I’ve been w/ this guy for 5 months it happened fast we got together moved n we fell n love & decided 2 have a baby we lived together until I found out I was Prego he kicked me out but were still a couple I now live w/ family I’m about 2 months pregnant & we R drifting apart @ first I would go see him every weekend & the past month I’ve only seen him 4 times we argue so much it makes me sick he doesn't show any feelings except anger 90% of the time which upset me more I think I’m understanding about it he just lost his MOM 6 months ago he’s cried a few times when things get really bad & told me that he hasn’t since his Father passed when he was 8 I think he does care but afraid 2 open up 2 me all the way maybe he think he's going 2 lose me too I don’t want 2 give up but it's hard 2 hold on 2 him when he pushes me away does anyone thinks I’m wrong 2 feel this way im not sure if he cares IF YOU LOVE SOMEONE WHEN DOES ONE SAY ENOUGH IS ENOUGH WHEN IF YOU JUST CAN’T SEEM TO GET ALONG????
2007-10-27 14:31:10 · 7 answers · asked by lost & confused!!!! HELP... 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Talk to him, ask him how he feels about you and his child. Does he want the baby at all now? Do you want it if he doesn't? Would you consider adoption? Tell him how you feel about the baby and ask how he feels. He may love the baby but has gotten over you it was a new relationship. He may not know how he feels. Explain that he is the babies father and did ask you to get pregnant so you feel he should act like a husband even if you aren't married. If you decide to raise this baby he will be paying child support for the next 18 years unless he gets custody then you will be paying child support.
Do not allow him to show anger explain that it upsets you and you will not put up with it. You may want to dump him even if he wants to see you once a week.
Have him attend anger management classes his anger is uncalled for if he asked you to be the mother of his child.
2007-10-27 15:10:30 · answer #1 · answered by shipwreck 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK.. it sounds like he wasn't as ready as he thought he was. Saying you want a baby, and actually having one, is a different thing. Also, when you become pregnant you become more emotional, therefore you may be a little bit more difficult to get along with then you realize. But, that doesn't excuse the fact, he let you leave somewhere he was suppose to be protecting you and his unborn child. Unless, he was doubting it was his. If he lost his father at a young age, then he should realize how important being a parent is a special thing, and shouldn't be taken for granted. I would give him a chance to miss you, and give him some breathing room. Then, I would sit him down, and tell him how it feels when you argue. That, you need him now, more than you did the day you fell in love with him. And, tell him that his child needs him. Tell him, that you know that this may be difficult for both of you, but with him and you together it will be easier. If he still doesn't get it, then honey I'm afraid he was never yours.
2007-10-27 14:57:09 · answer #2 · answered by junebug 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Welcome to the School of hard knocks. Lesson one- Wait for marriage to have sex. Two- Make sure He is mature in the areas of support and is responsible. Three-If he is augumentive, this is a sure sign of immaturity and needs to grow up.
Four- If you are pregnant, You both need to get your priorities straight. This child needs two loving parents who will love it, care for it, provide for it and teach it the difference between right and wrong. It doesn't matter how your past has been, it is time to quit the fighting and put your heads together and do everything that is right. You must work together and fighting will destroy everything you will try to build in your relationship. You must let love guide you and have others around you to help you. The child inside you, hears the words, knows your feelings, and can feel hurt and rejection and will mark it's way when the child is born. Give it a surrounding of love and peace daily, and if he is unwilling to be responsible in this, it is best to raise this child without those who are not out for it's very best interest. You have a long road ahead of you. And for those of us who pray, you and this situation will be in our prayers..If you need help, we are here for you.
2007-10-27 15:19:18 · answer #3 · answered by *DestinyPrince* 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
a baby, huh?...now that changes everything. what YOU gotta do is sit him down and lay it all out...ur future and the future of YOUR BABY!!! like it or not, both of you had made that decision, now the both of u will have to figure it out. BUT YOU CANNOT BLAME THE BABY FOR ANYTHING NOW OR IN THE FUTURE!!!!! but if you two cant get along rite now, then do wat ur gonna do but be strong and responsible...always do wats right. (It just makes life easier) he may be going thru some emotional ups n downs but thats wat life is. all u can really do is stand by him and provide that emotional support he's missing. u gotta let him do his thing too. as far as him pushing you away, it could be his emotions getting the best of him...fear, sadness, depression,...but you r a person too who deserves to be treated like a person. so wen u think enough is enough...it probably is. just be honest with yourself FIRST then u'll know wat comes next.
2007-10-27 14:51:27 · answer #4 · answered by BadBoy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The way he has treated you should tell you that it is enough. He throws you out and you stay with him? You do not need this stress. It is not good for you or for the baby. He shows you nothing but anger? Move on.
2007-10-27 14:57:00 · answer #5 · answered by kim h 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your Preg. with his kid and he throws you out and you have to resort to living with your parents again.. That was one MAJOR SLAP in the FACE ... now trates you like crap while your carrying his child loosing mother or not part of him is growing inside of you... If he cant respect you enough to be supportive of you during your pregnancy and be more caring and considerete to you period than its time to move on.. Love cant be one sided....
2007-10-27 14:46:33 · answer #6 · answered by ME 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
sometimes love just ain't enough ... and how old are you... and if you guys decided you BOTH wanted a baby and then when u found out you was prego and he kicked you out? that WAS messed up
2007-10-27 14:41:22 · answer #7 · answered by sweetcharity2007 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋