Why am I so invisible to everyone?

Question

I know that im quiet and shy to people I dont know, which is part of it, but no one ever tries to talk to me or start a conversation. Even when Im with my friends at a football game or something (Im in high school), I can walk away for 15 mins with out anyone noticing. Its not like Im hideous either, so why am i so invisible?

Its not that i dont talk, I just physically cant talk loudly.

Also, how does one open up to other people. . . ive been trying, but something holds me back

Answer 1

I used to be overly shy too. For me, once high school ended I started to come out of my shell. I realized got over my fear of rejection by figuring out that its OK for some people to not like you. Its not always your fault.

For you, I think it's best if you are the one to break the ice. The more you do it the easier it becomes. You'd be surprised at how many people talk to you if you took it upon yourself to talk to someone.

Answer 2

You hit the nail on the head, it's because you are quiet and shy.
What you need to do, is not to wait for someone to talk to you, you start the conversation.
It's not that hard, as I am sure with family and friends you have no problems.
It depends on where you are, if you are a ball game, ask someone, what he thinks about the game, or to explain something to you, about the rules perhaps.
Listen when others are talking, and join in, once in, you can become part of the conversation.
People don't seem to miss you when you are gone, because, really, you weren't there with them.
You never joined in, with them.
So just be more involved, and when you hear something being said, that you know something about, just put in your two cents worth.
It's a bit hard at first, but with practice, it gets easier. And when people know you will join in, they will include you in.
So pretty soon, you will be invisible again
I was like that when I was young, but not, they have a hard time shutting me up now, lol So just jump in there, and if they don't hear you at first, try again, a bit louder.
Don 't shout, but don't fade into the background either.
Practice makes perfect. you have to learn how to walk, and talk and ride a bike and drive a car. Socials skills are just the same, they have to be learned and practiced.
Remember you too, can be the life of the party.
Read some books, learn some jokes, it's not rocket science hon. Good luck

Answer 3

I've always been extremely shy and quiet, and although that hasn't changed, I've learned to use it to my advantage a little bit. First off, being as quiet as you are, people sometimes don't know how to take it - especially with you being in high school. Most people around that age are obstreperous and loud.

As time went by, I didn't realize how close-minded I was. I would barely open up to anyone, and it was like I was shielding myself. The more open you are, the more people will feel like they can approach you.

Not too long ago, I got put in a Foundations class. There was a girl in that class that always sat alone in the back of the room. After getting aggrivated with the people sitting around me, I decided to take an empty seat beside her one day. We started talking, and we got along perfectly. She had always been in my grade, but we had never spoken much. 2 months later, and we're practically best friends.

Try talking to someone that you've never talked to, or try joining in more conversations.

Answer 4

Try this as an experiment when u talk talk a liitle loufer than normal, not exactly screaming also try cracking jokes. br fun and be exciting

Answer 5

You have to make yourself approachable. First thing you have to do is learn to love yourself. Then you will be happy doing whatever, and you will put off a good "aura" about you, so people will be more likely to approach you. Good luck!

Answer 6

I'm used to be the same way [and still kind of am], just start talking more and make more plans with your friends. they'll start wanting to hangout more and never want you to leave

Answer 7

the point of life is to have fun!
if you want people to notice you, act like you want to be noticed!
be fun and carefree, and people will really enjoy being around you!