i am 15 and i have been in a relationship with my 16 year old cousin for about two years now. we both lost our virginity to eachother and have been having sex for about a year. but a couple of months ago we stopped using a condom and now she is pregnant. we havent told anyone yet but we both want to have the baby. what should we do??
2007-10-27 17:51:44 · 34 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
The laws regarding civil union between cousins vary from state to state. Also, the genetic risk to the newborn depends on whether you're first cousins or not... either way it's low... but for 2nd cousins it's negligible. (You will be given a lot of ignorant and bad advice about that in your situation unfortunately... please don't base any of your decisions on ridiculous untrue horror stories... those people don't have a clue).
Would you be able to state in a comment which area you are in, and how strongly related you are to your partner? (Don't feel obliged though if you don't wish to do so).
Anyway, I answered a similar question on here once and provided some links. I'll go find it and update this post.
Edit: I found that old question... the links I gave back then are dud now... but I have found these. (Includes facts about cousin couples, and a link to Young Positive Pregnancy/Parenting Online).
2007-10-27 18:04:23 · answer #1 · answered by Secie 3 · 2⤊ 3⤋
DO your parents know you were seeing each other as in some cultures it is the norm for cousins to even marry.. My first concern is why you even stopped using condoms.. But that is a little too late now.. you are gonna have to tell the family soon before your girlfriend get any further along. Get toa doctor and get her checked out as there could be some problems with the baby... good luck and if you are both in love like you say you are. Be happy
2007-10-27 18:13:02 · answer #2 · answered by Bel! 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
You should tell your parents. I think if you consult a doctor they will tell you there is very little chance of anything going wrong with the baby genetically, and the further away the family relationship the less chance.
It is legal for second cousins to marry in almost every state, I believe. In some states it is legal for first cousins to marry, but other no. That's all I know.
You guys are awfully young in either case. Why did you stop using a condom? That was not wise.
2007-10-27 17:58:44 · answer #3 · answered by Singinganddancing 6 · 5⤊ 0⤋
My brother had a baby with his first cousin the baby was born with all kinds of defects. Its intestines were inside out. She had missing finger nails or called stubs she was missing some of her toes and she had a whole in the roof of her mouth. She lived Riley Children's Hospital for a month and then they sent her home with lots of machines she died in pain at 3 months old. This little baby didn't deserve this. You want to play with fire you will get burnt. What you need to do is first tell your parents. Then she needs to get in to see the doctor right away if their is any chance of normal she needs to tell the doctor that you guys are first cousins so they can start doing test and giving her medication. to prevent some of the complications. If you try to hide it and wait too long your just going to have more problems Regardless on how stupid you guys are(were) what ever! This baby didn't do anything wrong get it the help it needs now.... Pay the consequences later.
2007-10-29 03:33:52 · answer #4 · answered by just to let you know 1 · 1⤊ 2⤋
im sorry but in the first place?? this is disgusting
ya dont have sex with a cuz..this is called incest i believe and against the law in some states
i suggest you two go to differant states stay away from eachother and grow up... you and her both need counseling..do you realize this child may be mentally impaired and other issues could arise in this child?? what in the heck are you both thinking?? apparently you didnt care about eachothr enough to use protection..and i have to say ya both didnt think about the consequences of getting pregnant.. GOD bless you all and get to a dr and make sure everything is ok..also what about this child when he or she grows up?? wow... and the word gets out who her or his parents are..cousins..can you just imagine the life this poor child will have
the baby will be your daughter or son and also a cousin... this is so sick
tell your parents asap...
2007-10-27 18:19:26 · answer #5 · answered by bettym 5 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Its happened and there is nothing you can do to go back in time, you are both in love with each other and now having a baby, tell your parents and get married and take care of the baby and continue your education and find parttime jobs and do the best you can to stick together and pray God helps you through all your life.
2007-10-27 18:10:44 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
the answer is simple, if u want a baby & if u love her a lot ,stand beside her(bcoz its a very crucial time for her)convince your parents, her parents, marry her, find a part time job, earn to raise your family, to look after your child,be independent( dont depend on your family for money) continue your studies, have patience, this is your life's crucial exam, succeed in this,good luck.
2007-10-27 18:25:31 · answer #7 · answered by chaitra s 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Well I think you are in deep trouble I mean okay if you weren't her cousin theni t would be okay but more than 50% of babies who have mums and dads in the same and family either don't make it or become mental.
2007-10-27 22:27:26 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
I am more concerned about the baby here. Your fifteen years old and she is sixteen, this decision will highly highly influence your future and will make things very hard on yourselves. Your family will be horribly angry at you, you'll jeopardize your education and her education and your future will be a lot harder.
Two consented adults who are cousins...if they want to have sex...well, thats nobody's business. BUT YOU ARE FIFTEEN...SHE IS SIXTEEN.....and not to mention you are both very very very selfish, bringing a child into this world who's parents are not mature enough, financially secure enough and intellectual enough to take care of it. Let me guess, mommy will take care of baby for you? raise it for you?
Your heading towards trouble.
2007-10-27 17:59:16 · answer #9 · answered by SolarSoul 4 · 4⤊ 2⤋
Thats really sick. I think you should have her give the baby up for adoption that is the best option unless you want to be humliated by your whole family which is not what i think you want to do considering that you are only 15.
2007-10-27 17:59:22 · answer #10 · answered by *Young & Beautiful* 2 · 4⤊ 2⤋