How do you carry on when you feel like giving up?

Question

When life isn't going your way and you stick it out but it doesn't get better and you can't see a way out, and suddenly the whole thing doesn't seem worth it anymore and you feel like ending it all,
what should you do?

Answer 1

I have been through some rough times expecially the last few years, Wife having cancer and fighting it and beating it, then winding up in intensive care for 12 weeeks, then passing away. I have this little magnetic sign on the frig door that I see ever time I open it. The little sign says. "One day at a time". Thats what I do, take every thing one day at a time.

Answer 2

First off, good question. I have felt this way many times in my short life, and somehow, I've managed to make it.

Our lives are a gift, apparently. We were created to live, and if we do not to the fullest, then our whole existence becomes meaningless. However, we chose to see the glass half empty rather than half full. When such state of mind occurs, we refuse to ask ourselves 'How can I make this get better?' and instead opt for the easier 'Can this get any worse?' And of course, we come up with only one answer, 'No' and prove ourselves wrong.

How to carry on when in such a state:
It won't last forever. What goes up must come down, especially with life. Nobody is happy forever and vice-versa.
Distract Yourself. You can't worry about it if you're not thinking about it, right? Take up a hobby, and it doesn't matter if you're good at it or not, it's something you love to do.
Talk to someone. More often than not, friends, or sometimes complete strangers (such as expensive psychiatrists) will be able to show you the good things about your life that you are missing.
If all else fails... See a doctor. It may be depression. If it is, He/She will prescribe mood elevators.

Remember, it doesn't last forever. Suicide is really cowardly, leaving all the ones that love you (even if you don't know it) behind. We were created to live, not to die.

Why take the brick road when you can walk through the garden?

Answer 3

Your not giving much information. Are you speaking about relationships, family, friends, finances? I'll just assume your speaking of life in general. Life for many of us doesn't go our way. Unless we're Oprah Winfrey, Donald Trump or the likes of them, we all have problems ( believe me, they do to.) Sometimes we make our own situations the way they are. Sometimes it's just that things seem to go wrong no matter what we do. Life never promises to always be good. A lot depends on you. Perhaps a destroyed or unfaithful relationship, learn from it. Perhaps an unhappy or abusive marriage or childhood. Get out of it. Seek professional help. You sound very much like a pestimist. Give yourself a break (and possibly everyone you come in contact with.) Your attitude toward life can make all the difference. Everyday is a challenge. The same job, school, family, etc. Look at it from a different viewpoint. Tell yourself that you are going to be and do the best you can. Nothing else can be expected from you. Don't ever give up. Maybe if you can keep in mind how blessed you are. You obviously have a computer or you wouldn' be writing, a home where the computer is set up, food to eat, etc. etc. Now, think of those who have no shelter, no food, no employment, the sick, the children. I can go on and on but you need to give thought to this. You should give thanks everyday that you wake up. You may very well be depressed. Seek help! No one is ever "always" happy. We need a little rain in order to appreciate and enjoy the sunshine. Life is pretty much what we make it. Don't give up. Look up.

Answer 4

Keep going, you're very near the end of the tunnel. There's always light at the end of the tunnel. Weeping may remain for a night but rejoicing comes in the morning. Gos is not sleeping, He's always awake. I may sound weird - but it's the only best way out - Pray to God. I've been in that situation, where my businesses folded-up, leaving huge debts, my family left me, I have no penny in my pocket.

I wanted to end my life then, but I chose to live. I prayed, and slowly, what I lost kept coming back. And today, what was Iost materially has been doubled by God through fervent prayers. I have good great business, I can help people out. And my family is about to be whole again. I am still praying until now for continued blessings. And, am now in the period of thanking Him through prayers.

Again, may I say: There's always light at the end of the tunnel. Weeping may remain for a night but rejoicing comes in the morning.

Answer 5

Hey Yahoo-buddy, life is hard for everybody sometimes.
Everyone feels like giving up during the course of life. That's just how it is. Don't give up, though. Whatever it is that brings you the most joy, do that. Whether it be music, certain friends, a book, a certain place, just do that until this passes. It will pass and you will grow from this hardship.

I know how u feel. Life can really turn you upside down sometimes! But stay strong because Life also has some very awesome moments that you don't wanna miss!

Answer 6

I always remember that first off, there is nothing that God will put in front of me if I can't handle it. I may need His help along the way, but I'll make it.

I also call my mom when I'm having a rough day. Even though we live far apart, and there's a 5 hour time difference, I can call her anytime, and hearing her voice always cheers me up.

There's some good quotes out there too, that help me along. Here are a few of my favorites, some from movies, and some from real life.

Jonathan Larson's 'Rent'
Forget regret, or life is yours to miss.

I can't control my destiny. I trust my soul, my only goal is just to be.

No one can make you feel inferior without your consent. -- Eleanor Roosevelt

Music also helps me. Fighter, by Christina Aguilera, River and The Dance, both by Garth Brooks are a few of my favorites.

Answer 7

Go see your doctor and share what your'e feeling. He/she may be able to help with an anti-depressant. Then.......
Watch a sunrise. Listen to the birds as they chatter and sing in the morning. Go see a Minister. Sometimes just having someone to listen to you takes a great deal off the stress-o-meter. Take a walk in a park. Watch some butterflies twitter about in their eprsuit of nectar.
Then, go watch a funny movie. Then watch another one.

When you start to notice the beauty of things in the world around you, you'll start to feel better.
It'll be a slow going trail to walk but in time you'll be feeling better than you have and be thankful that you didn't give up.

Answer 8

I won't lie to you. I've had a rough life. Everyone I've had relationships with has abused me and treated me terribly (friends, boyfriends, etc.,). It got to the point where about six months ago I tried to commit suicide. I felt let down, and alone. And the weird thing was that I felt worse after trying to end my life then I did earlier.

No one had answers. No one helped me. So I reached out to someone I didn't ever expect to: God. I'm not going to preach at you or anything...I hate it when people do that. But I realized He's the only one that didn't hurt me, and that I survived because He has bigger plans for me. Sure, life's not a tiptoe through the tulips but, with God I know I'll make it through. He's the perfect father, and my only true friend. I really hope that helps.

Answer 9

When I feel like that, I open up my bible, pray, and search for guidance. Going to church helps too, and calling a friend who is a very wise, strong Christian who can help pray with me and talk me through things.
I also think about the things and people who I would miss and who would miss me if I were gone. And I could never hurt myself and cause my family that kind of anguish. I realized it is not MY choice on when I leave this world. If I die tomorrow, I might even be glad to know it, but it will because of some accident, heart attack, or whatever, and not my own fault. Nobody's gonna pin that on me!

God bless you and keep yo. I will pray with you tonight.

Answer 10

You're human. At some point every person in the world will have thoughts like those. You have to remember that there is someone out there who will help you. A therapist of a good friend who will stand by you and help you through it. You just have to talk to about it someone, whether it be a friend, a family member, a priest (or if you're not christian the person from your religion that is like a priest).

All I do is remember that I have people who love me and will help me. I know that they will miss me if I go and I know I don't want them to feel that way.