I have a friend who is in desperate need of an answer. She is confused about ending her marriage, her husband has been physically abusive to her in the past. They have 2 young children. Her husband is very jealous and selfish. She recently became involved with someone else because he gives her that emotional and physical connection her husband was and is incapable of doing. In order for her to decide one way or the other, do you think she needs to tell her husband?
2007-10-27 16:33:05 · 16 answers · asked by Ali Cat 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
She needs to leave him, and end it at that. She doesn't owe him a reason. I'm sure he can think of one of his own, seeing as how he physically abused her. The second he hit me, I'd be walking out the door. It's foolish to stick around any longer.
2007-10-27 16:39:55 · answer #1 · answered by Abby 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No. She needs to stop the relationship with the other guy and deal with leaving her abusive husband. She needs to recover from the abuse, and then move on after that.
If the husband finds out about the other guy, she could be headed for trouble. Does Nicole Brown Simpson ring a bell? Jealous, ex-husband, and even though they were divorced, he still killed her.
That's what some abusers are capable of, so she shouldn't give him anything to provoke him because her life could be in danger.
2007-10-27 23:40:33 · answer #2 · answered by I do 26.2 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why tell him at all, and why on earth have an affair? My God, I lived in an abusive household (stepdad) and the husband WILL find out. I fear for the kids and the woman. Are you sure this story is legit? Women who are truly victims of domestic violence have neither the free time (husbands won't allow it) or the nerve to try something as deadly as an affair. Something isn't right with this.
2007-10-28 00:03:02 · answer #3 · answered by Magaroni 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The answer should be obvious-husband is physically abusive. With that your friend should leave especially with two children that are involved. She needs to stay with the person she's seeing now. I wish her good luck with this situation.
2007-10-27 23:39:23 · answer #4 · answered by ajkoolkats 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, she does not need to tell her husband about the affair. All that will do is make him abuse her more. She needs to get out of his life. Move off, and move on. She needs to file for a divorce and if need be, she needs to file a restraining order against him. NO one deserves to be abused, whether physcial, mental or emotionally ! The only way she will ever get her life together is to divorce this person and move on with her life. Please tell her she can get help thru her local department of family and children services. There are alot of people out there that will help her and her children escape this abuse. I will pray that God will keep her and children safe until she has time to get out..And PLEASE tell her not to involve the new man in all of this, all it will do is make matters worse.
2007-10-27 23:47:56 · answer #5 · answered by lucylocket7258 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If her husband is physicallly abrusive to her do you think he would stand for his wife messing around on him i wouldnt tell him this at all . She should think twice before ending her marriage because if this man is physically abrusive to her in the past than she should have not waited to have children to want to get out.
my prayers go out to her and her family the choice is hers not mines.
best of luck
2007-10-27 23:43:40 · answer #6 · answered by mmurray001 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i wouldnt tell him of the other person due to him being abusive that could be the wrong thing to do. but she needs to either tell her hubby shes living or if shes afraid of him she can leave him a note and take the kids and leave him when hes working or something like that.. its easy to turn to someone else when your living in a nightmare at home. either way she needs to get out of that abusive relationship. good luck
2007-10-27 23:38:02 · answer #7 · answered by Kat 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your friend needs to make sure the Health insurance policies are up to date, and paid in full, if she is going to tell him. No, what she needs to do, is find a lawyer and retain a lawyer, and get an order of protection, and get out of the relationship as fast as she can.
2007-10-27 23:55:26 · answer #8 · answered by junebug 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO! If he is physically abusive then all this will do is make him hurt her more. Get a lawyer and get out. The soon-to-be Ex will find out about her boyfriend after the divorce.
2007-10-27 23:36:10 · answer #9 · answered by baseballdad69 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel any partner should just walk out the door the moment physical abuse starts. No negotiation, just go.
Why grace the pig with an explanation when he will never understand anyway. Telling him is only going to endanger her anyway.
2007-10-27 23:36:35 · answer #10 · answered by philip_jones2003 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋