2007-10-27 14:37:54 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
what should i do?
2007-10-27 14:42:43 · update #1
i am sorry i left out i found naked pics of her on his computer and he was telling her he can't help he loves her and they were talking bad about me
2007-10-27 14:58:16 · update #2
Well I went through the same thing a few months back,... My husband is also in the Military. I guess I always expected it. I just didn't like the fact that he lied,... They think we're stupid. Well I don't know what to tell you cause I'm working on things myself,... if you wanna talk hit me up.
2007-10-27 17:22:22 · answer #1 · answered by so_delicious79 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I would honestly think hard and deep about divorce. I've never said that to anyone before but it just sounds like there is a huge elephant in the room. If he wants to be with another women and is cheating on you (and by the pictures and 'love' thing, he is) then I would accept it and find someone who is going to treat me with the respect I deserve.
If there is that love there between the both of you and you are both willing to work it out, than you should really go and talk to someone. There is going to be a huge trust issue here and it's not going to go away.
I feel for you and I wish you all the best. Chin up, another door will open for you.
2007-10-28 02:40:43 · answer #2 · answered by Kris 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow. Pics on his computer is all the evidence I need! But I know how you feel. My husband is in the Marines and I'v seen and hear about how soo many of these men take marriage and vows so lightly and look at cheating as a everyday thing. Its scary! I know that girl your husband has been with is probably one of those local wh*res. But I really believe cheating is a deal breaker. He betrayed you, broke not only your heart but also vows, and now what... does he expects you to forgive him? He knew what he was doing. I would leave!
2007-10-27 22:25:37 · answer #3 · answered by That Special Someone 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At first, I was going to answer your question by saying that it's only talking. That in itself is not fooling around and cheating. But then, I read the additional info. you posted re: naked photos. NOW, this is something I'd be concerned about, seriously. When you both are calm, tell him there's something you'd like to talk about, and tell him straight out, even tell him you came across the msgs. he sent about you. Tell him it hurt, and get an explanation. Read his body langauge, his eyes, his words - see what he says. Maybe seek couples counseling together if you want to work this out. Hope this works out for you.
2007-10-28 00:39:37 · answer #4 · answered by ? 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Talking is fine. Naked photos and talking bad about you is awful. Ask him if he wants to save your marriage. If he does, insist that he accompany you to marriage counseling and find out why he felt he had to engage in this type of thing with another woman. See what you can both do to make your marriage better. If he refuses to go, he is telling you that your marriage isn't all that important to him.
2007-10-27 22:03:06 · answer #5 · answered by Wiser1 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
This is way to vague. If they were just talking whats the harm. Did you talk with any males while he was away? Conversation is what people do all the time and mostly very innocently. Don't worry about such simple things and be glad he is safe. Good luck and happy life.
2007-10-27 21:48:32 · answer #6 · answered by zeldaba 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Okay, let's take the gender statement out of this and see how it sounds:
"My husband was talking to a person when he was in the military a couple months ago".
He's allowed to talk to people yes? Only if they have boy parts?
2007-10-27 21:43:09 · answer #7 · answered by ∞ sky3000 ∞ 5 · 3⤊ 1⤋
find out why he was talking to her could be innocent could be guilty it just depends . go with your gut and do what your gut tells you . if it sounds fishy then investigate and find out what went on and what is going on . good luck to you .okay since you found naked pics then you question him and ask him if they slept together and if they did then it should be over for you and you need to see a divorce lawyer and get everything you can from him . good luck dear .
2007-10-27 21:45:05 · answer #8 · answered by Kate T. 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
It depends on what you mean by 'talking'.
Im mean its a pretty general thing to do.
You cant do anything about people talking to each other its part of life.
You need to be more specific with your question.
2007-10-27 21:50:00 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Talking about what?
Since you've been married you've never talked to another man?
So what?
He came home didn't he...
Instead of fits of jealousy, work on improving your side of the relationship....
2007-10-27 21:47:30 · answer #10 · answered by Sophie B 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋