My boyfriend left me, and he doesn't want to keep the baby. I really don't care if my child will have no father. But my problem is, how do I tell mom, with out making her feel that she's a failure in raising me up?
2007-10-27 18:02:26 · 59 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
my mom i'm knocked up
2007-10-27 18:06:15 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 4⤋
Just tell her the truth. Be honest and let her know that You made a bad choice and that it has nothing to do with her. Tell her that you want to keep the baby and that the father wants nothing to do the baby. Assure her that you will do your best to take care of the baby even if it means getting a job and finishing school. There are lots of programs out there like Head Start and Even start that help single parents and educate them in child development and offer full day care and half day care. Good luck
2007-10-27 18:14:25 · answer #2 · answered by liliana 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Please keep in mind that you are not a "failure" since you have conceived a child. Be upfront with your mom and tell her what has happened as she will soon be able to tell that you are pregnant. If your so called boyfriend doesn't want a child, then he should have taken some precautions, as well.
Don't feel ashamed about what has already occured, simply realize that you MUST face up to the consequences of your behavior. Sit down with your mom and explain what has happened. Be prepared to deal with some of the negative emotions that she may initially have, but then realize that we aren't perfect, although we can still strive toward perfection.
Whatever the consequences, go with what you conscious tells you to do with the situation that has been created.
2007-10-27 18:12:35 · answer #3 · answered by TIMMY D 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow, tough question. I guess I would tell her how much you love her and that you think she is a good mom (if you truly feel that way) and then gently let her know that you are pregnant. Now it's possible that your mom may already knows (they have that 6th sense sometimes). It's probably good that you found out what kind of guy your boyfriend was before the baby comes, but please do not let him escape his responsibility to his child unless you don't want him in the childs life.
Being pregnant, by the way, doesn't make YOU a failure either!
Good Luck!
2007-10-27 18:06:55 · answer #4 · answered by Oshkosh Girl 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Pregnancy is an an adult issue. Your Mom loves you and will love your child. The Father is responsible for the child also and must be held accountable. Do not allow the guy to walk off into his life without a care. He has a child and he should share the cost of its upbringing. Grow up and face the facts, you need your Mom now more than ever. Tell her now and get it done. She will flip, but she will calm down and be on your side.
2007-10-27 18:11:08 · answer #5 · answered by ToolManJobber 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Well, you will just have to tell her and risk that she will be hurt by the news. Later, she will know how best to help you and you really do need her help!! Next time you act before you think something through, maybe you will remember that your actions do not only affect you. Your mother probably does not want to be the 'mother' of a newborn all over again. But b/c you are not emotionally, mentally, or financially prepared to take care of it, she will have to if you decide to keep the baby with you. You need to step up to the plate and do everything you can to take the load off of her and put it on yourself, where it ultimately belongs. good luck!!
2007-10-27 18:09:28 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Ahh, yes this question comes up a lot. I know this is a very hard thing to do. You must be feeling nervous, almost scared to death. You must remember be calm, maybe take a few days to relax and calm your nerves and prepare what you are going to say to her. You should probably say it to her alone maybe during dinner or lunch. Do not be so sudden, sort of start off talking about what happend between you and your boyfriend and that he left you, then mention the baby. Also reasure her that you will take care of the baby and be fine.
2007-10-27 18:05:55 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
First of all when you go to tell your mom.... make sure she is not in a dangerous environment like driving, or holding kitchen utensil, ask her if she has been feeling well, because the last thing you are going to need is for her to pass out, or cut her self... God forbid. Then start telling her about you ex boy friend. Then as your conversation goes on tell her.... You can do it... Don't be afraid, she is your mother and she loves you very much!
2007-10-27 18:24:45 · answer #8 · answered by Bonnie 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Honey stick to your guns and your beliefs. some men are just ******* if the guy left you he'll truly regret it in the future, I am so proud of you for wanting to have your child even though he's not in the pic because there are a lot of women in your position who are cowards and just get an abortion thinking its the easy way out. As for your mom, well some mothers are different some are accepting and some will say get the eff out of my house but now you are a mom so you need to be strong and do whats right for you and your child ... there are so many resources out there if she's not willing to help, ofcourse it will be hard but now that your a mother i know you'll be able to do it.
2007-10-27 18:08:41 · answer #9 · answered by bROWNbEAUTY UDontLikeIt?TooBad! 4 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Honestly I know exactly where your coming from. I dreaded telling my mother for weeks and weeks until oneday i just up and told her. She was like I knew you were going to tell me that, i dont know how or why but i just knew it. She was upset but more than anything she was happy for me. I was going to be a mother and start a new part of my life. You cant ask her not to be upset or disapointed. It was harder for my mother i'd say because I'd just went and did the same thing she did at my age. Every mother wants the best for their child. So put yourself in her shoes for a moment, youll find its just as scary to her. You need to tell her you know you made a mistake but its not going to wreck your life. That you need her now more than ever and honestly she will already know all this. Congrats! and good luck! and remember to take a deep breath from time to time. everything happens for a reason and it will all work out for the best in the end. ^_^
Honestly, the sooner you tell her the sooner you two can start to plan for the new arrival! she will love every second of it and you will be closer to your mother than ever. ^_^
2007-10-27 18:17:45 · answer #10 · answered by AnGeL.SlayeR 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
For a start you have to make huge desicions about what you want to do.. Your mother will be totally shocked, angry but she will calm down.. Boyfriend is probably in shock too that's why he left or he is just a plain old loser! The quicker you tell your mom the better for you all... Just sit her down and say mom I got my self into a small problem that is going to be huge.. etc etc.. good luck sweetie..
2007-10-27 18:08:02 · answer #11 · answered by Bel! 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋