Why is all this happening at once? It's too much!?

Question

I don't understand what is happening to my life. Last month I got fired from my job, this month my car breaks down and every guy that I try to open my heart to, treats me like a hooker and treats me good one minute and like crap the next.

I'm such a good person, not a perfect person, but I don't deserve all of this, at all. I don't understand why this is happening to me. I have never met anyone that has had all of this happen to them in a matter of months. My rent is due in 9 days, I have no money at all, no job, bills up to the ceiling and my family has financial problems of their own and can't help me at this time. I've heard the phrase "Sorry, I'm broke", more times than I can count and I don't know what the hell to do. Then when you turn around and want to make some fast money, doing something dancing or something, people want to judge you for that too. I just can't seem to win in this life.

-Knowledge24

Answer 1

Aww girl... I would give you a hug right now. Honey, you have been through a lot, and I understand that it's hard. It's stressful and emotionally tiring. But, first thing you do is relax:
1) calm down
2) take a hot bath with bubbles (I know that it sounds childish, but it really helps while you mull things over)
3) don't be so hard on yourself, change your thinking a bit
4) drink some nice hot chocolate milk
5) reassure yourself that you will get on track in no time. NEVER say you can't. becuase you can, sweetie. It helps for you to believe in yourself.

Now, sweetheart, your second step is to think logically:
1) take action
2) look for financial aid
3) talk to your landlord, a mature talk and reassure her you will pay it by a certain time
4) Meanwhile, accept any jobs that you can get
5) don't listen to anyone about how they judge you, know in your heart that they have no right to tell you what they think when they can't help you. You have got to do it your way, honey.
6) Take odd jobs, part times in department stores, apply to McDonald's...
7) continue on applying for jobs

Third step is for you to keep balance:
1) don't go out drinking, not only is it bad for your health, it endangers you
2) this is not a good time to start a relationship. becuase when women are stressed out, we tend to pick up horrible men, not that it is any of our fault.
3) always treat yourself. Watch a movie or do something fun that does not involve spending money at the end of the long day that you have had.

Overall, you have to do exactly this, and I promise you things will turn for the better. You are a good person, although not perfect, good people come to good ends. Don't worry yourself honey.
Let me know how you are.

Answer 2

First sorry for the situation. Second sometimes people go through this. In a matter of 3 weeks I lost 4 family members. Recently I lost my job after quiting a job I hate so I had to go back. My house got flooded with 41/2 feet of water sometimes things happen it does not matter if you are a good person or not I believe things happen to a reason but you have to be patient and work through it and sooner or later you will find out some believe that these things happen to make you stronger. First thing Monday morning get up and get on the bus and hunt for a job.

Answer 3

I know exactly how you feel.
This year I have had 2 miscarriages, 2 lung infections and bill collectors hasselling me & now my pay hasn't gone in and my mortgage company is charging me with defaults.

You need to just deal with one thing at a time. Right now your money situation seems the worst but if your gonna dance or whatever, do it just for the money and don't get involoved with anyone until it's sorted. Meanwhile keep looking for another job and don't let yourself become self depressed about it all.
I firmly believe that these kinds of events can only make us stronger as people as long as you don't sell yourself out.

Good luck and hope everything comes together for you

Answer 4

You've fallen prey to Morton's law.

You know the Morton salt box, with the girl and the umbrella?

"When it rains, it pours"

Morton is playing up the fact that they've added a chemical to keep the salt from clumping in humid weather, but the saying has been around for centuries. It means "you rarely have a little misfortune, it's either a lot, or none at all."

You just can't seem to win in this life? Well, maybe, but it's the only life you have, at least for now, so like the rest of us, you will have to muddle through.

Answer 5

When it rains, it pours, huh. Sometimes when I get a cascade of bad, I start thinking about a total change. Maybe it's time to think about moving to a totally different city, or going to school, or changing job direction. If you call your landlord, maybe the two of you can work out an agreement. It sounds like you're stuck in the same cycle. Think about shaking it up... change where you are. Maybe what's around you is holding you back from your true potential. Sell the car. Use the money for a bus ticket. Get out of there.

Answer 6

Let's see.....hmmmmm
You think you are alone? You're NOT. I was laid off 9 weeks ago. I'm almost 50. I have a drug addicted son who stole everything from us -- I've had breast cancer, we lost our home, our credit it destroyed completely, no one in our family can help either. My mom, my dad and my brother are all deceased. My drug addict may be dead -- we don't know.
The only thing I can say is there are resources out there. We were almost totally homeless once because of a job loss and Salvation Army helped us pay rent. THANK GOD and some good people on earth who help. THERE ARE resources although because we live in the USA and so many of us are in trouble anymore, they are getting slim. I haven't had health insurance in ages and therefore can't even get to a doctor -- oh, have high blood pressure too!!!!!

Answer 7

I'm sorry you're having such a hard time at the min. I know it sounds a bit feeble, but it will get better.

As for the dancing/judging thing....f*** 'em!!! If you're earning the money to keep yourself, then it has nothing to do with these people AT ALL how you earn it - plus they'll be jealous cos if you can dance for work, then you obviously have a great body (hey, I'm jealous now!!lol but not judging *smile*)

Answer 8

If you are dancing to make a fast buck, perhaps the guys you are picking up judge you on that, and feel they have a right to treat you badly. Sounds like you need to look inward at why these things happen to you. Anyway of getting your job back?Talk to land lord and be honest and mature, and you are likely to go further. Perhaps a roommate could cut costs for you. You have your health, and that's important.

Answer 9

Have you thought that maybe the Lord is putting you to a test; to make you stronger?
I don't know, no one does, but you will learn more about handling "business" through this test that others will without it.
be assured, "this too shall pass".
Concentrate on finding work; any kind of honest work, even if it's "dancing". Take your time in working your way out of this hole, and once you begin to see some daylight, begin an "emergency fund" Don't let it happen again.
Blessings

Answer 10

Everyone goes through that phase in life when nothing seems to go right. Yeah, even the mega-rich people experience that. Maybe it's not in terms of finance...but who knows? They might have family fights once in a while. So don't lose hope! Someday, all of your problems will be gone and you can finally live normally. Good luck! =)