I moved to NY and my ex is in LA,I won't be moving back to LA until April.The reason he is my ex is because, well we weren't ready to be in a relationship, and long distance relationships don't work anyway.Since we aren't together dating other people is an issue we try not to get into because we both believe if your not with someone they are free to live how they want (crazy I know, but please do not judge us.)Anyway, we talk on the phone everyday for hours at a time.Nothing has changed since I came out here last month, we still love each other and have hopes of being in a relationship ONE DAY. We are still young, 21, and don't want to rush into anything and do anything we'll regret. So we are taking it slow.The problem is though, even though we may be dating others.The pain of being so far runs deep. I miss him so much that it hurts.I know that in life there's no guarantees and us getting back together is no exception. I refuse to lose hope, Am I crazy for having faith in us?
2007-10-27 15:45:54 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
its always good to have faith
2007-10-27 15:49:01 · answer #1 · answered by alliewv30 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't see why you you guys couldn't wait for each other.
I don't know where you got the idea that long distance relationships don't work maybe you over herd it alot coming out of people who aren't patient and cannot handle true relationships. But I've had great long distance relationships.
And our military troops have no choice but to keep their wives and children on any type of contact. And yes it still works out , Yes its hard but its worth it. April is not so far by the way...If you haven't notice Time is speeding up. I think that if you both really care for each other and are really meant to be
you will find a way and it will happen.
The reason I am being bold on this subject is because I cannot understand why you make yourselves suffer when you really don't have to. I mean I have pen pals in prison who won't be getting out soon yet their wives are on stand by for when that day comes they will be ready to receive their husbands.
They are willing to wait- You know why?
Because they love their man.
and i am talking about YEARS you are talking about months.
So i do not comprehend.
What ever happens in your life I wish you the best in the world
know that you are stronger than you think you are
Never underestimate yourself.
:)
2007-10-27 16:06:21 · answer #2 · answered by Wicked Aliens 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you are so far from crazy. I live in New Orleans and after the Hurricane situation I thought me and my bf was never going to see each other again. He started looking for jobs in TX I thought the stress of the situation was going to rip us apart and it was very painful being apart, I cried every night including when he finally came to get me. It happens when you love some one just live your life don't do anything to regret and I am sure from what you say you two will be together again some day.
2007-10-27 16:01:55 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes ive missed someone so much it hurts and yes long distance relationships can work if its meant to work.
my husband is from jersey and i moved far away. we talked on the phone all the time we worked but we made ways to talk andsee e other after about 7 months we met half way moved to atlanta and been married for 4 years now.
i use to cry and i never showed my feeling like that for someone, he was 28 i was 26 so we werent like "puppy love" we believed that when you truly desire and want something in life nothing can get in yourway. Ive neverbeen happier.
talk to him about your feeling ok maybe he feels the same way. if he misses you so bad like this then its meant to be! you find a way to make it work! or just let it go!
2007-10-27 15:53:58 · answer #4 · answered by laylajai74 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You seem to know that it will be very hard for a relationship to last when it is this far apart. Stay friends keep in touch but try and knock some things off your: Things to do before I die list, go out and do stuff you want to do. You only live once as far as we know make it count for you. He might be the one that got away. Listen to a Garth brooks song called "unanswered prayers" I know it is country but a good song.
2007-10-27 15:57:09 · answer #5 · answered by hpasi923 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. I know someone who's in the same situation as you. Yeah, they miss each other more and more each day. BUT they aren't losing hope. They know that someday, they'll get back together again. BUT both of them should have FAITH and HOPE. Love isn't a one-way road, after all. GOOD LUCK! =)
2007-10-27 15:50:22 · answer #6 · answered by :) 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes i have been there and by god it hurt . it broke my heart in two .He was my first love we were living together i was 8mths pregnant with our first child he had a Harley which he rode every day to work and home again on night when he was 4 hours late i started to get worried as he would ring any way there was a knock at the door 2 police told me that he has crashed hit a power pole and was killed instantly .A mth later i had a little boy i named him after his farther but i still see my love every day when i look at my 24 year old son
2007-10-27 16:08:07 · answer #7 · answered by this account is no longer in use 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you love him, then you are not crazy! i am married and my husband has been away from me and our son for over 15 months now for circumstances that could not be avoided. our situation may be different, but it still physically hurts to be away from him. he left when our son was only 2 weeks old. i hurt for myself, for my son, and for what my husband has missed. i have remained and will remain true and faithful to my husband and i have hopes that he will return soon. young really does not have much to do with love...i am only 25 myself. you just have to follow the plan that God has for you...that is what i am doing. i let Him guide and direct me and that way, i know i can't go wrong. i hope that if it is meant to be for you and your bf, that all works out fine for the both of you. good luck and God bless.
2007-10-27 15:55:35 · answer #8 · answered by jenn4chrisphillips 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you're definitely not crazy.
love is an intense emotion.
it can make you feel like you're on top of the world sometimes, but other times you may feel like jumping off a cliff.
something that may help is writing letters to each other in addition to talking on the phone. you can keep his letters with you and whenever you're in doubt just pull it out and read it over, it will comfort you to actually have a visual of how much he cares, no matter how far away he is.
best of luck! :)
2007-10-27 15:54:24 · answer #9 · answered by j_phresh 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are not crazy, just in love, some relationships grow even stronger because of distance. Good Luck.
2007-10-27 15:55:17 · answer #10 · answered by browneyes 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
HELL NO!! you needa hold on to this. if you are listening to your intuition then you cant go wrong...just do what feels right...and you said you want to hold on...that must mean that your suposed to. and yes i have missed someone so much that it hurts...if you look at most of my questions...its about a girl that i was in love with...im a girl too and the other girl was straight...and when she found out she didnt talk to me unless she was saying "get outta my life" or some **** like that...and iono y but when i was crying about her one night i wanted her to forgive me SOO bad that it dragged me to the floor and i couldnt give up because something in my stomach hurt and was...well i felt anxious for some reason...and i just felt like something was being danggled in my face and i was running to it as fast as i can but it was just moving away from me and i knew that all i could do was give up because thats as close as i was ever going to get from then on...but you seem like you are inlove and you shouldnt let that go.... hold on as long as you can...
2007-10-27 15:53:17 · answer #11 · answered by bisexualgirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋