My husband has his own studio about 30 minutes from our house. He has been working nights and weekends lately because he is holding down two jobs. Decided to stop by one evening. The door was locked so I opened with my key. He was sitting on the sofa with a woman drinking liquor. She jumped up and left. I waited about 20 minutes, then took his phone and called her. She picked up the phone and said "What the _ ___ is going on!" He has also been talking to his ex-wife but lied about it. Saw the calls on the cellphone bill. How can I believe anything he says?
2007-10-27 15:08:16 · 43 answers · asked by Christine B 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
why would you believe anything he says? You have no reason to do so. Leave him.....he is cheating on you and will continue to do so.
2007-10-27 15:10:28 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 7⤊ 1⤋
Don't believe anything he says. He's cheating on you - and most likely, with more than one person. Many times, when a spouse, man or woman, sets up another residence, especially not too far from the marital home, he/she is using that space in order to have affairs.
Actually, I know three men who do this. It's sad and when a spouse finds out it is a huge betrayal. I bet you couldn't believe it yourself when you walked in on your husband and another woman drinking together.
You can't trust him until he proves he can be trusted again.
2007-10-27 15:26:41 · answer #2 · answered by 1+1=2 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't trust him. If he has gone so far as to lock his door and drink with this woman, who knows what else has gone on. Get rid of him. I know that sounds harsh, but if he loved you he wouldn't be doing this kind of stuff. why would you believe anything he says? You have no reason to do so. Leave him.....he is cheating on you and will continue to do so.
You cant. Go to a marriage councellor if you want to fix it. Or get divorced. if he's lying about things whats the point?
2007-10-27 15:15:18 · answer #3 · answered by Sanny 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Ok where does this begin, your husband is deffintly not being as faithful as he should be adn this is hard to hear, and fix! you need to consult him, there's a problem staring your marrige in the face. Bring it to a professional or you can try to fix it yourselfs but it is hard alot of anger may break out and there maybe a disconnection, but there is also a chance it may work. don't wait any longer, tell him you need to know the truth and you only want the best, only want to improve. your living the TV drama right now :( goodluck
2007-10-27 15:14:31 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Now you know why she is his 'ex-wife'. If he won't come clean and admit that he lied and take responsibility for it all; there is not much hope that you will be able to trust him again. Did he cheat on his first wife?
You shouldn't believe what he says as he has lied and deceived you. Trust must be earned back. It's up to him to prove to you that you can trust him; if not, better to get this man out of your life
2007-10-27 16:33:52 · answer #5 · answered by pussycat 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you didn't mention what he says or anything about him because, I would say, sitting on a couch and having a drink with a woman is not cheating. Also, I talk to my ex. I dont' want to, there just are things that have to be talked about sometimes.
However, I think you probably just left out some more details. You can't trust him...if you don't. Just like you can't make someone love you, you can't make them tell you the truth if they don't want to.
If it's worth it to you...give him time to earn your trust, if not then tell him you don't want to waste your life on this and move on. :(
2007-10-27 15:16:46 · answer #6 · answered by ∞ sky3000 ∞ 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why would you even bother to want to believe him. He hasn't given you a reason to believe him or believe in him.
He has an ex-wife, lied to her and will continue lying to you and whomever is the next wife.
Divorce him and make sure to get half of his studio or all of it. Make him pay for his lies.
2007-10-27 15:56:13 · answer #7 · answered by Ms. Angel.. 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you really need to sit down and talk to your husband about this. Dont snoop around, just bring it right up. Make sure he knows this is serious. If he refuses to talk something may be going on and you may need to figure out on your own. And if he really is seeing another woman behind your back take it into your hands from there.
2007-10-27 15:14:17 · answer #8 · answered by ChelseyChiller 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would sit down and talk with him. Ask him what is going on. Why he feels the need to lie? But you have to really listen to what he says. Then its up to you if you will forgive and forget or if you will hold it over his head.
Remind him it takes two to make a marriage work.
2007-10-27 15:12:43 · answer #9 · answered by aque_fairy 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Don't. He's clearly lying to you. A relationship is about trust, and this relationship has none of it because of the way he acts.
If you think your man is cheating, he is. Always trust your gut. And I know this is harsh to say, but get out while you can, and that should be sooner than later. You do not want to waste your days with a man who does this to you.
2007-10-27 15:12:20 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Yikes! I wouldn't. It sounds as though this has been a problem for you two in the past. Maybe trying to talk to him and get some honest answers would help, but would you trust anything he said? Good luck! I'm sorry!!
2007-10-27 15:12:16 · answer #11 · answered by darkphoenix278 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋