2

Listen my friend I can feel your condition. And one thing your english is quite good. Ok. What you do is to take everything in a very normal way and if your hubby's parents says that then I think the best way is that your hubby should go to see your parents as well as his parents and if his parents doesnot accepts then dont be sad about it because remember his parents are wrong in there path. They should not take the ba advantage of their son's weakness and I think the best way is to visit both of the family and keep your family safe and happy all the time.

Answer 3

Well it was a little hard to figure out what you were saying, but I think I got most of it. Well, did he go with you? If he didn't he needs to grow up. He is either still their little boy or a man and your husband. Your family wants to see you and your husband also and I'm sure you wanted to visit with them. That is just stupid of them to say that to your husband. Seems like they are very controlling. You had spent a lot of money on the tickets alone not to mention any other expenses. What are they so afraid of? You don't need their permission. Please update what happens.

Answer 4

I'm not trying to be rude or anything, but I couldn't completely understand your question. Is your husband not going on vacation with you because his parents don't want him to visit your family? (This is what I read in one of the answers you got). Then, your husband needs to grow up already. How old is he that his parents still tell him what he can or cannot do?

Answer 5

*sigh* honey, it looks like there is nothing you can do. Get on that plain and go see your parents by you self. If his parents are going to act like children the best thing you can do is kill them with kindness. Act like it doesn't bother you and they won't bother trying after a while.

This little story broke my heart. How could people be like that. Go and be with your family and be happy that they are still there. Talk openly with your husband about how you feel but don't let his parents see our pain. Some people just like to make other people hurt. When your married to a family like that, you grin, and hold your husband tight.

Good luck to you, sweetie! I know how it hurts to be messed with by people like that!

Answer 6

Why not try the same game they are, tell him if he goes to visit them you will leave, then ask him how ridiculous you sounded making that demand of him. maybe he will start to see that they are out of line (what he does with his time is his own business) then try to sit down and have a somewhat rational heart to heart talk with him and try to find some kind of agreement (do you have to tell his parents what vacation plans you have?)

Answer 7

Okay, your in-laws are absolutely insane if you can't go visiting your family. Your husband is a fool for going along with it and you need to sit him down, tell him just how wrong his parents are and that if he doesn't come with you, maybe you won't be coming back.

Answer 8

You already said it, he's not your husband, he's THEIR child. If a visit is going to cause this kind of drama, then are you prepared to come in last place everytime with your in laws?

Unless he breaks the apron strings, you're always going to be last on his list.

Answer 9

Tell ur hubbie, he married you not his mum. When his parent's die, who will he have in his life?
I had to explain to my hubbie that I am his family now, Not his mum.
He chose to be with me, not the other way round. Put your foot down.

Answer 10

You are married to your husband, not your in-laws. You should stand your ground and go on the holiday. It is not fair for them to enforce ultimatums like this on you and your husband. Your husband will need to try to talk to his parents and explain that you are now just as important as they are and by seeing your family, it does not weaken their bond.

Answer 11

why not every one go on vacation together, who knows the, y might like that, parents like to go out once in a while too, maybe it will bring everyone closer together like one big family