This friend is of the opposite sex (not and x just old friend) and spoke badly of my wife in front of me and my family memebers.... what would you do in that situation? My wife feels it is my place to speak up and take up for her what do you think? Should I have just laughed it off like I did or should I have called her out on it?
2007-10-27 16:19:12 · 21 answers · asked by LILBITOFKY 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I really love my wife and she is a really good person. The worst thing was this friend had never met my wife before she had just seen her that day and worse of all it was at the funeral home during visitation for my dad......
2007-10-27 16:26:01 · update #1
If my husband didn't stick up for me LOUDLY, I'd be soooo hurt! She doesn't sound like a friend in my opinion either.
Sounds like a friendship that would take down a marriage.
Call her now INFRONT of your wife and tell her to f**k off.
2007-10-27 16:25:08 · answer #1 · answered by rachel t 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that in this kind of situation, being as tactful as possible usually works. You could say something like " I don't think that was called for and I would expect more than that from someone who is supposed to be my friend. This works both ways, whether you are a man or a woman, you sort of expect your significant other to take your side and stand up for you. Getting all bent out of shape over it and calling the other person names is no way to handle it. You just end up looking like as big a fool as the person who made the comments in the first place.
2007-10-27 23:26:54 · answer #2 · answered by Nikki N 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would definitely say something. what right does she have to come in and speak rudely in front of you and your family, about someone who is a part of your family? No, you should not have laughed it off, i would be very offended, and demand an apology, or end the relationship, or else she really does not care about your happiness, or she would have never said it in the first place.
2007-10-27 23:23:55 · answer #3 · answered by ♥mama♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her that was very inappropriate, right there, on the spot.
Why is that hard for you to conceive? I am black my fiance is white, if my man stands there while folks are cracking on me - well first I will give him a minute... then I will curse out the friend and give him hell too. You can do it via the high ground, but I don't openly disrespect my "friends" partners. She is not a friend she is someone you have known for awhile - don't get the two twisted.
2007-10-27 23:25:01 · answer #4 · answered by Lissa M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well first of all you can't change the past if you already laughed it off then thats what you did and you can't change that. But I think you should have stood up for your wife. I mean she is your wife and all. Maybe you should appoligize to your wife for not standing up for her. That is what I would do, but I'm a girl so I would be standing up for my husband.
2007-10-27 23:23:57 · answer #5 · answered by soda_pop_girl000 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Definitely call her out on it. That was very inappropriate. Even if you don't think what she said was a big deal your wife was clearly disrespected. You don't have to start a huge fight with your old friend, just casually let her know what she said was not appreciated and you would like her to show more respect to your wife.
2007-10-27 23:23:31 · answer #6 · answered by Rosha N 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In front of your family, too? Not cool. I think you probably did the best thing- to not make a scene. But call your friend, or sit them down and let them know that their actions were not appreciated. That you love your wife and won't tolorate anyone speaking badly about them.
2007-10-27 23:22:46 · answer #7 · answered by chica 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should have walked away from her and left her standing alone. Sometimes the best way to get the point across that someone has their foot in their mouth is dead silence. In defense of you, I am sure that you were totally stunned that someone would be so bold and stupid as to say something hurtful to your face. Plainly, this woman is NOT your friend.
2007-10-27 23:36:14 · answer #8 · answered by Mama Mia 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Did you give her any reasons to speak poorly about your wife?
Either way, you should have nipped that in the bud right away in front of everyone, because what gave her the right to do that in front of you, her and your family?
With friends like that, who needs enemies?
2007-10-27 23:25:02 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If this is YOUR old friend...you should have spoke up on behalf of your wife. If it was just someone neither of you knew, then it would be your wife's place to take up for herself....but I agree with your wife. Your friend, you need to defend your wife.
2007-10-27 23:24:03 · answer #10 · answered by batsey99 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋