Men included as well as ladies have u ever suffered domestic violence?

Question

And when did u decide enough is enough.

Answer 1

Yes I did with my now ex partner, but I didnt really realise what it was. She used to punch me a few times early in our relationship but I never took much notice, but later on it was the mental abuse the lying to me about everything, the stealing from me, isolating me from every friend and every memeber of my family because they could see what she was doing to me and I always upon always stuck up for her which lost me everyone I became so mentally ill that I relied on her because I had nobody else to turn to and she used that to her advantage, she had affair after affair and obviously lied about them so I thought that I was going mad imagining it all, If i asked the time of day I would ahve to check myself because I just couldnt trust a word that came out of her mouth it was all lies. i felt so worthless i ended up in hspital after a failed suicide attempt. Eventually we split up and she kept phoning me and emailing me with threats or getting her family or friends to threaten me. Eventually i went to the Police and reported it, the Domestic Violence unit became involved and gave me leaflets about what was happening to me when i read them about not only is domestic Violence about punching or hurting somebody its mental abuse isolation that sort of thing I was physically sick I couldnt believe that is what she did to me i was ashamed. Anyway I am slowly getting over it now several years later i wont enter into another relationship that is to much for me but life is begining to return to normal

Answer 2

No, I have not. My husband and I know that one physical hit would be more than enough. We decided to walk away before we got to that point, and more importantly we made a pact to let the other walk away. We have been together for 20 years.
One hit, would be enough. No adult deserves to suffer domestic violence. If you are in such a situation, get out now.
There are shelters and hopefully family that will help you.

Answer 3

My mum (died at 64 from cancer) suffered domestic violence from my father for years. I used to lie in bed, hearing him beating her, but I was too young to stand up to him, I just bit the bedclothes and heard it. She was black and blue, and he gave her the same housekeeping money for years, and if she dared to say anything about it he would just beat her again, and tell her to work more hours. When I was 16 I left school (didnt want to) but I got a job and between us me and my mum rented a place and we got away from my father. THAT WAS WHEN WE DECIDED ENOUGH WAS ENOUGH. At least she was SAFE. No more black eyes, split lips, bruised faces, broken ribs ... How I miss her still, and how I still think what a terrible life she had until we got away ... I cooked for her and did her washing and just tried to take on everything to just TREAT her... When she contracted cancer I nursed her for just over 4 years and I was with her holding her hand in the hospice when she died.
I am her son. I think women need and deserve love, especially wives and mothers and daughters. I have a wife and I love her (we have been married almost 35 years), I had a mother, now dead, and I have four children, the youngest of which is an autistic daughter who is the treasure of my life.
As a child, I was subject to cruelty and abuse (from my father). But you have to get over it and look after other people. I have no idea at all of my father's whereabouts. I look after my sons, my daughters, my wife, and for a living a work in a nursing home, looking after old, sick people, I do that for 50 hours a week, and for another 20 hours a week I care for people in a hospice.
There are SO MANY people who just need to be looked after.

Answer 4

My first partner was a violent drunk, he left me with a few cuts and bruises before I got rid of him 16 years ago. We were together for over 4 years and had 2 children. Its OK for someone to say Once is enough and then they would be out of there, but when you are in a situation like that it is very hard to get away, as sometimes family never believe you that your partner can be abusive. I finally got free when my parents discovered what was happening and help me, and it took his parents almost 3 years after we split up to realise that their son was not the 'angel' he made out to be.

Answer 5

Once years ago...only let it happen the one time walked out and never looked back, was brought up men don't hit women and was not going to take the chance of it ever happening again, seen and heard of to many that do it to women or men, saying "it will never happen again" it should never happen in the first place and once is more than enough

Answer 6

Yes !!!!

Being old fashioned I would never hit a woman but have been hit by a previous gf in the past and eventually had enough and left in feb 06.

Answer 7

Trouble is i'm still with him. I've been in Women's Aid 4 times but now he knows i'm the boss. Sounds awful but i can't see a future for us. It's a long story to go into and there are 2 children (adults) with learning disabilities. That can't live on their own. So unless, someone comes up with a suggestion, i'm buggered.

Answer 8

Yes I have. I decided enough was enough when it happened in front of my son, and I didn't want him to have to witness that ever again.

Answer 9

Yes, I dated a man that mentally, verbally and physically abused my son and I... Enough was enough when he got angry at me and headed straight for my sons room to "take it out on him". I got inbetween them and God gave me the strength to make him get out of our lives.... You live and learn and keep moving forward!!!

Answer 10

I have....probably because i excepted it as normal from childhood

But when my son was old enough to witness the events...i left